by Dr Amanda Noelle | Dec 30, 2013 | Divine Feminine Awakening, Law of Attraction, Twin Flame Love, Twin Flame Runner and Chaser, Twin Flame Signs, Twin Flame Spirituality |
Dearly Beloved,
Are you ready to call in the love of your life – the other ‘half’ (mirror) of your soul, reincarnate – to raise a Twin Flame revolution? [If you don’t know what I mean by Twin Flame, I explain it in my Twin Flame Video HERE]:
Attracting your Twin Flame relationship isn’t just about the romance, hearts, flowers, chocolates. It is about soul evolution, deep self-love, healing, and being in service and chaining the planet. Acalling in your Twin Flame requires you to begin living your soul purpose and being in service.
I’ve channeled in 14 sizzling hot tips that will help you get your Twin Flame ignition on. To your Twin Flame reunion and marriage!
Clarify your soul purpose. Your soul purpose is a soul contract agreement that you made before your birthed based on your passion, essence, and desires to see earth become healed. You can always change your soul purpose because you have free will, but on some level your soul wouldn’t allow you to change it because it’s why you came here. Click here for a quick Twin Flame self-love meditation to help you align with your Twin Flame and soul purpose.
Start taking massive action to live out your soul purpose. Now is the time. The planet needs you. It’s time to take bold action and to quit sitting idle in the planning phases. Start a blog, a website, reach out to people. Instead of taking classes, start teaching classes and sharing what you know. It’s not about being perfect, it’s about getting over your perfectionism and taking steps that make a change on the planet. The world really needs your Lightwork, your assistance, your opinion, your dreams now! Also, your Twin Flame will be supporting your soul purpose due to your soul contract, and in order to meet her or him, you must really be living it out in the real world, not just ‘someday.’
Create community based on your soul purpose. It’s time to reunite with your soul family. Soul family is your soul group that you reincarnated with around the time you were born give or take a few years. They are beings who came her with the same or similar soul purposes. For instance, my soul family’s soul purpose is to help the Divine Feminine rise and all of my soul family members are obsessed with assisting the Divine Feminine and are working, living, and loving to make that happen 24-7. Uniting your soul family will amass together a soul pod of light which will make it easier for your Twin Flame to find you. S/he will be able to identify your soul light blueprint through the amplification of joy/bliss/soul purpose energies you have harnessed within your community.
Eat more love chocolate. If this resonates with your body. Chocolate, especially high vibrational organic, raw, or at least fair-trade chocolate, invokes a Twin Flame vibration. You can do a raw cacao ceremony doing a Twin Flame invocation, prayer, or intention at the beginning. Raw chocolate recipes are easy to come up with. I make raw alchemical love chocolates using the following pure organic raw ingredients: extra virgin coconut oil, cacao, and coconut sugar. I add a drop of organic rose essential oil to activate the Twin Flame energies into one large batch of raw chocolates. And yes, chocolate is a natural aphrodisiac and it’s one that works on all 7-chakras, not just the lower ones. It turns your Higher Self on. Some of my best channeling sessions are done with light doses of raw cacao. Mmmmm!
Live more blissfully. Bliss is a secret ingredient to Twin Flame manifestation and the Law of Attraction. Grab a piece of paper. Write down a list of 100 things that bliss you out, some of which you may even accomplish this year. Travel to Tahiti? Get lomi-lomi massaged? Wear sexy high-end lingerie daily? Have bigger and better orgasms? Eat French brie in France? Oh gosh, there are so many…Write ’em all out! Then, underline your top 3-5 bliss desires for the year, and write them down on a separate piece of paper. Put this on your wall, on your altar, or do a manifestation ritual or burial ceremony. I like burying my manifestations in the soil, watering them with wishes, and allowing them to grow. A woman riding the waves of her own desire is a woman on the way to her Twin Flame reunion.
Do a Twin Flame ritual at 11:11 on January 1st or 11th, or on a new moon. Click here to get some Twin Flame 1111 ritual ideas. Be creative in your rituals. It’s more fun and high-vibrational rather than being strict and serious in your ceremonials. I like choosing 3 words and 3 colors to create my rituals. For instance, I may pick pink, green, and gold, and use ‘bliss,’ ‘love,’ and ‘creation’ when building my Twin Flame manifestation altar, wearing a ceremonial gown, picking flowers, etc. Have fun, and again, no being too serious or your ceremony will seriously suck!
Forgive your ex-loves. Toast to them in gratitude – the have brought to you the place you’re at! It’s time to bring in the new Twin Flame frequencies, and the new only comes through by releasing the old. Being stuck in the past will hold you back from manifesting your beloved, yet it can be really easy to get stuck because hurt, heartache, and heartbreak are vibrations that can be almost addictive. A ritual of forgiveness and letting go may be in order if you still have some leaky Twin Flame Counterfeit energy. 
Pamper yourself like a goddess! Invest in a new style, get massages, do your nails, hair, take optimal spa care of your goddess body, mind, and spirit. You are priceless, and as a High-Healed Priestess you give out a lot of angelic light which needs to be nourished. Fill up on love and pampering care on an ongoing basis, and take it seriously. Write it into your business calendar (or bli$$ness calendar as I call it). Without the pampering, your energy levels will be lagging and your Twin Flame won’t be able to find your light.
Eat more raw, live, fresh organic foods. It’s a great idea to transition to a high-vibration diet of mostly vegetable based local organic produce. Your body will be ready for a Twin Flame DNA upgrade where your DNA is aligned with your own pure soul essence energy versus DNA programs from the collective unconsciousness/media/govenment etc. Purifying your body through aligning with fresh vibrant sensual fruits, veggies, whole grains, legumes, and small amounts of high-vibrating animal products (if you prefer) will create a Twin Flame vessel for your soul. Your body-temple upgrade will be very magnetic for the light-
Spend time alone in nature. Reset your Divine Mother energy by surrounding yourself with Mother Nature. The sounds, vibrations, colors, waves, wind, etc will heal your body, mind, and spirit. It’s easy to get bombarded with energy that is not your energy – foreign energy from family, the media, politics, religion, etc., that doesn’t serve your soul. While there’s nothing wrong with family, society etc., it’s important to make separation so that you can ‘hear yourself think.’ Escaping on a solo naturescapade will help you find your inner wisdom, Divine Feminine bliss, and pop your chakras back into shape. - Twin Flame Affirmations! Here are some awesome Twin Flame Affirmation tips.
Be weird and have fun! Don’t take yourself seriously. Have a hoot being you. Dress up in fun costumes, even if you’re alone. Try new styles that make you feel magical. I have my pink wig and I wore it out on NYE! I love the playful vibrations women exude when breaking all the rules given to them by society, and a true Twin Flame counterpart will too. The goddess energy expressed through creativity and rule breaking is awesome.- Play matchmaker with your friends. As they say, what goes around comes around, so Twin Flame matchmaking karma will come back at divine timing! Also, friends know what you want and it’s way less embarrassing for them to set you up on dates than for you to walk up to random strangers. Ask your friends to set you up with their eligible guys/gals they meet that they think might be a right fit for you, and you and your friend can even make it a fun game of dating someone new once per week etc and hold each other accountable for your dating calendars!
Marry yourselfHow can you marry someone else if you’re not self-married first? Falling in love with yourself is easy once you clear away the past blocks, low self-esteem programs, and ancestral/family energy etc. Marrying yourself is committing to your self-love, your self-healing, creatively expressing your voice and your choice. You are a unique and different being who has a whole universe waiting inside her to come out. Vow to love it, learn it, and let it out in Divine Love in 2015 and beyond!
Thanks for reading and playing with these tips; feel free to comment, share, and let us know what your favorite tip is or share another one.
Twin Flame BLI$$ings and love!
Dr. Amanda Noelle is the Twin Flame Matchmaker and Founder of Aphrodite University. She helps High-Healed Priestesses go high-end in their 6-figure bli$$nesses that heal and change the world while aligning them with their soul purposes and Twin Flame soulmates.
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by Dr Amanda Noelle | Dec 30, 2013 | Divine Feminine Awakening, Law of Attraction, Pussy Power in Business, Twin Flame Signs, Twin Flame Spirituality, Uncategorized |
This year, I’ve been reclaiming my passion for writing again, despite the fact that I have a slight learning disability that makes it really easy to make typos, get distracted, and become incredibly self-critical.
I used to struggle with low self-esteem, feeling stupid, not good enough, and it petrified me from sharing my voice through writing. When I did write, it was like pulling teeth, and I had to edit my work like a million times. It was no walk in the park.
It didn’t help that I am now writing about esoteric ‘woo woo’ topics (part of the job as a Twin Flame Matchmaker) that often brings up a lot of my insecurities (like Will they think I’m crazy?!)
As a Twin Flame Matchmaker with a successful private practice, writing has been a key way to access new clients while expressing my heart and soul with the world.
Yet just a few years ago I was blocked in my writing, in my career, in my finances, and in my power. I drove myself so crazy with my blocks, that I nearly wanted to leave the planet because I knew how far away I was from living my talents, dreams, and soul-purpose.
Wahooo….I broke free!
This year’s writing breakthrough helped me heal myself, and my writing has really made an impact on my BLI$$ness (business + bliss + big buck$) which recently hit 6-figures. I am still in shock after making 4-figures all through my 20s! The key secrets to my writing and BLI$$ness success is speaking from my heart, not caring what people think, and being in service while loving myself as a High-Healed Priestess. Bet you didn’t see that coming, did ya?
Writing was love-hate for me before this year. I hated deadlines, feared critics, and knew that I’d be making loads of ‘mistakes,’ typos, and grammatical errors. Unless I hired a professional editor (which cramps my style and just didn’t appeal), I knew I’d be baring my ass out to the world, which was just embarrassing! Yet I was called to spread Light, share my message, and teach others that they too could be Lightworkers changing the world without having to be perfect. Oh, and get paid in the process!
Me writing in my ‘office with a view’ in Crete, Greece
I just love getting paid to write while helping people, like I used to do in my early 20s when I was an expat nutrition and fitness writer in Shanghai (which never made me much money, but it was a start and I was less self-conscious because there was so little competition there as most writers wrote in Chinese!).
Though I am not yet technically a ‘paid writer’ directly through articles or books, I am paying myself with the income I gain from clients who find me via search engines using words like “twin flame soulmate” and “goddess of abundance!” So my writing dreams have come alive again in the most unexpected way!
How to make money off your blog (a few tips):
There is no one right way to make blogs pay off. I know my way has been fast and effective, and it doesn’t include making money directly from the blog, but comes from people finding me through my blog. Blogs can make you good money if you know how to convert readers into paying clients or customers. I highly recommend selling high-end services or products if you’re brand-spakingin’ new in your biz. I would have starved to death if I started selling products at $5-50/pop. I see most spiritual people writing blogs and doing services by donation (e-begging) and it makes me so sad to see those PayPal icons when I know they could be helping people while making good money from their high-end services or products.
Selling is also a big piece of the picture, but I will talk about that in other blogs. Mainly I wanted to reiterate how beneficial it has been for me to gain readers via the blog, gain their trust, and then convert them into paying clients whom I love! These Soulmate Clients burst my heart open with joy, and they feel like they know me before even meeting me because of my blogs (and YouTube/social media posts as well). My clients almost always tell me they hire me because they appreciate my rawness, my weirdness, and my unique flavor. It’s almost as if they can recognize that we are soul family before even meeting me, simply by reading my blog or viewing my YouTube channel. And what a marketing time-saver, instead of marketing to individuals over and over – blogs make you money while speaking to a vast number of peeps! Love the spiritual leverage.
Selling through your spiritual blog is really awesome!
Luckily, I have a magical gift in selling to my Soulmate Clients (soul family members who receive your soul-purpose based services in exchange for financial currency). I am super psyched to be teaching my students at Aphrodite University how to use my Seductive Selling tips to their Soulmate Clients who visit their sites! Because I have converted my blog readers, Facebook followers, and YouTube viewers into paying clients, my 6-figure BLI$$ness has taken me to magical and exotic travel destinations this year, which has unleashed a creative beast in me. I highly recommend trying to make money as a spiritual healer, teacher, writer, Lightworker – your bliss saves your own life as it saves the world!
My perfectionism got converted into my pleasurerrectionism!
What’s more, is that I’ve learned to accept my typos as ‘quirks’ and have really let go of perfectionism! This yielded way more readers, better blogs (if you ask me), and wayyyyyy more pleasure on my part. Because of this, I have successfully been able to write a blog a week (and sometimes several per day because I get so excited!). Blog writers’ block GONE….Cheers to having overcome a diagnosed learning ‘BLI$$ability,’ healing shame about the way I learn and express myself. Anyone can do this, because if I can do it, so can you sister!
My writing adventures have taken me and come with me abroad this year. I have made several blog entries on my pink Macbook Pro Retina from San Francisco, Greece, Italy, Costa Rica, and Los Angeles. My favorite writing local was a remote spot on Crete overlooking the ocean, where I got to access internet via my iPhone’s SIM card. Oh, it was from an ancient cave, a house built right into the cave wall! The views of the ocean, olive groves, and mountains were stunning, and I believe my creativity cracked open on Crete this year (as well as my inner cretan who just doesn’t care what others think about me!).
I highly recommend visiting Crete to rekindle your ties to Ancient Atlantis, if you feel connected and called. Everyone I know who has gone there has come back with the souvenir of more creativity, an Atlantean activation, and a Higher Self soul-alignment. I highly recommend traveling with your writing to wherever your heart and Higher Self guides you, you won’t regret it.
To me, writing has become an indulgence that happens to help some people (or at least that’s what they’re telling me), that helps me express the real me, that gets my ideas and thoughts solidified. Oh, and expressing my inner love and putting it out there into cyberspace brings me a great deal of joy. Finally, the BLI$$ buck$ that naturally seems to be following are a hoot too!
It’s time for you too, baby…
It’s so cool that I’ve used my ‘imperfect brain’ to build a 6-figure BLI$$ness I love! I never would have imagined that my fun goofy side that loves to roll with the punches, channel Pleiadian Light, and be as wild and woo woo and as weird as I want to be could be appreciated, paid, and professional all at the same time! Check out my blog to help you bust blog perfectionism here.
I say YES to loving and living your dream and writing it all out like a giant ongoing love letter to the world. I say go now, no matter how low your self-esteem is, how imperfect you are, or how stupid you believe you are. I say, the weirder, the better. The world has been suffering of boredom for centuries and it’s making us all sick in the head!
You can achieve your dreams, your bliss, your abundance…Because you are a holy friggin’ awesome child of God/dess and the world needs your love and wisdom and woo woo magic! That’s all the recipe takes. Now go bliss, bless, and blog your heart out to the world in 2014.
Lots of BLI$$ings and good blog fortune.
Dr. Amanda Noelle is a Twin Flame Matchmaker and Founder of Aphrodite University.
by Dr Amanda Noelle | Dec 25, 2013 | Pussy Power: Yoni Awakening Tips, Twin Flame Priestess Lifestyle |
Isn’t it time you started loving your breasts? Breasts frame the heart-chakra and are the symbol of Divine Feminine nurturing, giving, and receiving of pleasure.
Boobs: you only get two of them in each lifetime.
Might as well love the pair you got. They are sacred life-giving, nurturing, and soft. Here are the three top tips to turn breast-shame into breast love and enlightenment so that your heart chakra and your breasts can realign at the Divine Feminine Love Twin Flame frequencies.
Goddesses, you have been brainwashed by a patriarchal fear-mongering media that thrived on your self-hatred, but you are free now to love yourself and to forgive. The breasts hold onto memory, emotion, and toxins, but once cleared are free and happy girls! These are three tips to help you fall in love with your terrific tatas once again:
1) The breast massage ever!
Massage your breasts with this or another loving elixir:
1 tablespoon coconut oil
3 drops each: rose, grapefruit, frankincense, and cypress
Massage benefits you by:
-celebrating your body brings your breasts joy
-moving lymph and toxins reduces cancer risk
-tissues will become stimulated to produce collagen, making your girls perkier, longer
-your breasts will be fuller and firmer, so it’s a light natural breast-lift over time
You can watch this breast massage wellness video for instruction on how to massage your lovely lady lumps:
2) Talk to your tatas!
I know it sounds strange, but talking to your breasts will give you answers. Ask your tatas questions, and they will respond. If you have had body image issues, ask your breasts what that’s about, and how they can assist you. Ask them what they need. Dialoguing with your body will bring you profound answers that no doctor can tell you!
3) Celebrate your boobs through breast voyeurism.
Look at (and maybe even feel?) other women’s breasts in a celebratory way. Look at yours too, and toast to them with a cup of red wine, or better yet, green tea, which is a cancer-reducer.
Women can get arrested for going topless. It must mean that women’s breasts are a threat to society, right? Are they really that dangerous if they gave us life early on? So bad that they should be kept indoors and covered up besides in the changing room and in front of our husbands? Oh boy, if only women made the laws, we’d have International Titty Day at least twice a year (one for each boob!). Every woman loves to look at other women’s breasts, it’s a little known fact because no one talks about it. But the bottom line is that everyone loves breasts, they’re awesome! Newsflash, breasts aren’t evil, they’re amazing!
Perhaps if we rewrote the laws and started celebrating the way we looked, we wouldn’t be tempted to chop open our nipples, pack in silly-cone or other materials to fake it like we’re Barbie Dolls?
Start complimenting yourself and other women’s breasts of people you know will ‘get it.’ My childhood friend Tasha and I used to play dress up and I was embarrassed because I didn’t have boobs yet. 20 years later, we had a moment of body image confession and tears, and she told me that I had fabulous breasts. I swear that I have healed my breast shame since then, and have stopped fantasizing about getting implants or a breast lift. Yes, body image issues affected me too, especially as a teen. I hated the way my girls looked, and I have struggled with body dysmorphic disorder. People think it’s funny because I have ‘normal breasts’ and they are 32Ds, but I still have my moment where I want to trade them in for perkier perfect Barbie Boobs too! I still have the American brainwashed girl inside who read too many 17 Magazines once upon a time.
Noticing that every woman is beautiful, unique, asymmetrical, different than you in many ways. We have been told to shut up and put our shirts on, and cover up our amazing mammary glands – our Mama Mary glands of the Divine Mother. What’s up with this? I am sure Jesus would have loved to see his mother and his lovely lady Mary Magdalene’s sacred bosom displayed on temple/church walls worldwide. Don’t you?
Let’s release the Playboy Bunny pressure to be perky double DDs…It’s impossible to be that without the help of a surgeon and that’s a lot of money, risky, and even has killed some women in the process or gotten many sick from infection and silicone poisoning. What if we did plastic surgery on the culture instead and went back to au-natural breasts with a new mindset of celebrating the Divine Feminine?
Lots of love and light.
Good boob job ladies!
Dr. Amanda Noelle is a Twin Flame Matchmaker and founder of Aphrodite University, helping High-Healed Priestesses step into their power so they can create new paradigms of love and light!
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by Dr Amanda Noelle | Dec 24, 2013 | Divine Feminine Awakening, Law of Attraction, Twin Flame Signs, Twin Flame Spirituality, Uncategorized |
Getting your high-paying soulmate clients to sign up for your high-end coaching programs is just like getting your Twin Flame to sign up for the relationship with you. It comes from divine love and using the Law of Attraction, and it starts by being able to attract and recognize your soul family members. Twin Flame energy is reflected in every aspect of your life, not just through your Beloved. The quicker you harness it, the more Twin Flame Activation you’ll receive in all aspects of your life. Here’s a Twin Flame Hypnosis Meditation to help you attract your Twin Flame and ‘soulmate clients’ so that you can start brining your soul-family members into your energy field:
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I just enrolled another beautiful soulmate client today for my new VIP 9-month program, and my heart is pouring with joy! I think I’m in love <3. I love how attracting and enrolling clients is becoming an easy, pleasurable process. And even asking for the $$ wasn’t bad! In the past, it wasn’t so… I used to get knots in my tummy when I had to give free consultations and make sales calls. Yick! I just wanted it to be easy and not have to worry about money. I thought business meant busy-ness-in-pain! My inner perfectionist led me. I was always totally freaked about whether or not they’d like me, and I was desperate to receive the money because I had never had much. When I was making the sale, I felt like an awkward dork waiting for someone to ask me to prom, trying to hint at things or even asking and getting rejected. Thank God it’s not like that anymore, as I have figured out something I call ‘Seductive Selling!’
Seductive Selling
I have mastered getting my clients ‘turned on’ and begging for more. It’s magnetic instead of involving me chasing down clients energetically. Instead of me leaning towards them and bending over backwards, they are honoring my High Priestessesness. They love investing with me because it’s the best way to pamper themselves and honor the Goddess Within :). Seductive Selling is about getting your clients to know, see, feel, and vibe in your value. You get them juicy and excited about the potential for change that you can bring into their lives. It comes from a place of you being just a few steps ahead of them, of bringing this into your own life first, and by helping them traverse the gap. I also love teaching my own clients how to attract their ‘Soulmate Clients’ by getting clear on their soul-purposes, creating an ‘Aphrodisiac Marketing‘ strategy, tuning into their ‘Erotic Brand Equity’ and turning it into Holy MatriMoney! How? Through ‘Secuctive Selling,’ you get your future client excited by the power of your work and your soul-family connection. It’s almost the same as Twin Flame or soulmate love, or is in a sense a certain form of it.
Free client consultations are like speed dating.
During the free consultation, also known as a free strategy session or discovery session, your clients will be in a vibration of Divine Yes, and selling becomes like an easy seduction of someone who is meant to fall in love with you. These sessions are like 30-minutes or so speed dates to see if it’s a soulmate match. The more highly refined your marketing is with your soul-purpose message, the better potential clients you’ll attract to your strategy sessions. It’s all great practice for the Twin Flame, and it’s such a pleasurable way of doing BLI$$ness 🙂
The bottom line:
To harness Twin Flame Love, we have to tune into our soul purposes and learn how to attract our soul family. This takes finding our inner soul light. We must know on a soular and cellular level what our desires are, what our soul-purpose is, and become ecstatic about our lives. You must bubble up with emotion of how you’re going to change people’s lives and impact the world before it happens.
Your desire to spread your own ecstasy will blast your Law of Attraction skills through the roof. This goes for the TF and for your 6-figure BLI$$ness…Lots of love and Light,
Dr. Amanda Noelle, the Twin Flame Matchmaker, helps align women with their Twin Flame, their soul purpose, and their 6-figure BLI$$ so that they can heal the world and be in service to the Goddess.
by Dr Amanda Noelle | Dec 24, 2013 | Uncategorized |
My vulnerable space is mine. It does NOT allow a Creepy Guy to come in.
I often attend Ecstatic Dance, in an awesome community where there are lots of loving dancers. I’ve learned to open my heart there with some of the most amazing people you can imagine. There are also some creepy men that test my boundaries as a woman, and it makes a lot of us female dancers uncomfortable. Especially if we’ve been violated in some way in the past.
Something I’ve Termed ‘Rape Dancing’
Sometimes I am having a sweet tender dance moment alone in deep vulnerability, and I’ll open my eyes and find one of these guys dancing in my space. I’ve termed this ‘rape dancing’ as it feels like a violation, but mostly I feel sad for these guys because they have no idea that they’re trying to penetrate into our tender feminine spaces because they haven’t accessed their own.
Creepy Guys Can Kill the Mood
Other times, I will be dancing with a circle of several women friend and feeling a deep bliss of the goddess. Then, predictably, one of the older, grayer, creepy guys will come in the middle and try to become part of it. Sometimes we pretend we’re like “Yay, thanks for stoppin’ by Creepy Guy!” But secretly we’re all kinda cringing inside, and often his visit kills the sisterhood energy and we go back to dancing solo. Sometimes we giggle about it, and other times it’s straight annoying.
The ‘Dance Away’ – the Dance to Save Your Night/Life!
The “Dance Away” is the move my friend invented for when the creepy men who follow you around on the dance floor (and this could be a metaphor in life). Sometimes if they seem like they’re acting stalker-like or weird, I react and act weird back, and show them I’m NOT into it quite clearly. Sometimes I’ll almost run away from a Creepy Guy with a smile on my face like “Yes, this Goddess needs to boogie away from you ASAP or she’ll break out in hives, thanks!” But I do this with love, with a playful silliness, and I don’t let them spoil my mood. Because this is MY dance, and I am one fun gal who needs her Wednesday night ecstasy.
Also, most rapists will leave you alone if you run away and scream, so use your tools sisters, and you’ll be safe to be ecstatic!
Overcoming a Creepy Guy Experience
I was totally excited when I joined my dance community, I felt so free and at home. I was still a little girl then, in my late 20s. I
What the Creepy Guy Saw me As
hadn’t learned how to set boundaries both psychically and literally. The conscious dance community was the perfect place for me to practice my boundaries safely, and it has been an awesome learning space! At my second dance, I connected with a man with whom I’d danced on my first-time dance evening. He danced with lots of women, so I assumed that he was safe – the theory was, if they did it, I should too. I went into a room where they had contact improv and it was fun dancing with him. He was very playful and acrobatic, like me. Then, as the dance progressed, Creepy Guy became more and more sensual, and I just figured “Well, that’s how this dance is, it’s contact, right?”
Creepy Guy and I went to sit down for a break, I confided in him that I’d just been diagnosed that day with a medical condition I was concerned about. He explained that he was a Middle Eastern healer and came from a lineage of healers and worked as a massage therapist and thought he could help me.
“What the hell,” I thought, in a room of 50 people, what could happen? So I lay down, and let him work on my back. 15-minutes into the massage, which was a really good massage by the way, I noticed something strange.
This man’s cock n’ balls were laying in the palm of my hands. I was horrified!
“Whoa!” I pulled my hand back. He said something to apologize as if he hadn’t noticed his posture. I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt because maybe he was in a deep healing trance? Of course, I’m the paranoid one…. So then, when the massage was over, I felt a bit uneasy. We sat up and this guy looked into my eyes with a straight face and said: “Here’s the thing. I come from an ancient tradition so this is going to sound weird, but I need to lick your tongue for this healing.”
Don’t Barf, Just Politely or Rudely (Do What Feels Right to YOU), Leave the Creepy Situation!
On the verge of barfing at this short, bald, unattractive (to my taste) man asking me to French kiss him, I politely pulled away and made an excuse to go use the bathroom. This Creepy Guy was talented. It took me two years to figure out that he wasn’t really a healer. Two years later, one of my good friends told me a slightly different horrifying experience about the same guy who told her things so sexually explicit that it freaked her out so badly she ran out of the room and didn’t want to go back to dances for months.
For a Few Years I Hated Creepy Guys.
The energy of hatred and fear was heavy in my field. It wasn’t a good vibe for me. Yet after some healing work and self-realization, I now see Creepy Guys as if they were cooky weird clowns versus scary wolves like I used to – it makes it fun to be on the dance floor and I feel safer. I often remind my inner child who is still afraid of the Creepy Guys that her whole community is there to support her, that nothing will happen to her when there are 20+ people in the room – that’s what heart-based community is for – for you/we to heal from the Creepy Guys. I have also really committed to doing whatever it takes to make my inner child safe, and often this is simply a reminder that I am a conscious adult with all the power in the world to say yes or say no. And I include her in the decisions of whom and whom I don’t want to dance with.
Creepy Guys Are a Gift to Help us Women Set Boundaries
In community it can happen in a loving and empowering way and it does NOT mean you can’t speak your truth or do a dramatic Dance Away! I kinda enjoy my power now to say “Buddy, get away from me, you are creepin’ me out!” with NO apologies attached. My dances are orgasmic, ecstatic and spiritual. I feel safe to do them in scantily clad very sensual and sexy dance-wear. This is my freedom, and just because I am wearing a dance bra-top with booty shorts doesn’t mean that I have to or want to bring in Creepy Guy energy. NOPE! I prefer to bring in LOVE as I express, explore, and share my unique sensuality with whom I do (or DON’T) please.
I have healed, changed, and rewired my relationship to creepy guys. Now I don’t attract them nearly as much, and I certainly don’t let them enter into my field. I feel an energy out from afar, and when I am not sure, I go slow. Sometimes I even ask questions or communicate for clarification, coming from a place of compassion and also protection for myself. This is a big act of self-love, and in turn honors them. Lately, I have been attracting high-vibing dancers into my field and don’t even pay attention to the creepies in the room. When I see one, I feel the ick, but let it go within seconds and then send them love and gratitude.
And then I use the dance-away sometimes too!
That’s it for this blog. Have you checked out the video, 3 Tantric Tips to Heal The Root Chakra to Attract Your Twin Flame?
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Namaste,
Dr. Amanda Noelle is a Professional Twin Flame Coach and Soulmating Fairy. She specializes in helping single, spiritual women find the deep inner-love they long for so they can attract their Divine Partner. Schedule her for a FREE Twin Flame Love Strategizing Session here.
