Despite their seemingly unbreakable armor, narcissistic men are actually very vulnerable underneath it all. They’re just brilliant at hiding their tenderness from women under their layers of manipulation, lies, illusion, unhealthy behaviors, and possibly playing around with your heart.
Have you ever found yourself in a romantic relationship, and you give him everything, and you’re left with nothing and you feel more powerless than ever before? And you still thought he was your ultimate soulmate or Twin Flame? It’s humbling–you feel drained and super confused as to why this happened to you…. He could be a narcissist man. Here are the 7 signs so you can tell for sure…
Here are the 7 Signs of the Narcissist Man
He has no boundaries and doesn’t want you to set any. If you don’t set your boundaries, you will be victimized by narcissists; narcissists energetically cord into your chakras and leech energy like “energy vampires,” and they’ll do the same with emotions, attention, physical space, finances…and pretty much anything! So set your boundaries and put up psychic protection as well.
He feeds off of your insecurity. He tells her she’s wrong, isn’t entitled to having what she wants, and puts her down to keep her small. If a woman is lonely and desperate and longing for love, she’s likely to attract someone is (a)is attracted to her neediness, and (b) is repulsed by her neediness like he was with his mother. The narcissist man feeds off of abuse and her fear of abandonment, as he has inwardly felt manipulated and abandoned by his co-dependent mother since early childhood. So, by finding a woman who is equally insecure, needy, and longing for love, she makes him feel important–but he has to put her into an insecure state to “keep her.” Macho men who put down women are an example of this. Deep down they’re the ones who are most afraid of being abandoned and heartbroken! That’s why it’s our job as women to take responsibility for our insecurity and heal our Divine Feminine Wounds.
He manipulates, takes without giving, and justifies it every time. An over-giver is always going to be his target, as he feels entitled to taking, taking, TAKING….He actually doesn’t feel strong and secure in the world without a woman’s presence, though that’s the last thing he’d admit. These manipulators often sleep around with women or are into serial monogamy. The narcissist man has unhealed Mother Wounds–as his mother didn’t set healthy boundaries and was either overly attached or detached. The narcissist man feeds off of his over-giving partner who often gives from guilt, hoping that he’ll stay if she is “good enough” to him.
He leads you to believe that he can give you the whole fairytale, but he never really does. The narcissist man needs his woman to believe that he’ll soon bring her what she wants, and thus attracts women who are often hopeless romantics, fantasizer types, and dreamers. Deep down these women are wounded by the patriarchy and lack self-esteem so they cannot ask for what they truly deserve. When you’re living in a fairytale waiting for prince charming but you don’t feel good enough, you settle for fakes.
He’s not a truth teller, he’s good at lies, and doing what it takes to get his way. He does this because deep down he doesn’t feel good enough to face the truth. He feels that without embellishing a little (or a lot) he’s not good enough. So he builds up a puffed up false ego that he hopes will attract women in awe. If this is you, if you’ve been duped by a liar, you’ll want to ask yourself, “Where do I feel small, and where am I lying to myself?” This type of man is magnetized to women who are naive and innocent, so make the effort to educate yourself about your circumstances, step into your power, and ask for what you’re worth. If this man can’t give it to you, the right one will!
Lack of empathy. He lacks empathy, you’re an empath. You’re feelin’ for two, baby! Where he can’t feel, you’re there holding the space for the emotional intelligence…but for him! The job of the empath is to feel how she is feeling, and not get stuck in how others are doing. While easier said than done, the empath female must say NO to any behaviors that feel like a violation. When she starts taking herself and her own emotions seriously, she’ll no longer keep attracting narcissists who don’t have the capacity for empathy.
He’s a perfectionist. Whether or not he’s trying to be perfect himself, he puts pressure on you either verbally or you just feel it, to be the perfect woman. He is controlling and seeks perfection, and projects this onto you. So maybe your diet to have the perfect body for him, say or do things to impress or become an overachiever at work…If you’re a perfectionist, end this cycle by choosing not to care about external appearances so much; instead go inward and work on the self-love. Then it’s certain that you’ll no longer magnetize this type of man!
Women, let me know what you felt hearing this list… Have you dated a narcissist? And why do you think you attracted this? What are you doing now to boost your self-worth to prevent these patterns from happening again? I would love to know in the comments below.
Elephants are a sign of the Divine Feminine, and while the Divine Feminine is awakening rapidly, we’re running out of time. We need to remain calm and steady, but we can’t keep waiting.
We have to let go of our perfectionist ways and take action. We must love ourselves first, feed the Feminine, and heal our wounds. This is a top priority. We also have to say NO to men who mistreat us, and nurture the little boys and also set healthy boundaries with them so they gain a sense of self.
One of my favorite things to do is donate a percentage of my income to saving the elephants. Click the link below in the description box to donate to the David Sheldrick Wildlife Trust and help an orphaned baby elephant rehabilitate. Your contribution is not only a cause for African Wildlife but a cause for healing the Divine Feminine Wounds.
Thank you so much, beloved…
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Feminine energy is a powerful healing energy that allows us to open to receiving. Feminine, referred to as yin energy in Traditional Chinese Medicine, is an energy that tends to be more calm, compassionate, and caring.
Without the feminine, we’re in trouble...
Everyone--both men and women--have masculine or feminine energy, and that these energies must be balanced. Many people, even women, are lacking feminine energy (or are hiding their feminine side) in the overly-masculine world.
In the modern world, women are expected to be more nurturing, soft, and beautiful while being successful and sexy. We’re expected to be mothers and CEO, romantics and leaders. The past history where women were once suppressed is crumbling as women quickly break the chains. We are calling out old behaviors, creating #metoomovements, and are stepping away from the patriarchy.
Here are the seven signs to tell if you have Twin Flame.
Sign No. 1: Something Has Always Been Missing
From birth you felt a really strong calling. You felt like something was missing, and you wanted to find it. You didn’t necessarily know what it was, but you just felt this like “ugh” feeling–this feeling–a strong desire.
Sign No. 2: Obsession
You have been obsessed with Twin Flames. You’re Googling, you’re checking out all the blogs, you maybe have been read books on Twin Flames, or perhaps you’ve hired a Twin Flame expert or coach. You are so into finding your beloved that you can’t get enough info about Twin Flames and aligning with yours!
Sign No. 3: Intense Relationships
You have been in many or at least a couple of really intense relationships. And you are soaking up all the knowledge and learning about Twin Flames from this experience. Whether the person you love is your Twin Flame or not, you are in love with learning… You love deep.
Sign No. 4: You’re a Love Machine
You are just a loving person. You care a great deal. You are PASSIONATE, and even though you may have highs and lows you’re a very loving tender being. You love the planet; this makes you a natural humanitarian and planetary healer.
Sign No. 5: You’re Here to Build the New Earth
You have a huge soul purpose and you want to build the New Earth. You know you’re not here to just have a cute little picket fence kinda nice life with your family. Instead, you’ve woken up to seeing a higher vision–you really wish share your purpose and gifts to heal the world.
Sign No. 6: You Are a Healer With a Purpose
You feel that you have been a healer in many lifetimes, and possibly have been persecuted, maybe even burned at the stake. You are an intuitive with a high level metaphysical skills set that goes beyond the physical world; you’ve woken up to this at least recently, if not as a child. Many of us wake up in different times in our lifetime but you have at least recently been feeling like you wish to share your healing gifts with the world and that you cannot just work nine to five in a soul-suckinng job. Your soul purpose drives you.
Sign No. 7: You Work Hard to Love Yourself
You are willing to do whatever it takes to heal all of you, all of your chakras, and you know that self-love is the only answer. You know that in order to manifest your Twin Flame (ultimate and holy union), you must heal and love thyself. You are so dedicated on your own healing journey that you are willing to do what it takes and receive the help to give you the fastest breakthroughs. You are aware that healing yourself isn’t not only for you or to attract your own beloved, it’s also for your family, your community, or for the clients/fans who follow you. You’re here to awaken and activate the planet by shifting consciousness, vibration, and taking action.. You can even become obsessed with learning new modalities of healing the planet and sometimes it keeps you up at night. You dream about shifting the planet, because you’re here to create the Ascension for humanity. You are constantly researching new methods, looking into self-development courses and maybe you’ve hired a ton of experts or healers to improve yourself.
These seven signs will help you determine that you are a Twin Flame, and whether you have a Twin Flame on this earth.
However, many believe that not everyone has a Twin Flame incarnate on the planet…
Are you one of them? Learn more here and let me know…
If you are a female on a Twin Flame Path, upgrade your love luck by signing up for your complimentary Twin Flame Ignition Kithere.
XO… lots of love!
Dr. Amanda Noelle, Mystical Matchmaker & Love Code Hacker
What Is Feminine Energy?
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Feminine energy is a powerful healing energy that allows us to open to receiving. Feminine, referred to as yin energy in Traditional Chinese Medicine, is an energy that tends to be more calm, compassionate, and caring.
Without the feminine, we’re in trouble...
Everyone--both men and women--have masculine or feminine energy, and that these energies must be balanced. Many people, even women, are lacking feminine energy (or are hiding their feminine side) in the overly-masculine world.
In the modern world, women are expected to be more nurturing, soft, and beautiful while being successful and sexy. We’re expected to be mothers and CEO, romantics and leaders. The past history where women were once suppressed is crumbling as women quickly break the chains. We are calling out old behaviors, creating #metoomovements, and are stepping away from the patriarchy.
Your false Twin Flame is a actually gift. While I know that a Twin Flame Counterfeit (as I call it) can bring up some of your biggest $h%t, he or she can also catalyze some of your biggest SHIFTS.
Your Twin Flame Counterfeit is a mere reflection of you. Or more accurately, he or she is a mirror reflection of you–helping you mirror those tricky blindspots so you can see where you must absolutely love yourself.
There are no mistakes within the Twin Flame Mirror, the mirror of love that reflects back to you how close you are to deep self-love.
I have helped hundreds of my clients to call in their Twin Flames, and almost every single one of them has gone through some sort of a harrowing situation with a false Twin Flame. It almost seems like a Twin Flame Attraction initiation rite!
Your Twin Flame is simply a mirror of your own self-love. So you may want to ask yourself, why did I attract this false Twin Flame?
I know it is not easy, it can be excruciatingly painful, humiliating, and very confusing. But you didn’t sign up for a life of easy and boring, at least not on the soul level!
Every fairytale has it’s goblins and evil queens. These energies get stuck to our Twin Flame mirrors and cause us to attract distortions of who we truly are.
The key to attracting your true Twin Flame vs a false Twin Flame or a Karmic Soulmate is that you must clear out all the Twin Flame Love Blocks that stop you from fully embracing yourself with the deepest Divine Love.
Divine Love is the glue that brings you and your Twin Flame so close to the mirror that you merge with your divine mirror.
You become one with your Twin Flame when you become one with your two inner halves.
To reunite with our Twin Flame, we are required to merge our polar halves of the Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine. The Divine Feminine corresponds to emotions, emotional intelligence, ocean waves of energy that arrive with unpredictability, chaos, improvisation, and flow. The Divine Masculine corresponds to the mind, intellect, linear energy, predictability, organization, structure, and planning.
The Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine are truly reflections of each other and cannot exist without each other. They are meant to be separate as much as they are meant to merge. There truly is no separation, only the illusion of separation.
Twin Flames are not really halves of the same soul at all–they’re much more than this. They are two full expressions of love expressed in the mirror. They are Twin Flame mirrors of the whole soul. They reflect the Divine Union of the Divine Feminine and the Divine Masculine counterparts. They reflect each other (not necessarily expressed as a male and female, as Twins can certainly be same-sex) in their same and polar-opposite aspects.
Why did you attract your Twin Flame Counterfeit–that false Twin Flame who is keeping you up at night crying yourself to sleep? You did it for the lessons of love. Deep divine love never leaves you or abandoned you, but you have in some small or perhaps not-so-small way, abandoned yourself. The golden opportunity of pain from a false Twin Flame is to heal this spot, the area that has perhaps long been abandoned. By lovers, parents, ancestors, and by your soul in many lifetimes.
Maybe you didn’t read the signs of the false Twin Flame and so you hit a massive Dark Night of the Soul. Yet such experiences allow us to reclaim parts of ourselves. By looking in the Twin Flame mirror at yourself when you are in the heartache or pain, you are allowed to fully focus on you. On picking yourself up. On loving the inner child. While this time may be tender, you are actually not heartbroken: you are heart broken OPEN!
Without this crevice in your heart, the light couldn’t shine through.
It is the role of the false Twin Flame to bring up your greatest fears around Twin Flame Separation. By cracking open your heart, you feel the deep separation of the Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine within your soul. You feel the deep separation of your Divine Self (I AM Self) and your human self. You feel this mirroring through many aspects of your life. It brings up the separation you feel from your community. The separation you felt as a child from certain family members. It brings up traumas and pains that may seem unrelated to the Twin Flame topic.
Truly, everything in our worlds relates to us, as we are the center of our own universe. You are the beautiful central axis of your Youniverse, despite what we are taught to believe. If you are not at the core of you, who is?
Unfortunately, so many people–women especially–are taught to deny themselves of a self. This has become a generational pattern that creates mental imbalances, mental illnesses, physical ailments, genetic diseases, and spiritual disconnects.
Without finding the self first, you will not find your Twin Flame.
We each have a self. We each need a self. We have been gifted this self from God/the Universe, and when we deny it and try to replace it with the love of another: a lover, a family member, a church member, a leader, a guru etc., we cannot experience the truest joy and divine bliss.
You are at the center of the atom. You are the neutron, with your arms being the Divine Feminine (electron) and the Divine masculine (proton). Your heart is that neutron, that neutral energy, and at the center of the heart lies the self. You cannot take the self away from the self, but you can deny it and forget it. But your self is alway there.
By falling in love with your self, you bring the gift to the world of an awakened one. You become the Beloved who can heal the planet starting at her own heart.
Getting your high-paying soulmate clients to sign up for your high-end coaching programs is just like getting your Twin Flame to sign up for the relationship with you. It comes from divine love and using the Law of Attraction, and it starts by being able to attract and recognize your soul family members. Twin Flame energy is reflected in every aspect of your life, not just through your Beloved. The quicker you harness it, the more Twin Flame Activation you’ll receive in all aspects of your life. Here’s a Twin Flame Hypnosis Meditation to help you attract your Twin Flame and ‘soulmate clients’ so that you can start brining your soul-family members into your energy field:
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I just enrolled another beautiful soulmate client today for my new VIP 9-month program, and my heart is pouring with joy! I think I’m in love <3. I love how attracting and enrolling clients is becoming an easy, pleasurable process. And even asking for the $$ wasn’t bad! In the past, it wasn’t so… I used to get knots in my tummy when I had to give free consultations and make sales calls. Yick! I just wanted it to be easy and not have to worry about money. I thought business meant busy-ness-in-pain! My inner perfectionist led me. I was always totally freaked about whether or not they’d like me, and I was desperate to receive the money because I had never had much. When I was making the sale, I felt like an awkward dork waiting for someone to ask me to prom, trying to hint at things or even asking and getting rejected. Thank God it’s not like that anymore, as I have figured out something I call ‘Seductive Selling!’
Seductive Selling
I have mastered getting my clients ‘turned on’ and begging for more. It’s magnetic instead of involving me chasing down clients energetically. Instead of me leaning towards them and bending over backwards, they are honoring my High Priestessesness. They love investing with me because it’s the best way to pamper themselves and honor the Goddess Within :). Seductive Selling is about getting your clients to know, see, feel, and vibe in your value. You get them juicy and excited about the potential for change that you can bring into their lives. It comes from a place of you being just a few steps ahead of them, of bringing this into your own life first, and by helping them traverse the gap. I also love teaching my own clients how to attract their ‘Soulmate Clients’ by getting clear on their soul-purposes, creating an ‘Aphrodisiac Marketing‘ strategy, tuning into their ‘Erotic Brand Equity’ and turning it into Holy MatriMoney! How? Through ‘Secuctive Selling,’ you get your future client excited by the power of your work and your soul-family connection. It’s almost the same as Twin Flame or soulmate love, or is in a sense a certain form of it.
Free client consultations are like speed dating.
During the free consultation, also known as a free strategy session or discovery session, your clients will be in a vibration of Divine Yes, and selling becomes like an easy seduction of someone who is meant to fall in love with you. These sessions are like 30-minutes or so speed dates to see if it’s a soulmate match. The more highly refined your marketing is with your soul-purpose message, the better potential clients you’ll attract to your strategy sessions. It’s all great practice for the Twin Flame, and it’s such a pleasurable way of doing BLI$$ness 🙂
The bottom line:
To harness Twin Flame Love, we have to tune into our soul purposes and learn how to attract our soul family. This takes finding our inner soul light. We must know on a soular and cellular level what our desires are, what our soul-purpose is, and become ecstatic about our lives. You must bubble up with emotion of how you’re going to change people’s lives and impact the world before it happens.
Your desire to spread your own ecstasy will blast your Law of Attraction skills through the roof. This goes for the TF and for your 6-figure BLI$$ness…Lots of love and Light,
Dr. Amanda Noelle, the Twin Flame Matchmaker, helps align women with their Twin Flame, their soul purpose, and their 6-figure BLI$$ so that they can heal the world and be in service to the Goddess.
I had an intense dream about Jezebel the other night, it was terrifying. I feel you High-Healed Priestesses out there should know about it so we can clear the type of energy attack that keeps the Divine Feminine within us terrified and not wanting to rise. Let’s clear the dark witchy energy that abuses us, keeps us playing small, and feeling afraid of the dark…
But who is Jezebel? And should we fear her? And how can we use Jezebel’s energy to restore the Divine Feminine and reclaim our power as High-Healed Priestesses (modern-day high priestess healers who are saving the planet while going high-end in their BLI$$nesses)?
Jezebel represents a dark side of the Divine Feminine, but she has a sacred purpose in rebirthing the Light. According to truthunity.net, the metaphysical meaning of Jezebel is: Jezebel, jez’-e-bel (Heb.)—intact; untouched; untouchable; unproductive; noncohabiting; without husband; chaste; virgin; adulterous; base; unexalted; licentious.
Jezebel was the daughter of Ethbaal, King of the Sidonians. In Biblical Hebrew Jezebel’s name means ‘there is no nobility’. Originally, her name meant ‘The Prince Baal exists.’ Baal was a weather god worshipped in the Syro-Palestinians.
Jezebel is an evil woman in the Bible (Revelation 2:20), but as with all evil, evil doesn’t really exist. It’s just where there is empty darkness, like a void, a canvass for the Light. Darkness is just the other side of the coin of Light, Light being the awakened other half. For each yin side (darkness) needs her yang (lightness) counterpart.
Everything starts in the darkness, and ends in light, and then returns again, only to complete the cycle. Eternally. All dark energies, entities, and human beings become awakened to Light, eventually. Darkness always becomes seeded with Light, because eve darkness loves the Light, as it loves itself (and the darkness is the Light).
Everything is simply a cycle and a play within polarity! And it can be really fun to witness, which is why we’re all here in the Third Dimension where things are slow and we live by experiencing polarity. Yet the Light always triumphs over Darkness in the the end (or in the bigger picture, since really there is no end). All we have to do is become conscious of what is there. Consciousness breeds and breathes Light. So whether there is darkness or Light in your life, become conscious of it; it will become Light, inevitably.
Darling, don’t be freaked out of the dark, darkness is simply here to hold your Light so you can illuminate it! It’s just a fun divine game we came up with in the collective consciousness. In our collective divine minds. So play, laugh, cry, giggle, you have nothing to lose!
Only the Light is real, and it’s eternal. There is no death in this game.
According to Wikipedia, Jezebel became associated with false prophets. In some interpretations, her dressing in finery and putting on makeup before her death led to the association of use of cosmetics with “painted women” or prostitutes.
We all have the Madonna and the whore in us, so let’s get over this limiting archetype and make friends with all sides of ourselves, including our dark sides. That takes courage and confronting our inner Jezebels, our own shadows, with love.
Behind the darkness is always the truth and beauty.
My crazy Jezebel exorcism dream
Wanna hear my crazy dream? I helped to exorcise Jezebel the other night on the astral plane while in sacred circle with a band of my High-Healed Priestess sisters. In my sleep, several of us High Priestess Professors at Aphrodite University were in a circle discussing how to raise the Divine Feminine. Suddenly, one of the women of the circle stood up, and spoke harshly about me; she tried to cast me out as if I were a heretic or demon. Half of the group stayed with me, and another half of the women became competitive, jealous, angry, and hurtful towards me. Classic cat-fight energy! Mrow! This is Jezebel: competitive, catty, fear-based, traumatizing, and deceiving. And yet she serves a Divine purpose…
The Girl Exorcist:
I knew I only had a moment before this ‘woman’ would talk people out of my visions, of Aphrodite University, and of rebuilding the goddess temples with me. So I stood up to her, and I told everyone in the group to look in her eyes. She had these strange blue eyes, they were glassy, and opaque. I told everyone in the group to shine love and stare into her eyes. Suddenly, this woman’s spirit was revealed – Jezebel – and she wasn’t of human origin. She had a emptiness to her, slightly reptilian, but she was more of a vibration of lack and emptiness – a hole without a soul. Behind her eyes were dark pits where love had never been laid. Jezebel cannot receive love, and she feeds off of our energy when we are not housed at love. Where our bodies, minds, and spirits aren’t flowing with loving energies. She’s not evil, she’s just a shadow of ourselves.
How to exorcise a demon
To exorcise her, I had to stand in my power and in my Divine Love. I started calling in the Christ Force energy in the form of golden light. I had to stay steady, even though I was trembling. When I went into fear, dark pins of pain shot into my root chakra and saw the image of sharp witch fingernails become inserted into my yoni (not so nice!). When I brought in more golden light, I awoke with a wave of powerful Divine Love; the pain cleared and I knew Jezebel returned to her origin of pure Divine Feminine love and beauty.
To exorcise an entity, you must come from Divine Love, or Christ Force energy. You have to overcome the fear and not surrender yourself to pain, fear, and punishment. Falling for that is falling for the oldest trick in the book. You have to avoid low-self esteem and fear, and step into self-love and unconditional Divine Love. How? By feelin’ it and choosing it!
When we heal our relationship with other High Priestesses, we clear out the shadow side of Jezebel.
To end subconscious hatred between women, and to step into 6-figure BLI$$ as High-Healed Priestesses, we need to stare down the Jezebels within each of us, with the deepest unconditional love of Mary Magdalene. We must take off our armor and put on our amour for each other ladies, and we’ll have a ball doing so!
I believe that Jezebel is one shade or one face of Mary Magdalene, bride of Christ. She has gained a bad reputation, but I think she is here to remind us that all sides of the Feminine need to be respected, seen, healed, and integrated. Jezebel is part of the Divine Feminine whole and we cannot leave her medicine out. She challenges us to remember our divinity; she tells us to forget our divine origins. And she has even forgotten herself and needs to be reminded of her own glory! She cannot corrupt you, unless you choose it my dear. Release the voice of her shadowy reflection, and it too will begin to sing the song of the most pure loving siren, of the Magdalene!
How to be safe from the darkness
To escape the darkness and any good dark night of the soul, you must not run. Stay, and look it head on with piercing eyes of Light and Love.
Be fierce in your love, let your Divine Love Flame burn. Whatever you do, do not surrender to fear. Always return to Divine Love as quickly as possible, and it will save you from any form of Darkness. Feel it burning inside you, let it explode in your heart. Honor the Shakinah in every woman, and when you see the false Feminine who states lies, who creates competition, limitation, jealousy, and who tries to possess your spirit, do not run. No, stare her down with love, look her in the eyes, and she will either join you in the Divine Feminine Rise, or she will leave you alone. Her darkness cannot survive in your Light. You are more magnificent and powerful beyond belief, my Little Shakinah sister.
Lots of love and Light,
Dr. Amanda Noelle is a Twin Flame Matchmaker helping single spiritual women attract their soul purpose, soulmate clients, and Twin Flame soulmates in no time! She is also the founder of Aphrodite University, the first Divine Feminine-based metaphysical university on the planet helping hippie chicks go high-end as 6 & 7-figure hip n’ chic healers.
Mild, medium, or HOT? Sometimes salsa just isn’t salsa without the spice–just like your soulmate isn’t attractive without the hot physical package! We are human and have a taste for beautiful things. We have evolved from looks oriented creatures: birds, then goats, then gorillas. These animals appreciate beauty and so do we.
Like ducks who choose the pretty mallard feathers, or the she-goats who select the winning mountain goat for his large horns, or the lucky gorilla gal who gets the coveted silverback, we humans can go gaga for good looking guys or gals. In this post, I will talk about how to bag a babe that you actually find attractive–on both physical and spiritual levels! Have I attracted your attention yet?
Attractiveness doesn’t have to be generic
Despite the fact that the soul doesn’t care about physical form, our humanness does. It needs physical beauty and attraction (however you define that) for a healthy soulmate/Twin Flame relationship. Without the spice and attraction, you got yourself a best friend and nothing more. Nothing wrong with a best friend, but don’t kid yourself.
You are probably saying, “Amanda, isn’t it superficial to say that attractive people are better than less attractive people on a soul level?” And I’m saying No, it’s not. Because attractiveness is spiritual. And its not the Hollywood kinda pretty or hot I am talking about, as attractiveness does not have to be generic. True beauty is all in the eye of the beholder. In fact, true attractiveness is simply a spiritual vibration based on high levels of sacred geometry.
The beholder interprets the geometry however he or she “likes” beauty. True spiritual beauty emanates from our physical form and it resonates with the beloved onlooker–on an eyes, ears, nose, and especially an energetic level. This is the alchemy of seeing your Twin Flame’s true beauty–beauty can only be seen by those who understand the secrets of sacred beauty.
Alchemical attractiveness lesson one: Beauty is unique.
Everyone’s attractiveness taste buds are unique, just as everyone looks unique. So there’s someone for you – there’s someone for everyone! A perfect mach on all the levels, beauty included. Throw it out NOW, the old paradigm of everyone wants Brad Pitt. That’s so boring! Stop trying to look act and be the same as the same old boring plastic model. Be you beautiful one. And stop lusting after generic plastic beauty that lacks substance.
Remember those those generically hot guys or bombshell gals that everyone wanted to date or be in high school (and sometimes they manage to stay ladies men or it girls for many years)? Where are they now? Most likely they either abused or ran away from or hopefully came to terms with the superficiality of their so-called physical perfection that got them in the door (or nether-region). A lot of the Hollywood hot people are actually suffocated or suffering with their beauty because no one can see the real them.
Yes beautiful: true beauty is on a much deeper level. We are all here by Divine Design; we are created by our creator with a perfect divine plan. We are gifted with the perfect package. We are all incredibly attractive to our Twin Flame, and vice versa. We are even granted a certain number of soulmates who find us stunning and make us feel our own attractiveness. Sometimes it can be annoying when you’re not attracted back to these people (a soulmate whose lesson/gift is to uplift your beauty confidence)! When I was in Italy I got a ton of cat calls and suitors who complimented me to the point where I stopped doing my own beauty affirmations because being told that I was hot all day long by these stallioni burned the message into my subconscious. Ironically, though their compliments helped me get into “I’m hot” instead of “I’m not” thinking, I only ended up being attracted to three men during my 3-year love affair with Italy. More ironically was that none of these men hit on me until later in our dating. Still, I will always be grateful for coming of age in Italy and hope that more American and Anglo men can learn the art of flattery and compliments from their Latin counterparts.
Ultimately, it’s about having both mutual physical attraction and mutual soul attraction for the right soulmate. Guess where it starts? It starts within…
Use the Law of Attraction!
The Law of Attraction states that “like attracts like.” Therefore, if you want to attract someone that you find attractive, you must first find yourself attractive. Hopefully you like what you see in the mirror! It’s no easy feat in this culture, where we limit the ideas of beauty. Especially for women, right!? I myself suffered from Barbie complex (and I still catch myself in moments sometimes) where I thought unless I looked like the perfect skinny toned perky Californian blondie, I couldn’t be loved or beautiful. It sucks when you live in fear of cellulite, water retention, wrinkles, pimples, and all the other stuff that comes with being woman/human! That’s not pretty. True beauty is confidence. Self-acceptance. Joy. Trust. Good posture. Open-heartedness. A smile is beautiful. In a nutshell, when you are radiant, glowing yourself, your own true Divine frequency out to the Universe, that is beautiful. Then you are a real bite of bait for the right soulmate.
Fall in love with yourself
That’s it. That’s what it takes–become a narcissist! Kidding. That’s so not the right word…Self-adoring, that’s a better fit! You don’t have to be self-absorbed in a selfish or narcissistic way to love yourself. True self-love is the kind where you are so in love with yourself that you see God/Goddess in yourself. Then, you see that God/Goddess and you are one. You feel the oneness of your soul with all souls, with divinity. You look in the mirror and see love and light that comes from your being a child of God/Goddess. And that you are not separate from God/Goddess. This becomes very exciting! Then you realize that all beings are little fractions of God, or more like microcosms of the macrocosm through which you can explore Oneness.
There are many potential soulmates out there for you to test out
Some are zany, insane, sexy, scary, goofy, interesting, boring, annoying, beautiful, and highly unattractive reflections of God/Goddess. Your job: to love everything and everyone in an unconditionally loving and compassionate way while discerning what is best for you as a human. It is not wrong to be attracted to certain types and not others. It is not wrong if you grew up around a certain type of person and feel comfortable marrying only that type of person. Never date (in the long term, one date is OK!) or marry someone you’re not attracted to. I do suggest trying to date outside of your race, class, spirituality, social group etc., so that you can understand Oneness through diversity. You will learn a lot as you seek out your Twin Flame. Moreover, it is possible that your Twin Flame is not a part of your inner circle/race etc. Many Twin Flames have reported to be living in different parts of the globe yet attract each other through divine guidance (plus online connecting or crossing during travels). They seem to often know that despite the differences of culture/race etc., there is an instant feeling Twin Flame recognition that is quite strong.
Your soul knows what you need, and your human self will be guided and follow the path perfectly to the perfect mate. It’s OK to kiss a few frogs on the journey too, but do keep in mind that you must be happy, blissful, satisfied! It all starts with gratitude for where you’re at, which is what I discussed in my article Harnessing Gratitude to Harness your Twin Flame!
Fall in love with the mirror to attract an attractive partner
Self-Love & Beauty Mirror Ritual:
Look in the mirror and repeat the following prayer/affirmation:
“I am beautiful. I love the soul that I see appearing in the mirror. The soul in the mirror loves me back. She (or he) is me. I love the home–the temple body of my soul. My body, skin, face, hair and every nuance of me is perfect. By Divine Design, I am pure and perfect love. I love myself. I am attractive. I am sexy. I am beauty. I am joy coming into human incarnation. My lashes are luscious. My skin is soft. Every corner, curve, wrinkle and nerve of me is placed perfectly so that I can attract the right person/people into my life. My body serves me for my highest purpose and I love her. My body is pretty sexy! My curves are gorgeous. My imperfections are totally perfect. I love the things I complain about, and I complain about them less and less. I love me, for all of me! Thank God/dess for the body I have, and the soul mates with which I share my body are damn lucky!”
Applying Twin Flame Law of Attraction to attract your Twin Flame or soulmate is great, but you can’t do it using Twin Flame affirmations, visualization and energy work alone. Mr. or Ms. Right won’t show up up on your doorstep unless you put in a little effort in the ‘real world’ too. Here are four sizzling hot tips to help you meet your Twin Flame fast by playing big, bold, and fearlessly in your Twin Flame dating world!
Tip Number One: Just get the F$%k out There!
I know you might not want to face it, but you’ve gotta start taking action and get moving, shaking, and dating if you haven’t been lately. The molecules should be dancing and spinning at an ‘I am dating and ready!’ frequency in order for your Twin Flame to arrive in your world. We High-Healed Priestesses can often get lazy when it comes to dating because we get stuck in the spiritual world and often hide there. We make vision boards, write our Twin Flame affirmations, and never get around to actually dating…
Who cares if you’re pretty, popular, or perfect? You deserve love now because you are a Divine creation of the Creator!
Take bold little steps every day. For instance, when you’re in line at the grocery store and like someone, casually chat with him/her. Or even ask him out! Flirt with people by asking them where they got their clothes. Men often like really dumb questions, so don’t get hung up on the words. A simple smile often will do to get things started.
One of my favorite pick up lines that really works is saying this word with a smile: “Hi!”
My friend Rhea needed to snag her crush before he walked out of the door on the night we did her Twin Flame activation ritual (we were in a pub and it seemed as if her crush was going to leave soon). I told her to run up to him fast and talk to him, and suggested she ask him something random. So she asked him if he was from Texas. He said No, he was from Sweden! Flattered by her bravery, it was love at first sight, they moved in together within a few weeks, and it made one of my favorite Twin Flame success stories success stories!
What do you have to lose? Be bold and playful. Ask him/her to ask you out. Joke and use physical touch to get his attention, even just a little pat on the back or graze of your hand on his. Men love being lightly showered with touch and attention, as do women!
Approach your fears online if it calls you
Ain’t no shame in going cyber-lovin’! Go Twin Flame online dating if you haven’t tried it lately and you feel open to it. A lot of women resist online dating, but a whopping one third of U.S. married couples met online! This third may not be you just because you decide to hit up the internet for a few dates. If you totally don’t resonate with online dating, just go onto one of the websites and “shop” for men as an exercise, women always get a giggle from this at least, and it puts us in a dating energy. You may browse OK Cupid and not even have to go on an actual date there to meet your soulmate, but the cyber dating energy can be good. It’ll help you get out there, out of your head, possibly out of your house, and back in the dating pool again if it’s been a while. I’ve heard of some women signing up on spiritual dating sites and then randomly meeting their spiritual partner offline a few days later because they put the energy out there!
Resistance to Success: Online Dating Success Story
My client Jenna hadn’t been on a date in over 6 years. Though she was an amazing goddess–smart, bright, successful, beautiful, and loved to travel, she’d hit a bad heartbreak and then a rut. Before that, she’d dated a slew of bad boyz who didn’t honor the amazingness that she is. She was so super resistant to going online dating, but I told her to get over it and just try it out. So, we worked together on getting her on *a date* to get her back into “dating shape.” So she posted her profile on OKcupid.com, and within a week she’d dated two really great guys! Her skin glowed, her confidence started coming back, and she felt sexy again. Guess what happened? Within only a few short weeks, she met handsome Seth, her awesome soulmate/Twin Flame partner and they lived pretty darn happily ever after, and have two gorgeous Starchildren.
Moral of the story: get online asap, even using Facebook as your safe playground. Especially if you haven’t tried online dating, or if you have been dateless for more than a year. Try out a new site if you have been glued to the same one and haven’t been getting results. Start taking action, it’ll get the energy moving.
Various clients and friends of mine who have been through a dating dry spell will initially get online as a tool to get the juices flowing. Then, with boosted confidence, they’ll randomly meet a guy at the coffee shop, or notice someone at work and end up dating offline, thinking “Why haven’t I met him before!?” Boys attract more boys through the Law of Male Competition. Everyone wants a queen bee. Moral of the story: online dating breeds more dating! Get out there and try it out.
Bottom line: be bold and do things you don’t normally do.
You don’t have to go online, it’s just an option. What’s more important is to just get out there and spread your love! So also do things just for you that knock your socks off, that are outside of the box. Take a salsa class, or cooking lesson, or hit up a comedy club with a new friend. Try a vegetarian meetup or start your own one. Get out of your boring daily/weekly rhythm to bring in fresh romance energy. Maybe even get far far away… Take a Twin Flame pilgrimage to that country you’ve always wanted to see! It doesn’t hurt to travel to meet your Twin Flame. Dress a little sexier if you’re normally in sweats… Do something that gets you out of the house even on a chilly day. Girl, just take your pick, make your move, and dive into bliss!
It’s also important to nourish yourself within and take time for yourself of course, and here’s a bath I recommend for Twin Flame Love: Twin Flame Love Spell Bath Recipe.
Tip Two: Don’t Worry About Getting Rejected
Although it goes against our natural instincts, getting rejected is the best medicine to attract your Twin Flame. It means that you’re able to love yourself most of all when it appears that God (or in this case, some man or human specimen) doesn’t love and adore you back.
Who cares if he doesn’t like you back?! Go find someone who will! In truth, you are God’s lovechild, and there’s no reason not to be loved… However, you do have to realize the somewhat harsh fact that you simply won’t be loved in that soulmate way by all beings because that’s just how it works – and it would be really complicated. Would you want three million karmic soulmates knocking on your door? I think not! It’s funny how obsessed we become about not being rejected, when truly the main goal should be to get accepted by our one true perfect match.
Finally, I work with many women who have suffered from body image/self-esteem issues, like I have myself. We beat ourselves up for not being perfect and convince ourselves that we have to change in order to get an attractive guy to love us. Don’t fall for it! It was all a misinterpretation from a shampoo ad campaign you watched in the 80s. Real men want real women; humans like honest and real organic beauty more than sliced and diced makeup perfection. Despite what the cosmetic sales people or plastic surgeons may tell you (it’s probably for their children’s college tuition, so don’t take it personally).
Just a little beauty accenting and color highlights for fun and play is OK. Don’t go overboard. Allow your own true beauty to shine through to attract your Twin Flame with your authentic self. If he rejects you because you have a zit or some larger pores or a cellulite butt like I have, move on; that’s not true love! Your Twin Flame will love all of you and find you absolutely sexy.
Tip Three: Activate Your PU$$Y Power
What!? What’s PU$$Y Power? Click here to get a fuller definition. PU$$Y Power is the Divine Feminine fertile almost feline-like energy that can attract anything to through an ancient magic secrets. It is based in your womb and yoni (vagina) area, and it’s also known as the Holy Grail, Sangraal, and is the essence of Divine Feminine creation. To activate your PU$$Y Power, you have to connect with the Divine Feminine aspect of your root chakra and sacral chakra. You have to fall in love with your sacred sexuality, your body, and love your yoni (pussy!). Watching this video will help activate your precious PU$$Y:
Tip Four: Be yourself
As tempting as it is to play the “perfect girl” to win love by someone who thinks you’re the cat’s PJs and best actress in town, pretending to be someone you’re not is going to get old real fast. Real fast.
Start the date/relationship by just being yourself. This will pay off BIG! Let your true colors fly. It doesn’t mean that you cannot impress your potential mate, or even shine a bit from the start, but do so with authenticity. Show some imperfections. While wearing the perfect outfit on the first date can be fun, are you able to dress it down after dinner with some walking shoes and a windbreaker to go on that beach hike? I hope so, because no one wants to be his Royal Prince Charming’s b*tch. No darling, you are a queen and queen bees get to set their own rules!
It’s so darn simple: it’s super important to find your soulmate from a place of passion and taking inspired action. It’s all about playing BIG in the outer game, while nurturing your inner game too.
Go go go, girl, you go this one. Here’s to your implementation of these three hot tips to help you meet your divine match by playing a big outer game. Go have a great week and treat yourself with great care while getting out there in a BIG way! Thanks for reading, see you on the flip side, and please post your comments below and share with your social groups.
In Love,
Dr. Amanda Noelle is a Twin Flame Matchmaker to stellar spiritual women who feel called to birthing big life-purposes and possibly a Starchild or two.
