Even the most magical women get hit by dark energy sometimes… This can blocks us from attracting what we want: our abundance, our soul purpose, and our Twin Flame.
Beloved, does this sound like you?:
– Is a destructive energy blocking you from your Beloved?
– Do you keep attracting energy vampires left and right?
– Are you having trouble sleeping, focusing, or feeling grounded and safe?
– Is your life being sabotaged for no apparent reason?
– Does something just feel off?
This blog is for you if you’re ready to clear your aura for good and get a sparkly clear love life, sans demons and darkness, to get down to your true essence so you can attract a divinely aligned Twin Flame Love.
I actually recently hit my own struggles with darkness and it was quite a journey returning the crown back on my Crown Chakra. It happens to all High-Healed Priestesses!
My Twin Flame Jack and I just spent the summer between Europe and the East Coast. We stayed in a few spooky old farmouses and castles in France, Vermont, and Upstate New York…places that felt, well, a little HAUNTED! Here’s a pic of me in front of the super spooky haunted barn.
Since returning to San Diego a few days ago, I have been noticing an upper limit to my magic….Something just felt off.
Even all four of our websites went down with malware, even after we’d invested hundreds of dollars in getting them clean! It’s as if the demons are saying they wanted to destroy everything in their path….
But I decided that I am DONE with darkness, and I am ready to spread my light fully!
Would you like to release the darkness too, to tap into your peak priestess performance?
Great! It’s time! By claiming your energy field and building a radiant shield of protection (divine light), you are making room for your Twin Flame to come in.
Your Twin Flame will only be attracted to your soul when he/she an actually recognize your soul, which means your auric field needs to be squeaky clean. No energy blocks or old cobwebs sister!
Here are some juicy goddess tools I have used over the years that really work to spruce up the ol’ energy field. They’ll help you call in your Twin Flame and virtually anything your gorgeous soul desires.
But first…Note that there are many ways to clear an aura.
Here are four useful principles to help you get and keep your aura clean:
- You’ll want to clean your aura regularly, as a practice, and also clear your home and office, and wherever else you spend your time regularly.
- Also, dark energy must be cleared out with love and light, not fear, panic, or paranoia. Love and compassion are the the holiest of sanitizers, like a psychic version of Purell!
- I also suggest having a huge sense of humor, and laughing at the darkness and silly demons (maybe even cackle to loosen things up!).
- Practice makes perfect, and over time you’ll realize how sensitive you are to unclean energy, and you’ll get better at keeping things pristine.
Tips to Cleanse Your Aura
Feather dust! Take a feather–I like wild turkey feathers or ostrich feathers—and ‘dust’ your aura from head to toe, down the arms, down through the feet, and throw all the negative energy into an invisible drain that returns it to the center of the earth.
Turn on the shower of white light, or the violet flame (a cleansing ray), use a rose hue, or anything thing will do! Imagine light pouring down from the heavens and cleansing the parts of you that feel triggered or stuck.
Golden Egg of Protection
This energy field filters out negative energy trying to get in. Sometimes I see women attempting to call in their Twin Flame, but because they aren’t protecting their auras, they’ll keep calling in dark energy which keeps the Karmic Soulmates, Twin Flame Counterfeits, and lower vibrations coming in…
To use this tool, the Golden Egg of Protection, place a bubble–something that looks like a golden egg–around you, about 12-18 inches outside of your body. This sits just at the edge of your aura. Make sure if you have a tendency to have big aura to tuck in your aura so it fits inside this bubble so you’re not up in everyone else’s energy fields! This will help untangle you from other people’s drama and help you claim your own power so you can really step into self-love.
Additionally, you may place any symbols of protection you like in the Golden Egg of Protection, like Egyptian ankhs, Mary Magdalene roses, pagan crosses, merkaba, etc at the edge of the egg and watch energy bounce right off.
Goddess Cleansing Bathing Rituals
Clear things up with the holy sacrament of water! Water be used in ritual to bless our body that is made of water, and our soul that vibrates at the merkaba structure that is held within water.
Use Himalayan or Dead Sea salt to neutrailze negatively charged energy in your aura. Or take a dip in the ocean! The negative ions will balance you out.
Boost your bathing rituals by saying a prayer asking your angels and guides to remove negative and toxic energy. I like to add epsom salts, essential oils, and herbs. Most essential oils have some cleansing properties, though I really like peppermint, lavender, frankincense, and rosemary for cleansing.
It’s crucial to clear your aura of energy from exes, past lovers, your parents and ancestors, and doing an intentional ceremony to help clear out your past from these energies and spirits will be of use. Otherwise, you may get caught in a Twin Flame Runner and Chaser loop, where you try to pull in your partner, but there are past energy blocks impeding him or her from coming in.
Design your own cleansing bathing ritual and use the energy from the fire before and after your bath with smudging.
I normally smudge daily, and I wish I’d done this during my travels!
I was once told by a psychic that it is scientifically impossible for ghosts (spirits without bodies) to reside in homes that have been smudged. Dunno if it’s true, but I’ll take that! I like the way that smudging feels–so purifying! You can use palo santo, cedar, sweet grass, or frankincense as well.
Smudging with sage or other plants clears out negative energy in your aura and in area you’re in. Take an abalone shell and place a handful of loose white sage inside and light them. Or use a smudge bundle and light the leaves.
Allow the sage to smoulder and wave this smoke using a feather or fan into your aura or area of the room with stagnant energy.
Pass the smudge across your heart and hold it there for a few moments stating “I clear unhealed heartbreaks from my past and I now step into a Twin Flame frequency at my heart
Don’t forget to smudge the bottoms of your feet to get grounded, and your crown chakra, and also smudge closets, bookshelves (all that mental energy!), and corners extra well. Enjoy the difference after a good smoke down!
These tools are each super powerful in their own right, and you can use them at your own pleasure, leisure, and way.
I’d love to hear back from you about what you have used to cleanse, or what you’ve struggled with in the aura clearing process.
Simply post in the comments below and share your thoughts, and I’ll do my best to reply!
PS: Tell me what color your aura is, and I’ll bonus you a kiss!
In order to call in your Twin Flame and truly live an abundant life, you have to heal every part of yourself, including your past. You can’t hold on to the anger from a past relationship. You cannot send hate to your ex and send love to your current partner and be in soul-alignment: Oneness doesn’t work that way! If you don’t heal your energetic relationships with exes, you will be holding on to heavy weight energy blocks. This will attract Twin Flame Counterfeits, Twin Flame Runners, Karmic Soulmates, etc, and it’s not pretty! In order to attract your one true Twin Flame you must heal all relationships, even the most painful and hurtful past relationship that you thought you’d moved on from.
It’s time to heal all ex relationships (and even past crushes!)
Exes are like previous seasons who have helped you cultivate your crop. Some are like spring: blooming you into blossom. Others are like winter–giving you a rest and testing your survival. But all the seasons are important to you, as they make you the well-rounded goddess you are!
Above is a photo I recently re-discovered of me and my first long-term relationship. Enrico was the Italian who Shanghaied me, literally to Shanghai China, where we lived for 1.5 years. These were the hardest and most growth-filled years of my 20s, but I don’t regret them. I didn’t speak the language. The weather was harsh in 2 of the four seasons, and the other two were very short. I was constantly on my last few bit of Yuan–so financially broke that I rode a bike in the streets of Shanghai with 1000s of others where I was the only white girl! A sea of black hair, then me. The blond… It was the most painful relationship to let go of in my 20s, but I did it because I new that there was something bigger for me. But it took me a long time to heal from it, and the way I finally healed was through gratitude.
Accept loneliness as part of a Twin Flame path
Loneliness was something I learned to deal with on a deep level–both in China, and in my relationship with Enrico. At age 24, I didn’t know anyone in Shanghai, and my man wasn’t compatible on the spiritual level. I was starting to wake up, and my spiritual gifts and pursuits frightened him. So I went into my own world and opened up alone, and hid my passions from him in our relationship. It was some of the most exciting stuff and I wanted to share it with someone, but I was still new to the shamanic world and didn’t think anyone would relate.
Loneliness gets healed when you realize that you are never alone. I started embracing my loneliness and slowly it became apparent that I wasn’t alone. I became friends with a dear friend of mine from Germany who would give me psychic readings and supported me so much during that time. I also became content with being the only blond on a block of 10,000 people and feeling OK with being different. What a gift, actually!
I tried leaving that relationship many times. But there was a great deal of love and compassion (and co-dependence) for each other, and leaving love is never easy. I tried packing up my bags and coming back to California, but something kept me stuck in Shanghai for what felt like a long time. At least Enrico had a great sense of humor, and taught me a lot about not taking life seriously! There were many good times, between the bad… I got to go visit his family just outside of Venice, Italy a few times and experienced some of the best home cooked food of my life!
The problem is that for many years after the relationship, I didn’t focus on gratitude for my relationship with Enrico. I would subtly bad mouth him in front of people, because I hadn’t fully been in my power in the relationship and hadn’t expressed my feelings when I was in it. I wish I had been able to heal my pain and focus on gratitude sooner; I would have probably not have attracted my Twin Flame Counterfeit, taken so long to meet my Twin Flame, and have gone through so much drama!
Appreciate the spiritual growth
Life has its ups and downs, but you grow so much on a deep spiritual level, even through your pain.
There is no faking it–sometimes it’s just awful! Like the time I finally had the courage to say goodbye to Enrico and leave him in Shanghai, knowing that I would likely never see him again. But I didn’t cry because it felt done, I had cried so much already. I’d been wanting to do it for a long time, it was complete. And then I cried like a baby saying goodbye to our housekeeper Xiao Ping, my ‘big sister’ who had seen me through my loneliness and pain when Enrico was gone at work and I stayed home working hard at my first business (as a personal trainer and wellness coach, and not succeeding). Being in a relationship with the “wrong guy,” a Karmic Soulmate, seems to call in Soul Family–people who are here to teach you and help you grow. Some of the best friends in my life have come through supporting each other around our relationship issues!
Sometimes you gotta leave and it’s hard. You blame yourself. You have to forgive yourself for what you did then. You chose not to stay stuck in your pain. Celebrate your bravery–you got out!
You don’t need to punish yourself and stick around playing the Twin Flame Runner game: where time and time again you are heartbroken and hurt by men you think is your Twin Flame, or by crushes who don’t requite your love. I see my female clients doing this all the time. They hurt someone in the past so they subconsciously decide they deserve to be hurt rather than getting what they want.
You deserve a deep relationship, with true Twin Flame Love.
Gratitude is one of the biggest keys to attract your Twin Flame relationship
Here is the most important key to letting go of exes and moving into a Twin Flame vibration. It is to ask yourself: What did I learn from this relationship? Instead of putting your focus on how bad he hurt you, what it was like when you were so in love, how can you get him back…focus on what you learned. Maybe you learned that you want to not be abandoned, that you want your beloveds to stick around. Maybe you learned that you have more healing to do around being abandoned that came from your childhood. Perhaps you can learn to find partners who are on your spiritual level, versus finding fixer uppers and karmic soulmates. Here are the questions to ask in a mini 20-second exercise:
- Why did you attract this person?
- What did your relationship teach you?
- What will you NEVER do again?
- What did you enjoy about this relationship that you wish to carry on in the next?
- What were you grateful for about this relationship?
And here is a powerful affirmation to read over and repeat out loud or in your mind to help you clear past exes and attract your Twin Flame:
I’m grateful for all the seasons of the past – past-lives, past boyfriends, past hurts, and past loves.
Now that you have healed your heart chakra you are ready for your Flame! So now what!? Now that you have healed the past, what will you be grateful for in your next relationship? Your Twin Flame relationship!? Post in the comments below. And if you’re not sure, come join us for the free New Moon Raw Cacao Ceremony this month to help you set intentions and get clear on your Twin Flame intentions!
Twin Flames Are Our Mirrors
The parts of ourselves that we love and hate are mirrored onto our Twin Flame.
Dang it! I thought when we found our Twin Flames we were going to live in a magic bubble and never have to deal with problems again.
In this post I want to underline how important it is to accept ourselves, and how the way I have rejected myself showed up in my Twin Flame relationship. I almost became the Twin Flame Runner that I so despised because I nearly rejected myself. I don’t want this for you!
Self-Rejection Shows up as Those Annoying Things About Your Twin Flame
I used to have body image issues. Still do. Which is why I projected that I needed a Twin Flame to be as hot as a conscious Ashton Kusher.
I thought I had to have a man like that to be happy in life. My Twin Flame, as it turned out, has reddish hair and a very red beard, which I was NOT expecting and it took me time to get used to. I’m picky! He’s not dark and tan like the man I always fantasized about. He gets sunburnt on Sundays at brunch. Before I met him, I was sure I had to have a tan muscle-man in order to feel satisfied.
Believe me, my Twin Flame has a sexy body. Great arms, broad shoulders I can grab onto and sink my teeth in. But he’s real. He is man and God, but boy is there no escaping that he (like me) is a raw and real human.
I have never felt comfortable with my human body, and my Twin Flame often reflects my discomfort
He’s sexy and yet he’s human. Along with the orange beard, he’s got occasional breakouts on his back (sorry babe, hope I can share!). I’m like, “Babe, it’s time to do a back facial to get rid of that bacne! Boys are so lazy. How can you tolerate bacne?!” and he’s like “Woman, men don’t care about that $hit, leave me alone my back is fine.” Then I attack him with a back brush or yummy salt scrub–and he likes it because it reminds him of being groomed by his mother. We play-fight and it’s fun.
He’s teaching me to chill about my female primping and preening perfectionist tendencies!
What you thought you wanted wasn’t always real. The key pieces that were soul aligned came true:
- He’s beautiful inside and out
- He’s spiritually awake
- He has a heart of gold
- Our soul purposes align
- We love each other as God/Goddess
- Our desire for birthing star children aligns
Is it important that I look like Barbie or that he’ll be my Ken? Nahhhh.
Will Jack look like a GQ model always and forever? Sometimes he does actually, but as we turn gray some day together, I won’t care about the fact that he doesn’t always scrub his back. Plus, I am starting to get more cellulite and I have to love myself there.
What I am most excited about is the way that he makes me feel, and how I get to make him feel. I am an empath, and so is he; so it pays of to bliss each other out. We adore and love each other. We stick each other out in the hard ugly hairy scary moments.
What’s more is that I am so ready to collaborate deeply with our soul purposes in business, with the new earth eco village dreams I have had, and in raising children. What can I say is more sacred than these pieces? I am lucky, and proud that my Twin Flame is a perfect reflection of me and I will continue to do my very best to live myself and of course thus love him too!