These signs and tips will save you tons of time, headache, and heartache in the dating game, so listen up sexy goddess!
This article is for you if you’re a woman on a fast-track Twin Flame path. You’re either currently dating, or you are currently waiting… preparing for the right moment to strike, for you to find yourself for your ultimate love.
At this point, you’ve probably dated some very possible-yesses, some definite ‘question marks,’ and a drove of heck-nos too!
But by the time you finish reading this blog, you’ll be able to discern what’s Divine Partner material, and what’s just fluffy false Twin Flame stuff.
Make no mistake and pay attention! You’re reading the right words here if:
- You found this blog, you read the title and you kept on reading!
- You’re a hopeless romantic who always seeks true love, but you always end up with the wrong type of guy. Yet you still don’t know what the right type for you is!
- You found someone you think might be your Twin Flame, but you still can’t tell.
- You keep going crazy in circles trying to determine if it’s the real thing: “He is. No he isn’t. He is, no he isn’t, etc….” and you just want clarity!
- You’ve been so burnt by past poor judgement and self-esteem blocks. You still don’t trust yourself to know if someone is the one, or if it will only explode in your face again!
Glad you’re here smart sister. I’m here to help!
So, you’re on the market to meet your Twin Flame. You’re looking for your dream guy, and you aren’t willing to settle. Good for you!
Yet you feel like you’ve already scoped out every single single man in town, seen and frowned upon every dating profile in your radius (except for those few hot ones who never messaged you back), and you’ve searched nearly every corner of the globe for your long-lost soulmate.
And still, you are empty handed OR you’re with someone but you’re just not sure… And that’s the worst, because who wants to be in a so-so settling-for-less relationship? Not you, I know YOU want to be with your Twin Flame, because now is your time. And you know that the Universe gifted you this life to celebrate to the fullest so why not!?
But never fear! Because the party has just begun.
You Know He’s Your Twin Flame If…
Sign #1: Smart Love and Seeing Potential
Your head tells you no but your heart says yes, AND rationally things still look pretty good.
This one sounds confusing. Hear me out. I’ve worked with thousands of Twin Flame seeking women to help them call in the one, and I have heard it all. But the main thing I hear over and over again from my clients and fans who attract the real deal is that he or she was not what they were expecting.
The cool thing is, these divine surprises are fun.
And the real women I meet tell me that their true Twin Flame turns out to be way better than they could’ve imagined. Still, there is some shock when they meet their mate, because that person didn’t fit the list that they’d written and had been writing for years.
Where this rule does NOT apply is where your head says one thing, your heart says another, and you make dumb decisions to go after someone who is not (a) healthy for you, (b) committed to you and to partaking in a conscious relationship, or (c) you’re trying to escape being abandoned by someone who doesn’t fully accept all of you (and that seemingly makes it ‘hot’ to you).
Here’s a tip: ask yourself, is he good for me? Does he have potential for growth? Is he truly ready to commit? If the answer is no for now, then move on and find someone who is all of these things to you.
Sign #2: Signs of Eternal Love
You fall in love AND you love each other, and you’re ready to commit!
Sometimes it takes ups and downs, and everyone can get caught up in the Twin Flame Runner phase. But ideally you can pass through this phase in the first six months.
Here are some typical Twin Flame patterns I see –
At two months into the relationship, you can’t imagine not being with each other. You spend all of your time together and you feel so at home, it’s crazy!
At six months into the relationship you and Mr. Wonderful pass the tests of fear and abandonment, Next, at 12 months, you’re a YES. You’re either engaged or talking about life-long commitment.
OK, everyone is different, there are not solid time-rules, but if you’re a year into it and you’re still not sure, either (a) let’s talk because you need my help, or (b) really ask yourself why you’re not ready to commit yet!
There’s no rush, but if you’re waiting forever for a commitment and no one is discussing future plans, you might not have a future.
Sign #3: You Have a Hard Love-Worker
OK this is a great sign… You know you are with your Twin Flame if you have attracted a man who can work hard at relationships.
Even better sign if you have a partner who works as hard as he works in his career as he does on his spiritual path and at his relationship…with YOU!
You’re in a true Divine Partnership when your Beloved sticks with it no matter what, even when the going gets tough.
He works with the presence of Spirit especially when the times get ugly and hard. He doesn’t have to be Jesus or have it all figured out, but he must be able to work hard within the heart, the emotions, and intimacy.
When you have a sacred special connection a person, it’s not enough alone. Adult Twin Flame Love requires practice, hard work, and commitment. You don’t just count on the sacred bond itself to save you–that’s a novice move!
As a spiritual master of love, you count on yourselves and you choose your partner wisely! You work hard to evolve, grow, learn, and shift the planet together. You make sure you’ve selected a partner who not only can keep up with you, he can keep things up for you. He plays his part too.
Commitment takes work, but it should be fun work with loads of sexy ‘perks’ for instance.
True Twin Flames don’t give up on each other when there’s funk, like a childhood pattern to be healed, an abuse energy that rears its ugly head, and if a hardship hits, you both work through it.
If you’ve found someone who is willing to roll up his sleeves and do the work, no matter how crappy and sloppy it looks at times, you got yourself a good man.
I learned this one the hard way. I encountered some bad luck with a Twin Flame Counterfeit and I attributed this bad luck to our breakup. But as it turns out, TRUE Twin Flames work on their shit, and never leave each other just because they can’t deal!
I hope you learned something from these three Twin Flame signs.
You Create Your Twin Flame
In a sense, you are the one who births your Twin Flame. This person is simply a mirror to the love that you create within.
Stick to the path of self-healing, self-empowerment, and soul purpose, and you’ll quickly align with your Divine Partner for sure.
Truly, here is no one outside of yourself; your Twin Flame is simply a mirror that you are shining your love upon, that returns itself to you!
As a Twin Flame Matchmaker, I have found that there are so many women and men who get stuck in gloom and doom when it comes to attracting their soulmate or Twin Flame, and they stay stuck and single when they don’t have to! We are more powerful than we know, as we are reflections of our Creator (whatever you call this powerful force), so we can create what our heart desires!
This article will help you manifest your Twin Flame as fast as humanly possible, because I know when you want it you want it now…or yesterday! But trust me, Twin Flame manifestation can be ridiculously fast if you tune into the Field of Universal Creation and surrender to the forces that be! I have helped clients, fans, and friends manifest their Twin Flames in as little has a few days, and in one instance, within a few hours! It’s a pretty magical energy to witness and to see physicalized, especially when I get invited to the wedding and get to sip champagne smugly thinking about how great a matchmaker I am 🙂 I just love love and am proud to be a holder of the Aphrodite Touch!
What not to do? Get stuck in a pit of despair
Don’t despair if you’re feeling single and stuck today, as you really can’t predict what is going to happen tomorrow (or you can if you stay positive and make it happen!). Sometimes even the most desperate and despairing women come to me with only one last tiny shred of hope, and I get them to surrender to their ultimate Divine Love, a well within them, and we bust some blockages and POOF! It’s truly delightful to watch them U-turn around into their heart’s desires and manifest that magical partner they’ve been waiting for for…forever!
This article, How to Manifest Your Twin Flame Quickly will help you immensely if:
- You have been working on yourself for a long time to be the best you can be, and feel that you’re truly ready to attract your beloved
- You’re healthy, on an emotional, physical, financial, and spiritual level
- You’re certain that you’re on a Twin Flame path, not just a Karmic Soulmate path; you are here to meet the soulmate of soulmates, the one true Twin Flame
- Meeting and marrying your Twin Flame has been a huge calling for a long time, and it’s frustrating not to have him/her yet!
- You are fully devoted to self-improvement and spiritual growth, and your Twin Flame will be a partner who supports you to grow further and faster
- You have a big heart, and it’s overflowing – your love needs somewhere to go!
- You have a huge soul purpose and you want your Twin Flame to join you for the ride to enjoy co-creating your most magnificent life to make this world a better place
- You’re willing to throw your skepticism out the window for just a moment and will just shut up and listen to what this Twin Flame Matchmaker has to say!
Alright darling, let’s get down to BLI$$ness, and share the top secrets to helping you ring in the Twin Flame partner and fast. Disclaimer: some of these tips aren’t for the weak, so buckle up and hunker down and be strong… whatever you do, don’t give up on love! Now let’s get your Twin Flame groove on.
Tip #1: Get Happy Being YOU as a Single Gal or Guy
You complete yourself. Your Twin Flame partner will be able to smell you from a mile away, as we’re all energetically sensitive beings and we have fantastic instincts. The question to ask is: Would you want to be with you? If you’re unhappy in your life, he or she is going to sense that gloom, and it’s not going to be a turn on. Men are attracted to happy and fulfilled goddesses flowing with nectar, just like bees are attracted to the sweet perfumed nectar of a flower.
To avoid: the Single Woman’s Vicious Cycle
What I see commonly in my clients is what I call the ‘Single Woman’s Vicious Cycle’ where you start getting lonely, and loneliness breeds depression, gloom, and hopelessness. Then you start dating the wrong people, lowering the bar and feeling desperate, feeling sorry for yourself, and doing silly things like staying in on Friday night with Ben and Jerry’s instead of following your heart’s deepest desires! You might even gain a a few pounds in the process and use that as an excuse not to be dating at the moment. Girl, you gotta get off the couch, stop feeling sorry for yourself, and do whatever you can to get happy and excited, there is a great guy or gal waiting out there and s/he’s reserved for YOU!
Let me clarify that I am not saying that you have to be happy with being single forever; I am just saying that a happy girl will attract more happiness and at the divinely perfect moment, a happy partnership. So do whatever it takes to be happy: join activities, social groups, exciting organizations that get your energy running fast. Choose to stay positive! Get your life moving in the fast lane….Work that body and get a good sweat on with daily workouts with a few breaks a week. Listen to music that pumps you up – you know, those sexy songs that make you wanna go look in the mirror and dance and check yourself out. You gotta start to feel like the bell of the ball in your own universe, and this will make the others’ heads turn and hearts beat in your rhythm.
To manifest your Twin Flame, really dive deep into celebrating life! It’s short anyways, and the sooner you get into the positive vibration, you will bring in a partner who reflects this love for life! Do you want to attract someone who is stuck and lonely? So don’t be stuck and lonely, get out there, have fun doing whatever weird hobbies suit you and be in a bliss vibration. You might not attract a partner at your 80s night girls night, but you will be covered in rainbow bliss vibes that he’ll pick up on the next day in the cafe.
You will always attract the perfect reflection of you or what you need to work on – why not magnetize a happy reflection!
TAKE ACTION: BLI$$ HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT
To get happy and excited, I really recommend becoming a manifestations collaging nerd. Go gather magazines and play music that gets you juicy and ready to birth your dream. Then start collaging the relationship and life that you’re ready to be leading, and feel yourself manifesting it into 3D as you put together your creation down. Think of it as a BLI$$ness plan for your love life! Vivid pictures will implant subconscious messages in your mind. Don’t worry if this sounds abstract or weird, I have lots of clients who question the assignment but swear by it afterward when what they’ve collaged shows up in their life.
Tip # 2 Declutter Your Past
The past is what holds our icky relationship limitation stuff. You gotta take out the trash! Though the past serves us as a teacher, teaching us what we want and what we don’t, the past is also where I see people holding onto old blockages that slow down the Twin Flame manifestation. Remember that there is nothing but the now, and you want to get a high vibrating happy life now! It’s time to create a new canvas by letting go of old childhood pain, things that represent awkward times in your life, sad times, and past relationships. Keep the gems of these experiences, but let go of anything that does not serve you now.
Decluttering time! Why keep around all those old FB pics of exes, or the scarf from the Amalfi Coast he gifted you on your birthday (I know it’s cute but get rid of it already!) when it just reminds you of the sad breakup afterward? Go and release anything that represents struggle, relationship strife, or any old attachment to someone that will compete or inhibit your Twin Flame relationship from coming in. Think of everything…you might even want to let go of that expired last name from your ex husband!
Go through all aspects of your life: declutter each of the rooms in your home, let go of anything not working for you in your current friendships, reevaluate your career, upgrade your lingerie collection, and go through all your clothes. Release anything that’s not an 7 out of 10 or more in your life! Let go of anything that doesn’t fit you like a glove for the absolutely joyful and magnificent Twin Flame relationship you’re calling in. It’s time to create your life your way, a portal of bliss. Lots of women prepare for their Twin Flames by becoming man-pleasers, but they only end up in men who expect them to do one thing: please them! Design a life of pleasure surrounding you that pleases you first, and you will have a very happy man like a bee buzzing around your flower in BLI$$!
Tip #3 Radical Self-Acceptance
I know that this tip seems like it’s going to contradict the ones above, but that’s the beauty of radical self-acceptance! You are perfect the way you are! This one is such a fun paradox. The reality is, when you meet and marry your Twin Flame, you will be married to each others’ imperfections for life (we hope!) and this means that you’re going to have to learn how to accept yourself first. Sure it’s nice to try to be a happy superhuman all the time, and it’s a fun game to see how much you can grow and become a super goddess. Yet you are simply a human! And we get things like bad breath, bad credit, and bad kinky thoughts. So what!? So does every other living breathing thing, and the sooner we accept this, the sooner we can move forward and celebrate.
Which of the three tips is the most important? I’d say the latter…What do you think? Please post your comments below and let me know what other tips you have to share.
Getting your high-paying soulmate clients to sign up for your high-end coaching programs is just like getting your Twin Flame to sign up for the relationship with you. It comes from divine love and using the Law of Attraction, and it starts by being able to attract and recognize your soul family members. Twin Flame energy is reflected in every aspect of your life, not just through your Beloved. The quicker you harness it, the more Twin Flame Activation you’ll receive in all aspects of your life. Here’s a Twin Flame Hypnosis Meditation to help you attract your Twin Flame and ‘soulmate clients’ so that you can start brining your soul-family members into your energy field:
I just enrolled another beautiful soulmate client today for my new VIP 9-month program, and my heart is pouring with joy! I think I’m in love <3. I love how attracting and enrolling clients is becoming an easy, pleasurable process. And even asking for the $$ wasn’t bad! In the past, it wasn’t so… I used to get knots in my tummy when I had to give free consultations and make sales calls. Yick! I just wanted it to be easy and not have to worry about money. I thought business meant busy-ness-in-pain! My inner perfectionist led me. I was always totally freaked about whether or not they’d like me, and I was desperate to receive the money because I had never had much. When I was making the sale, I felt like an awkward dork waiting for someone to ask me to prom, trying to hint at things or even asking and getting rejected. Thank God it’s not like that anymore, as I have figured out something I call ‘Seductive Selling!’
I have mastered getting my clients ‘turned on’ and begging for more. It’s magnetic instead of involving me chasing down clients energetically. Instead of me leaning towards them and bending over backwards, they are honoring my High Priestessesness. They love investing with me because it’s the best way to pamper themselves and honor the Goddess Within :). Seductive Selling is about getting your clients to know, see, feel, and vibe in your value. You get them juicy and excited about the potential for change that you can bring into their lives. It comes from a place of you being just a few steps ahead of them, of bringing this into your own life first, and by helping them traverse the gap. I also love teaching my own clients how to attract their ‘Soulmate Clients’ by getting clear on their soul-purposes, creating an ‘Aphrodisiac Marketing‘ strategy, tuning into their ‘Erotic Brand Equity’ and turning it into Holy MatriMoney! How? Through ‘Secuctive Selling,’ you get your future client excited by the power of your work and your soul-family connection. It’s almost the same as Twin Flame or soulmate love, or is in a sense a certain form of it.
Free client consultations are like speed dating.
During the free consultation, also known as a free strategy session or discovery session, your clients will be in a vibration of Divine Yes, and selling becomes like an easy seduction of someone who is meant to fall in love with you. These sessions are like 30-minutes or so speed dates to see if it’s a soulmate match. The more highly refined your marketing is with your soul-purpose message, the better potential clients you’ll attract to your strategy sessions. It’s all great practice for the Twin Flame, and it’s such a pleasurable way of doing BLI$$ness 🙂
The bottom line:
To harness Twin Flame Love, we have to tune into our soul purposes and learn how to attract our soul family. This takes finding our inner soul light. We must know on a soular and cellular level what our desires are, what our soul-purpose is, and become ecstatic about our lives. You must bubble up with emotion of how you’re going to change people’s lives and impact the world before it happens.
Your desire to spread your own ecstasy will blast your Law of Attraction skills through the roof. This goes for the TF and for your 6-figure BLI$$ness…Lots of love and Light,
Dr. Amanda Noelle, the Twin Flame Matchmaker, helps align women with their Twin Flame, their soul purpose, and their 6-figure BLI$$ so that they can heal the world and be in service to the Goddess.
Mild, medium, or HOT? Sometimes salsa just isn’t salsa without the spice–just like your soulmate isn’t attractive without the hot physical package! We are human and have a taste for beautiful things. We have evolved from looks oriented creatures: birds, then goats, then gorillas. These animals appreciate beauty and so do we.
Like ducks who choose the pretty mallard feathers, or the she-goats who select the winning mountain goat for his large horns, or the lucky gorilla gal who gets the coveted silverback, we humans can go gaga for good looking guys or gals. In this post, I will talk about how to bag a babe that you actually find attractive–on both physical and spiritual levels! Have I attracted your attention yet?
Attractiveness doesn’t have to be generic
Despite the fact that the soul doesn’t care about physical form, our humanness does. It needs physical beauty and attraction (however you define that) for a healthy soulmate/Twin Flame relationship. Without the spice and attraction, you got yourself a best friend and nothing more. Nothing wrong with a best friend, but don’t kid yourself.
You are probably saying, “Amanda, isn’t it superficial to say that attractive people are better than less attractive people on a soul level?” And I’m saying No, it’s not. Because attractiveness is spiritual. And its not the Hollywood kinda pretty or hot I am talking about, as attractiveness does not have to be generic. True beauty is all in the eye of the beholder. In fact, true attractiveness is simply a spiritual vibration based on high levels of sacred geometry.
The beholder interprets the geometry however he or she “likes” beauty. True spiritual beauty emanates from our physical form and it resonates with the beloved onlooker–on an eyes, ears, nose, and especially an energetic level. This is the alchemy of seeing your Twin Flame’s true beauty–beauty can only be seen by those who understand the secrets of sacred beauty.
Alchemical attractiveness lesson one: Beauty is unique.
Everyone’s attractiveness taste buds are unique, just as everyone looks unique. So there’s someone for you – there’s someone for everyone! A perfect mach on all the levels, beauty included. Throw it out NOW, the old paradigm of everyone wants Brad Pitt. That’s so boring! Stop trying to look act and be the same as the same old boring plastic model. Be you beautiful one. And stop lusting after generic plastic beauty that lacks substance.
Remember those those generically hot guys or bombshell gals that everyone wanted to date or be in high school (and sometimes they manage to stay ladies men or it girls for many years)? Where are they now? Most likely they either abused or ran away from or hopefully came to terms with the superficiality of their so-called physical perfection that got them in the door (or nether-region). A lot of the Hollywood hot people are actually suffocated or suffering with their beauty because no one can see the real them.
Yes beautiful: true beauty is on a much deeper level. We are all here by Divine Design; we are created by our creator with a perfect divine plan. We are gifted with the perfect package. We are all incredibly attractive to our Twin Flame, and vice versa. We are even granted a certain number of soulmates who find us stunning and make us feel our own attractiveness. Sometimes it can be annoying when you’re not attracted back to these people (a soulmate whose lesson/gift is to uplift your beauty confidence)! When I was in Italy I got a ton of cat calls and suitors who complimented me to the point where I stopped doing my own beauty affirmations because being told that I was hot all day long by these stallioni burned the message into my subconscious. Ironically, though their compliments helped me get into “I’m hot” instead of “I’m not” thinking, I only ended up being attracted to three men during my 3-year love affair with Italy. More ironically was that none of these men hit on me until later in our dating. Still, I will always be grateful for coming of age in Italy and hope that more American and Anglo men can learn the art of flattery and compliments from their Latin counterparts.
Ultimately, it’s about having both mutual physical attraction and mutual soul attraction for the right soulmate. Guess where it starts? It starts within…
Use the Law of Attraction!
The Law of Attraction states that “like attracts like.” Therefore, if you want to attract someone that you find attractive, you must first find yourself attractive. Hopefully you like what you see in the mirror! It’s no easy feat in this culture, where we limit the ideas of beauty. Especially for women, right!? I myself suffered from Barbie complex (and I still catch myself in moments sometimes) where I thought unless I looked like the perfect skinny toned perky Californian blondie, I couldn’t be loved or beautiful. It sucks when you live in fear of cellulite, water retention, wrinkles, pimples, and all the other stuff that comes with being woman/human! That’s not pretty. True beauty is confidence. Self-acceptance. Joy. Trust. Good posture. Open-heartedness. A smile is beautiful. In a nutshell, when you are radiant, glowing yourself, your own true Divine frequency out to the Universe, that is beautiful. Then you are a real bite of bait for the right soulmate.
Fall in love with yourself
That’s it. That’s what it takes–become a narcissist! Kidding. That’s so not the right word…Self-adoring, that’s a better fit! You don’t have to be self-absorbed in a selfish or narcissistic way to love yourself. True self-love is the kind where you are so in love with yourself that you see God/Goddess in yourself. Then, you see that God/Goddess and you are one. You feel the oneness of your soul with all souls, with divinity. You look in the mirror and see love and light that comes from your being a child of God/Goddess. And that you are not separate from God/Goddess. This becomes very exciting! Then you realize that all beings are little fractions of God, or more like microcosms of the macrocosm through which you can explore Oneness.
There are many potential soulmates out there for you to test out
Some are zany, insane, sexy, scary, goofy, interesting, boring, annoying, beautiful, and highly unattractive reflections of God/Goddess. Your job: to love everything and everyone in an unconditionally loving and compassionate way while discerning what is best for you as a human. It is not wrong to be attracted to certain types and not others. It is not wrong if you grew up around a certain type of person and feel comfortable marrying only that type of person. Never date (in the long term, one date is OK!) or marry someone you’re not attracted to. I do suggest trying to date outside of your race, class, spirituality, social group etc., so that you can understand Oneness through diversity. You will learn a lot as you seek out your Twin Flame. Moreover, it is possible that your Twin Flame is not a part of your inner circle/race etc. Many Twin Flames have reported to be living in different parts of the globe yet attract each other through divine guidance (plus online connecting or crossing during travels). They seem to often know that despite the differences of culture/race etc., there is an instant feeling Twin Flame recognition that is quite strong.
Your soul knows what you need, and your human self will be guided and follow the path perfectly to the perfect mate. It’s OK to kiss a few frogs on the journey too, but do keep in mind that you must be happy, blissful, satisfied! It all starts with gratitude for where you’re at, which is what I discussed in my article Harnessing Gratitude to Harness your Twin Flame!
Fall in love with the mirror to attract an attractive partner
Self-Love & Beauty Mirror Ritual:
Look in the mirror and repeat the following prayer/affirmation:
“I am beautiful. I love the soul that I see appearing in the mirror. The soul in the mirror loves me back. She (or he) is me. I love the home–the temple body of my soul. My body, skin, face, hair and every nuance of me is perfect. By Divine Design, I am pure and perfect love. I love myself. I am attractive. I am sexy. I am beauty. I am joy coming into human incarnation. My lashes are luscious. My skin is soft. Every corner, curve, wrinkle and nerve of me is placed perfectly so that I can attract the right person/people into my life. My body serves me for my highest purpose and I love her. My body is pretty sexy! My curves are gorgeous. My imperfections are totally perfect. I love the things I complain about, and I complain about them less and less. I love me, for all of me! Thank God/dess for the body I have, and the soul mates with which I share my body are damn lucky!”
In my YouTube video, What the Heck Is a Twin Flame? I define a Twin Flame as the other half of your soul incarnate. It’s living breathing you in the carnage (physical human form) of another. Same soul, different meat-suit.
According to Greek mythology, we were all once attached to our Twin Flame. If we had a male or female other half attached directly to us. But our powers were too strong, we became so godlike that Zeus got jealous and
had humans sliced in half. ‘Til this day, we’re still suffering looking for our Divine Match, according to this metaphorical (I think!?) legend. In another blog article, What Is a Twin Flame? Twin Flame Q & A by A Twin Flame Expert, I talked about the difference between a Twin Flame Love and a soulmate love.
A soulmate in essence is a soul who comes in to teach you a lesson (and vice versa) and it can be romantic or not. If a Twin Flame being the other half of your soul can be a very exciting concept for those of us new to waking up, or those of us who have been awake but not yet totally aligned in relationship. Twin Flame seeking then becomes a very beautiful path of self-discovery then.
Not many people have known about our ability to attract a Twin Flame up until recently.
Many spiritual schools taught that a Twin Flame is something not worth seeking or of importance; some schools teach that it’s outright impossible for most. But it’s 2016, and the matrix energetics are realigning. New perspectives are allowing us to seek the answers within, and often times the answers say “I don’t choose to believe that,” and it is so. We are what we think. Beliefs shift reality. Once indoctrinated to believe we simply couldn’t have what we wanted, now we can indoctrinate ourselves with whatever we choose.
In 2012, we became our own doctors. Our own teachers, masters, gurus, shrinks, and lovers. That doesn’t mean that we can’t get external guidance and motivation along the way and that all external mentors are ineffective. Contrarily, teachers are simply mirrors of ourselves showing us what we believe or deep down know inside of us. When we have false teachings show up, it’s ourselves giving ourselves a test with a trick question on it. Do you (a) Write it off that you can’t have your Twin Flame because someone told you or it hasn’t happened, (b) Believe in Twin Flames but choose that it’s not likely for you, (c) Stay openminded and open-hearted to the idea as you deeply seek deep self-soul love, or (d) Decide that you definitely have to have a Twin Flame or else (you’ll die perhaps!?)? The best answer I suggest is (c). Why not give love a try, with the parachute on your back being the deepest sense of self-love and self care?
How do I know if my partner is my Twin Flame? First, ask yourself, do you even really want a Twin Flame? Here is what is required of being in a Twin Flame relationship:
- Deep soul evolution, being on an Ascension path
- Self-awareness at all times, on all levels
- Being conscious from a Higher Self perspective
- Being grounded in the earth plane and facing your insecurities
- Going through a Dark Night of the Soul, if needed, to get to the Higher Self aspect
- Healing your root chakra and learning to make friends with money, survival, and wealth consciousness
- Being willing to surrender everything you currently “know” as love
- Being willing to leave a bad marriage or even a pretty decent one that is not your Twin Flame relationship
- To learn and know the difference between karmic soulmate love and Twin Flame Love vibrations
- Letting go of the way things look
- Being willing to fall in love with someone who might not fit into the box of traditional relationships
- Being open to your Twin Flame being on another side of the globe or of a different culture
- Tons of clearing, healing cleaning, de-cluttering of your aura, home, finances, and all aspects of your life so they align with the truth
- Finally, and most importantly: deep unconditional self-soul love and gratitude
Darn! That’s a long list, I know you’re saying. It is. Yet think about all the soul growth you’ve already done in your life and even over the past few years. That’s a long list too.
Even if you have just a few things on the list above, you’re already getting Twin Flame set if you so desire. Now back to the question, how do you know if you’re in a Twin Flame relationship? Simply study yourself and how you are showing up in your current relationship.
Twin Flame Examination Starts at the Self.
First focus on YOU, and not the relationship (an external Twin Flame Mirror of you)…
Staring at you allows you to empower yourself and go to the source of the Twin Flame relationship, since you’re the only one you’ll be with 24-hours a day for the rest of your life! And you are the one who decides if someone is your Twin Flame. I have been told by several men that they were likely my Twin Flame and with pressure and persuasion behind it for not so Light reasons…it seems “Hey baby, I think you’re my Twin Flame” could be the latest New Age pickup line!
When we don’t start at ourselves, we often end up in situations of abandonment and needing to heal a broken heart by a false Twin Flame
Here are the questions to ask yourself as you evaluate your current relationship to see if you are with your Divine Beloved:
- Do I deeply know myself?
- Do I love what I see when I look in the mirror?
- Do I spend lots of time doing things I love?
- Do I have a rock solid relationship with rocks, nature, trees, water, earth, fire and even fairies?
- Do I give myself full credit for being as powerful as I am?
- Do I criticize or hate myself in any way and let myself get away with it?
- Can I financially support myself and do so blissfully or do I have a job I hate that gives me migraines?
- Do I have a relationship to my sensuality and understand my sacred sexuality?
- Have I let go of all of my past relationships fully?
- Does my heart feel so open wide that I love all things?
- Do I have a huge dose of unconditional self-love?
- Do I have a huge doses of unconditional love for every being on the planet?
True Twin Flame Litmus Testing to Be Released Next Fall!
Joking:) So you wanna take a litmus test to know if your guy/gal is the Twin Flame for you?! Pee into this panel and I’ll send it off to the lab and tell ya:) Kidding! While they haven’t come out with a Twin Flame fool proof test, you can try this one to get some good ideas:
- Have I “come out of the closet” as a healer, indigo, crystal child, rainbow, etc, or do I hide myself and my talents to “play it safe” in front of my partner?
- T or F? In a way, I know I could leave this person, because we are so entirely at one that on some level it doesn’t matter if we’re together or apart. I have faced my fears of disappointing him or her and my own fears of abandonment.
- Am I staying with this person for the sake of the children, appearances, or out of insecurity?
- Do I find this person attractive on most all levels?
- Has your partner ever abused you verbally, physically, or psychically?
- Is your relationship of service to the planet in a way that serves people outside of the relationship/family? (This can count even if it’s through deep love energetically releasing to the world).
- Is there one single thing that doesn’t fit that keeps eating away at you or the relationship that you can’t let go for over more than a year? Sorry, I hate to break it to you, but this sounds like a deal-breaker…
- Have you not unlocked some really old childhood fears and behaviors and family programs that are inhibiting your current relationship to a great degree? (this is not a total sign s/he isn’t the one, but it’s a good sign that as you heal, your energy will greatly shift making you more TF eligible).
- Does your partner fully love you and support you and accept you?
- Does your partner reject your ideas frequently, or not understand who you are on the deepest level?
- Do you and your partner not know a lot about each others Higher Self energies?
- Would you give your life for this person? If so, that’s not a good sign! You have to always put yourself first:) That was a trick question BTW!
Truly the best way to know if someone is your Twin Flame is to know yourself. Don’t forget that you are your greatest resource at all moments, and you are the Godchild/Goddesschild of the One. Feel free to check out my video How Do I Know if Someone is My Twin Flame?
Dr Amanda Noelle, the Twin Flame Matchmaker, helps match High-Healed Priestesses with their Twin Flames at light speed while helping them build 6-figure purpose-based BLI$$nesses.
Origin of the Twin Flame Love Theory
In my recent article post, How Do I know if my Partner is my Twin Flame?, I talk about the many signs that your partner is your Twin Flame or symptoms that they’re not. I also mention that the concept of Twin Flames is not a new one, and that in his Symposium, Plato speaks of the ancient concept that Twin Flames are literally the other half of the human soul that has incarnated into a form of another, and the reason why we all have the desire to meet our soulmate (most of us do anyway). Here’s an interesting and at least entertaining read about soulmate love from our favorite Greek philosopher. Click here for my video: What is a Twin Flame? to get a better understanding of the Twin Flame theory:
Aristophanes’s Speech from Plato’s Symposium
Translated by Benjamin Jowett from Collected Works of Plato, 4th Edition, Oxford U. Press, 1953 (189c-189d) p 520 to (193d-193e) p 525
Aristophanes professed to open another vein of discourse; he had a mind to praise Love in another way, unlike that of either Pausanias or Eryximachus. Mankind, he said, judging by their neglect of him, have never, as I think, at all understood the power of Love. For if they had understood him they would surely have built noble temples and altars, and offered solemn sacrifices in his honour; but this is not done, and most certainly ought to be done: since of all the gods he is the best friend of men, the helper and the healer of the ills which are the great impediment to the happiness of the race. I will try to describe his power to you, and you shall teach the rest of the world what I am teaching you.
In the first place, let me treat of the nature of man and what has happened to it. The original human nature was not like the present, but different. The sexes were not two as they are now, but originally three in number; there was man, woman, and the union of the two, of which the name survives but nothing else. Once it was a distinct kind, with a bodily shape and a name of its own, constituted by the union of the male and the female: but now only the word ‘androgynous’ is preserved, and that as a term of reproach.
In the second place, the primeval man was round, his back and sides forming a circle; and he had four hands and the same number of feet, one head with two faces, looking opposite ways, set on a round neck and precisely alike; also four ears, two privy members, and the remainder to correspond. He could walk upright as men now do, backwards or forwards as he pleased, and he could also roll over and over at a great pace, turning on his four hands and four feet, eight in all, like tumblers going over and over with their legs in the air; this was when he wanted to run fast.
Now the sexes were three, and such as I have described them; because the sun, moon, and earth are three; and the man was originally the child of the sun, the woman of the earth, and the man-woman of the moon, which is made up of sun and earth, and they were all round and moved round and round because they resembled their parents. Terrible was their might and strength, and the thoughts of their hearts were great, and they made an attack upon the gods; of them is told the tale of Otys and Ephialtes who, as Homer says, attempted to scale heaven, and would have laid hands upon the gods.
Doubt reigned in the celestial councils. Should they kill them and annihilate the race with thunderbolts, as they had done the giants, then there would be an end of the sacrifices and worship which men offered to them; but, on the other hand, the gods could not suffer their insolence to be unrestrained. At last, after a good deal of reflection, Zeus discovered a way.
He said: ‘Methinks I have a plan which will enfeeble their strength and so extinguish their turbulence; men shall continue to exist, but I will cut them in two and then they will be diminished in strength and increased in numbers; this will have the advantage of making them more profitable to us. They shall walk upright on two legs, and if they continue insolent and will not be quiet, I will split them again and they shall hop about on a single leg.’
He spoke and cut men in two, like a sorb-apple which is halved for pickling, or as you might divide an egg with a hair; and as he cut them one after another, he bade Apollo give the face and the half of the neck a turn in order that man might contemplate the section of himself: he would thus learn a lesson of humility. Apollo was also bidden to heal their wounds and compose their forms. So he gave a turn to the face and pulled the skin from the sides all over that which in our language is called the belly, like the purses which draw tight, and he made one mouth at the centre, which he fastened in a knot (the same which is called the navel); he also moulded the breast and took out most of the wrinkles, much as a shoemaker might smooth leather upon a last; he left a few, however, in the region of the belly and navel, as a memorial of the primeval state.
After the division the two parts of man, each desiring his other half, came together, and throwing their arms about one another, entwined in mutual embraces, longing to grow into one, they began to die from hunger and self-neglect, because they did not like to do anything apart; and when one of the halves died and the other survived, the survivor sought another mate, man or woman as we call them,–being the sections of entire men or women,–and clung to that.
Thus they were being destroyed, when Zeus in pity invented a new plan: he turned the parts of generation round to the front, for this had not been always their position, and they sowed the seed no longer as hitherto like grasshoppers in the ground, but in one another; and after the transposition the male generated in the female in order that by the mutual embraces of man and woman they might breed, and the race might continue; or if man came to man they might be satisfied, and rest, and go their ways to the business of life. So ancient is the desire of one another which is implanted in us, reuniting our original nature, seeking to make one of two, and to heal the state of man.
Each of us when separated, having one side only, like a flat fish, is but the tally-half of a man, and he is always looking for his other half. Men who are a section of that double nature which was once called androgynous are lovers of women; adulterers are generally of this breed, and also adulterous women who lust after men. The women who are a section of the woman do not care for men, but have female attachments; the female companions are of this sort. But they who are a section of the male follow the male, and while they are young, being slices of the original man, they have affection for men and embrace them, and these are the best of boys and youths, because they have the most manly nature.
Some indeed assert that they are shameless, but this is not true; for they do not act thus from any want of shame, but because they are valiant and manly, and have a manly countenance, and they embrace that which is like them. And these when they grow up become our statesmen, and these only, which is a great proof of the truth of what I am saying. When they reach manhood they are lovers of youth, and are not naturally inclined to marry or beget children,–if at all, they do so only in obedience to custom; but they are satisfied if they may be allowed to live with one another unwedded;
Is Leo showing us a clue here of Plato’s Twin Flame concept?
And such a nature is prone to love and ready to return love, always embracing that which is akin to him. And when one of them meets with his other half, the actual half of himself, whether he be a lover of youth or a lover of another sort, the pair are lost in an amazement of love and friendship and intimacy, and one will not be out of the other’s sight, as I may say, even for a moment: these are the people who pass their whole lives together, and yet they could not explain what they desire of one another. For the intense yearning which each of them has towards the other does not appear to be the desire of lover’s intercourse, but of something else which the soul of either evidently desires and cannot tell, and of which she has only a dark and doubtful presentiment.
Suppose Hephaestus, with his instruments, to come to the pair who are lying side by side and to say to them, ‘What do you mortals want of one another?’
They would be unable to explain. And suppose further, that when he saw their perplexity he said: ‘Do you desire to be wholly one; always day and night in one another’s company? for if this is what you desire, I am ready to melt and fuse you together, so that being two you shall become one, and while you live live a common life as if you were a single man, and after your death in the world below still be one departed soul, instead of two–I ask whether this is what you lovingly desire and whether you are satisfied to attain this?’–
There is not a man of them who when he heard the proposal would deny or would not acknowledge that this meeting and melting into one another, this becoming one instead of two, was the very expression of his ancient need.
And the reason is that human nature was originally one and we were a whole, and the desire and pursuit of the whole is called love. There was a time, I say, when we were one, but now because of the wickedness of mankind God has dispersed us, as the Arcadians were dispersed into villages by the Lacedaemonians. And if we are not obedient to the gods, there is a danger that we shall be split up again and go about in basso-relievo, like the profile figures showing only one half the nose which are sculptured on monuments, and that we shall be like tallies.
Wherefore let us exhort all men to piety in all things, that we may avoid evil and obtain the good, taking Love for our leader and commander.
Let no one oppose him–he is the enemy of the gods who opposes him. For if we are friends of God and at peace with him we shall find our own true loves, which rarely happens in this world at present. I am serious, and therefore I must beg Eryximachus not to make fun or to find any allusion in what I am saying to Pausanias and Agathon, who, as I suspect, are both of the manly nature, and belong to the class which I have been describing. But my words have a wider application–they include men and women everywhere; and I believe that if our loves were perfectly accomplished, and each one returning to his primeval nature had his original true love, then our race would be happy. And if this would be best of all, the best in the next degree must in present circumstances be the nearest approach to such a union; and that will be the attainment of a congenial love.
Wherefore, if we would praise him who has given to us the benefit, we must praise the god Love, who is our greatest benefactor, both leading us in this life back to our own nature, and giving us high hopes for the future, for he promises that if we are pious, he will restore us to our original state, and heal us and make us happy and blessed.
This, Eryximachus, is my discourse of love, which, although different to yours, I must beg you to leave unassailed by the shafts of your ridicule, in order that each may have his turn; each, or rather either, for Agathon and Socrates are the only ones left.
All you have to do to attract your Twin Flame is be in bliss in all seven chakras
The Law of Twin Flame Attraction states that in order to meet and marry your Twin Flame, you must meet, marry, and integrate yourself first. This takes aligning yourself in a healthy and loving way on all levels: body, mind, and spirit, and in all 7-chakras. When your aura sings at the seven-chakra sweet song of your own soul, your soulmate ‘hears’ it telepathically and you both can connect with each other through your (shared) Higher Self, as Twin Flames share the same Higher Self.
Phew! Sounds kinda tough, right? For most 30 and 40-something women, we struggle within something big in our lives, that we haven’t been able to completely overcome. Whether it’s an issue with our body image, self-esteem, sugar-addiction, financial issue, relationship addiction, fear of being vulnerable, etc., our past still haunts us and blocks us from our Twin Flame attraction.
A CUPCAKE TO TWIN FLAME ACTIVATE!
The thing I see blocking my clients most frequently regarding Twin Flame Love is the wounded Inner Child. Therefore, I have devoted an entire blog about…CUPCAKES!! A cupcake to Twin Flame Activate. Yep, with a sprinkle of magic, the sweetness of the Universe, and a little goddess elbow grease, you can have your Twin Flame cake, and eat it too.
I HEART cupcakes. It’s been an obsession since forever, and it got worse when they became a trend back in 2008. What is it about these tiny individual sized portions of cake that makes me feel so in love? Is it their little sweet mountaintops of pure rich creamy sugar? The cuteness of their mini-size? I wonder: how does one go on living without one tiny little cupcake every so often, when they are so cute, so nurturing, happy-hormone producing, and reminiscent of five-year-old birthday parties?
As I sit here writing and nibbling on a cupcake, I feel compelled to share my theory: no matter how you frost it, indulging in things that bring you joy (and in my case today it’s cuppies), allows us to exude light and bliss to the world which…WHAM helps you attract whatever we want, which includes our Twin Flame. Bliss is simply another term for Twin Flame Love; amping up the bliss revs up our Twin Flame energies as well.
Great cupcakes are better than so-so sex with the wrong partner.
I wanted to tell you: cupcake therapy is one totally acceptable and awesome way to nurture and celebrate your Inner Child. And a happy Inner Child within the adult makes a happier, sexier, more grounded whole woman. Hence, whole adult woman+happy inner child = sexy soulmate magnet material. So if you are every bit as passionate about these tiny little gems as I am, eat up (maybe like once or twice a week?), enjoy every morsel, and in doing so you are a few bites closer to Mr. Right!
Interview with a cupcake. If cupcakes could talk, or at least the cupcakes that I eat could talk, here is what they would say. And my take on the matter too…
RANDOM CUPCAKE SECRETS 101
1) When eating a cupcake, you don’t ever have to grow up
When you eat us cupcakes, it’s OK to momentarily say to yourself “I don’t wanna grow up!” And it’s TRUE! For those parts of yourself that want to stay and enjoy being childlike. Let me state it bluntly to your Inner Child: You don’t. Ever. Have to. Growing up!
The parts of yourself that are ready to grow up will grow up, but your inner child may never want to do that! So live with it kiddo, take another bite, and enjoy the sugary rush as the frosting stickies your fingertips. If you decide to grow up, the tiny tike in you, you will only do so out of sheer excitement anyway.
Allowing yourself to be a child in the appropriate spaces, allows for her (your Inner Child) to have special time to shine and enjoy life. You will then have more “inner mom freedom” and energy to focus on adult projects with more efficiency and pleasure. Trust me: there’s nothing like an unhappy, nagging inner child while you’re on an adult date, trying to work, or trying to workout at the gym!
2) Little shameless pleasures
Be that little girl smeared with frosting writhing in joy and sheer pleasure. To the Inner Child, the concept of anything but “me me me,” being the moment, and sensory stimuli doesn’t exist. She is shameless about her self-love to the extreme. She doesn’t care about diets or what boys think of her yet.
As a sensual woman, you need stimulation. You need to give yourself to have shameless pleasure. Try eating a cupcake practicing a shamelessness in the way you eat it. Don’t judge yourself about the calories, the crumbs, the speed. Just do it to pleasure yourself and notice what you feel.
3) Create community like cupcakes do
Yo, we cupcakes come in batches, and while we’re independent, we’re part of a tribe. And so are you! You need to have your soul-family tribe around you to create the same sort of sweet-treat life that we cupcakes have.
Creating community is an important step in building a Twin Flame relationship, as it will support the relationship, prevent codependency and boredom, and keep the energy real fresh! Never get your relationship get stale, and always frost it with a good dose of dancing, community spiritual gathering, and celebrating!
4) Colorful treats really do make life sweet…in moderation.
The bright pretty artificial cupcake frosting, though now we know may be cancerous, seems so nurturing to the inner child! Solution: find healthy ways to add fun and color into your life. I make a mean batch of gluten-free chocolate cupcakes with coconut milk based frosting that is tinted bright PINK with raspberry juice. Organic raspberries on top and a few chocolate shavings for contrast, and you have a very pretty all-natural cupcake. I’ve even made them with organic coconut sugar, it’s low-glycemic, so you don’t get the sugar rush or trigger sugar-related health issues as much.
Find ways to take the good stuff from childhood, and convert the “bad stuff” into good stuff. I also integrate color into my life everywhere. My house. My gym bag. My clothes. My tooth brush. Being an adult doesn’t mean you have to switch over to brown, black, grey, navy, and white. Just because you’re all grown up in age doesn’t mean that you have to turn into a boring old man! Cupcakes are here to remind us that it’s OK to allow your true colors to shine through, especially the funny frilly pink and bright ones that get edited out say when you’re in a job interview or on a first date.
Dare: I dare you my little Cupcake, as the bright, fun, sexy woman you are, to try wearing something bright and colorful to your next first date, or evening soiree. Rock the neon pink earrings, the swirly bright blue dress. Be unafraid, let your Inner Cupcake and Inner Child shine and you’ll only attract men who are free and fun with their inner little one!
Many frosting-coated blessings to you (healthy natural organic raw frosting that is)!
HEALTHIER CUPCAKES RECIPE
Bob’s Redmill gluten-free cupcake mix (www.bobsredmill.com)
Coconut Oil (use instead of veggie oil)
Raw coconut butter
Pureed strawberries & raspberries
Raw coconut sugar
Or, if you’re lazy, order some Katz Gluten Free Cupcakes online: www.katzglutenfree.com
Thanks for reading this, I think this was one of the most random blog posts I’ve ever let flow out of me, and I know it came in part from my huge Inner Child who wants to share this sweetness with you. She says that you are beautiful, lovely, and you deserve to be together with your Twin Flame. You don’t have to eat your sadness, swallow your tears, or keep digesting old fears. My Inner Child says that she loves you and wants you not to feel alone anymore, because you are surrounded by loving angels, soul-family, and those who love you. Your Twin Flame Union is near!
Ohm shanti cupcake ohm! Namaste, namast-go, aho.
Dr. Amanda Noelle, The Twin Flame Matchmaker helps High-Healed Priestesses turn their bliss into 6-figure BLI$$nesses and Twin Flame relationships that heal and change the planet.