I say this with love and compassion. But I also say it with some mama bear passion with my sacred Hell NO!
I have the right to say this, to express my opinion. Especially after watching thousands of women come to me in tears because their supposed “Twin Flame” has run. I heard the same flipping the story over and over again, like a broken record! It makes you think that there’s probably something wrong with our society, not something wrong with these Twin Flame Runners and Chasers.
Women are constantly blaming themselves for making their Twin Flames run (sometimes without much explanation or even compassion) and she is left to pick up the pieces. In the process, she blames herself, and is often absolutely still sure that this man is her twin.
Here is what I have to say to this scenario: Fuck Twin fLame Runners!
A true man has balls… And he holds the moon for you! I had one of those Lame Flames that would blow out if I breathed too strong. I call him a Twin Flame Counterfeit, the TFC. It taste good, but it’s about as healthy for you as KFC. Killing Friendly Chickens.
For a really long time I believed that the other half of my soul just needed to wake up and that he would possibly come back someday. Just like they tell you in the fairytales… The handsome prince comes back to kiss the sleeping beauty. Though prince charming was distant, focused on his own goals and life without caring about me, I stuck around energetically anyways. Asleep at the wheel for thousands of years waiting for my prince.
Because society told me that this was Twin Flame Love, and I also think I was under some sort of witchy she spell, to be honest.
And so I stayed around for five fucking years holding my breath hoping that Prince Charming would somehow wake up and come back and make me feel loved again, as I had felt the moment we met.
While I send this flame of my past lots of love, I realize that it was a total counterfeit flame that was not serving my light for the long-term. Instead, it was sort of a shadow flame, a dark flame that stoked my passion for love and light. But it was not the love and light itself!
We have to lovingly forgive ourselves for being such freaking idiots in counterfeit love! How did I actually believe that someone who could abandon me in the middle of my deepest opening, activating my ancient wounds, and not stick around and hold me with unconditional love could be my Twin Flame?
I don’t know about you, but the other half of my soul would never abandon me. That’s not my style! I can safely say that the other half of my soul would never leave me high and dry during the most dramatic moment of my life. He would come towards me to resolve the situation the best he could, even if it was messy. My twin flame would never run, at least not for more than a few moments. And that’s how he would treat his children, his family, and his tribe.
My Twin Flame counterpart is a king who loves you and his people and who never leaves you or his people.
That’s why my current partner Jack and I are loving each other up so much. We’re very committed people – to the New Earth, and to Twin Flame Love…and so we don’t abandon. We don’t shut down our emotions and run. We communicate, we look into each others eyes, we work things out. Even when it’s dramatic and traumatic and scary.
Abandonment is not the sacred act of a Twin Flame, it’s not an act of true love. Abandonment is a sin, as sin simply means “to go without.” I never want to “Twin Flame sin” again, to go without my own self-love–to leave and abandon myself by hanging around waiting for some guy to come back. Staying stuck in the pain for thousands of life times while truelove could have been right there at my fingertips. Waiting for someone to come back who has abandon you is the worst thing for the inner child and for children. It touches upon the great father wound that has scarred each of us on the deepest level. In order to heal those heart tissues, we must commit to finding those who do not abandon. And to work on our abandonment issues ourselves.
We, especially women, need to be brave enough to ask for partners who stay.
Who work on the issues. And stop calling those runners our true Twin Flame. Find true sustainable flame he love. That’s 1 million times better than a sexy ungrounded affair that leads to years of pain and wounds… Twin Flame runners will drop the ball on you almost every time. But Twin Flame Stayers will love you and show up to do the work.
Dr. Amanda Noelle, The Twin Flame Matchmaker
What if a Twin Flame runner, or a Twin Flame Counterfeit, as I call it, keeps running in and out of your life or just your mind, and it drives you crazy? How can we avoid such intense Twin Flame runner and chaser dynamics, so that we can ground true Twin Flame Love?
You know if you’ve got a Twin Flame Counterfeit/runner if:
- He/she brings up all of your wounding – from your childhood, past lives, and deep unconscious blueprints
- You start to awaken to unconditional love, and then when the person leaves, it feels like it’s gone (but it’s really not! I promise…)
- You have suicidal thoughts after they leave you, and you feel like your soul purpose is to be with them always and NOW (which it’s not, I promise! If it were, you’d be with them…)
- You feel like you’re off your orbit and you’ll never get it back
- You feel like you’re holding the pain of the entire universe inside of you; particularly, the abandonment of the Divine Feminine by the Divine Masculine at the beginning of this universe’s timeline
- Your runner abandoning you triggers you to feel a deep longing to go back to the past, like the future will never be the same, because something terrible has happened, a loss so deep it’s unrepairable
A Twin Flame Counterfeit comes into your life with all of the signs of the true Twin Flame, but there is something not quite right. A trauma occurs, and there is a blending of deep true divine love and an ancient heartache. A Twin Flame runner and chaser dynamic is an emotionally enervating and dysfunctional relationship dynamic that comes out of an unhealed trauma or wound in both partners.
What is Twin Flame Love?
People often misunderstand Twin Flame Love. They think that when they experience it for the first time, that it has to be the source that mattered. That that Joe or Jane was their Twin Flame because it was the first person to help her/him active the Twin Flame frequencies within. This is not the case.
Twin Flame Love energies are within all of us, and most of us have a lot of clearing to do to activate, reclaim, and heal our self-love and Twin Flame Love in order to attract the other half of our soul, our Twin Flame reincarnation.
Twin Flame runners and chasers serve a soul purpose
To end Twin Flame runner pain, we have to understand the purpose for them coming into our lives. We have to own that we are not victims, but we are healing an ancient pain that needs clearing pronto for our soul purpose mission and true Twin Flame to come in.
Often times Twin Flame runners are here simply to awaken your soul’s ancient love briefly, like a match igniting a candle, and then it blows out. But the candle stays lit, despite the fact that they are gone. It can be like a painful birthing process, where a new life is born, but there’s a descension happening in occurrence with your soul’s ascension, simultaneously. There is much soul growth and sometimes it can be exquisitely painful…Hang in there!
Are you ready to see the divine truth?
Twin Flame runners activate divine truth at the same time they illuminate lies and deception. You must master this dear child of God/dess! You are here to master of decoding the illusion of love so that you can step into the deepest truest unconditional, Divine Love. Be not afraid, you and your tiny human self will lick her wounds; you will heal, and you will be closer to the truth and to God/dess than you have ever been. You will become him/her indeed! This is the Twin Flame initiation, and it is not for the faint of heart.
Twin Flame chasers pine after you or you for them because the wound is so painful that you have unearthed, it’s a sacred wound held in the Divine Feminine within the collective. As the Divine Feminine Rising occurs, we must clear clear clear the old abuse and abandonment wounds within. We restore Her within us as we cleanse the pain. There is no love outside of you. You are love. Yet it is normal to want to run and chase after an illusion of love. This is the core mistake of the Twin Flame runner and chaser dynamic.
How do you know the difference between true Twin Flame Love, and a TFC?
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As a Twin Flame Matchmaker, people are always asking me, Amanda, How do I know if someone is my Twin Flame? And I always answer that you know when you know, and I highly recommend not rushing it. If it’s real and eternal and infinite, there’s nothing you could ever do to destroy it or push them away. Unless part of you wants to!
If you’re consulting psychics, oracles, daisies (he loves me, he loves me not…), then you are not yet living in a Twin Flame relationship. An adult Twin Flame relationship takes two whole balanced adult and committed people who are not living in a fantasy land where daisies predict the future. You and your Twin Flame don’t leave it up to the gods to take care of you, you control your destiny and you’re not waiting around for someone to come save you or be saving someone else.
Twin Flames allow each other to find each other and stay together when they’re ready. If you’re struggling and it’s not working and not in the flow, take time apart and heal yourself. Let go. Surrender the relationship. If it’s the real deal, s/he will come back. But you have to learn to let go and let God/dess and release the relationship that you’re clenching your teeth about.
Twin Flame runners are here to awaken the ancient Twin Flame energies and clear past life karma
There may be bleed-throughs from many past lifetimes in which you and your Twin Flame Counterfeit were together and something painful happened that you still need to resolve. Perhaps it was a death, a betrayal, a judgement, or an abandonment, and you are here to complete that karmic soulmate relationship. Or, maybe you were connected to some gift together in a lifetime that needs healing. For instance, maybe you were a healer, a shaman, an high priestess and your Twin Flame energies got compromised when you were burnt at the stake and traumatized. Often times, I find my clients who have very strong karmic pulls towards so-called Twin Flames later on find out that they were madly in love because of a past life intense energy, and not a good one!
My Twin Flame Counterfeit karma tale
My somewhat embarrassing Twin Flame Counterfeit (TFC) story is that I was killed in a past life in New England for being a metaphysical practitioner, and my TFC and I both died together in that lifetime. In this lifetime, we had a similar karmic bleed-through and attracted a horrid situation which involved persecution, financial loss, and a death-like out of body experience which got me arrested and traumatized.
I was madly in love with my TFC and was certain that he was my Twin Flame, and I couldn’t imagine letting him go. It felt like a real death. Three years passed and through much healing and releasing work, I let him go and could finally move on.
But I was stuck in a crazy loop for nearly three years that I couldn’t get out of and was convinced he was the one for me! This is an example of how your so-called Twin Flame may be a TFC that has a deep karmic tie that you are here to clear and bring to the Light. That’s what Twin Flame runners and chases are for!
PS: Watch the Twin Flame Separation video here!
Dr. Amanda Noelle is a Twin Flame Matchmaker helping single spiritual women swiftly attract their Twin Flames. She is the founder of Aphrodite University, the first online Divine Feminine university for High-Healed Priestesses.