Despite their seemingly unbreakable armor, narcissistic men are actually very vulnerable underneath it all. They’re just brilliant at hiding their tenderness from women under their layers of manipulation, lies, illusion, unhealthy behaviors, and possibly playing around with your heart.
Have you ever found yourself in a romantic relationship, and you give him everything, and you’re left with nothing and you feel more powerless than ever before? And you still thought he was your ultimate soulmate or Twin Flame? It’s humbling–you feel drained and super confused as to why this happened to you…. He could be a narcissist man. Here are the 7 signs so you can tell for sure…
Here are the 7 Signs of the Narcissist Man
He has no boundaries and doesn’t want you to set any. If you don’t set your boundaries, you will be victimized by narcissists; narcissists energetically cord into your chakras and leech energy like “energy vampires,” and they’ll do the same with emotions, attention, physical space, finances…and pretty much anything! So set your boundaries and put up psychic protection as well.
He feeds off of your insecurity. He tells her she’s wrong, isn’t entitled to having what she wants, and puts her down to keep her small. If a woman is lonely and desperate and longing for love, she’s likely to attract someone is (a)is attracted to her neediness, and (b) is repulsed by her neediness like he was with his mother. The narcissist man feeds off of abuse and her fear of abandonment, as he has inwardly felt manipulated and abandoned by his co-dependent mother since early childhood. So, by finding a woman who is equally insecure, needy, and longing for love, she makes him feel important–but he has to put her into an insecure state to “keep her.” Macho men who put down women are an example of this. Deep down they’re the ones who are most afraid of being abandoned and heartbroken! That’s why it’s our job as women to take responsibility for our insecurity and heal our Divine Feminine Wounds.
He manipulates, takes without giving, and justifies it every time. An over-giver is always going to be his target, as he feels entitled to taking, taking, TAKING….He actually doesn’t feel strong and secure in the world without a woman’s presence, though that’s the last thing he’d admit. These manipulators often sleep around with women or are into serial monogamy. The narcissist man has unhealed Mother Wounds–as his mother didn’t set healthy boundaries and was either overly attached or detached. The narcissist man feeds off of his over-giving partner who often gives from guilt, hoping that he’ll stay if she is “good enough” to him.
He leads you to believe that he can give you the whole fairytale, but he never really does. The narcissist man needs his woman to believe that he’ll soon bring her what she wants, and thus attracts women who are often hopeless romantics, fantasizer types, and dreamers. Deep down these women are wounded by the patriarchy and lack self-esteem so they cannot ask for what they truly deserve. When you’re living in a fairytale waiting for prince charming but you don’t feel good enough, you settle for fakes.
He’s not a truth teller, he’s good at lies, and doing what it takes to get his way. He does this because deep down he doesn’t feel good enough to face the truth. He feels that without embellishing a little (or a lot) he’s not good enough. So he builds up a puffed up false ego that he hopes will attract women in awe. If this is you, if you’ve been duped by a liar, you’ll want to ask yourself, “Where do I feel small, and where am I lying to myself?” This type of man is magnetized to women who are naive and innocent, so make the effort to educate yourself about your circumstances, step into your power, and ask for what you’re worth. If this man can’t give it to you, the right one will!
Lack of empathy. He lacks empathy, you’re an empath. You’re feelin’ for two, baby! Where he can’t feel, you’re there holding the space for the emotional intelligence…but for him! The job of the empath is to feel how she is feeling, and not get stuck in how others are doing. While easier said than done, the empath female must say NO to any behaviors that feel like a violation. When she starts taking herself and her own emotions seriously, she’ll no longer keep attracting narcissists who don’t have the capacity for empathy.
He’s a perfectionist. Whether or not he’s trying to be perfect himself, he puts pressure on you either verbally or you just feel it, to be the perfect woman. He is controlling and seeks perfection, and projects this onto you. So maybe your diet to have the perfect body for him, say or do things to impress or become an overachiever at work…If you’re a perfectionist, end this cycle by choosing not to care about external appearances so much; instead go inward and work on the self-love. Then it’s certain that you’ll no longer magnetize this type of man!
Women, let me know what you felt hearing this list… Have you dated a narcissist? And why do you think you attracted this? What are you doing now to boost your self-worth to prevent these patterns from happening again? I would love to know in the comments below.
Elephants are a sign of the Divine Feminine, and while the Divine Feminine is awakening rapidly, we’re running out of time. We need to remain calm and steady, but we can’t keep waiting.
We have to let go of our perfectionist ways and take action. We must love ourselves first, feed the Feminine, and heal our wounds. This is a top priority. We also have to say NO to men who mistreat us, and nurture the little boys and also set healthy boundaries with them so they gain a sense of self.
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Thank you so much, beloved…
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Feminine energy is a powerful healing energy that allows us to open to receiving. Feminine, referred to as yin energy in Traditional Chinese Medicine, is an energy that tends to be more calm, compassionate, and caring.
Without the feminine, we’re in trouble...
Everyone--both men and women--have masculine or feminine energy, and that these energies must be balanced. Many people, even women, are lacking feminine energy (or are hiding their feminine side) in the overly-masculine world.
In the modern world, women are expected to be more nurturing, soft, and beautiful while being successful and sexy. We’re expected to be mothers and CEO, romantics and leaders. The past history where women were once suppressed is crumbling as women quickly break the chains. We are calling out old behaviors, creating #metoomovements, and are stepping away from the patriarchy.
Here are the seven signs to tell if you have Twin Flame.
Sign No. 1: Something Has Always Been Missing
From birth you felt a really strong calling. You felt like something was missing, and you wanted to find it. You didn’t necessarily know what it was, but you just felt this like “ugh” feeling–this feeling–a strong desire.
Sign No. 2: Obsession
You have been obsessed with Twin Flames. You’re Googling, you’re checking out all the blogs, you maybe have been read books on Twin Flames, or perhaps you’ve hired a Twin Flame expert or coach. You are so into finding your beloved that you can’t get enough info about Twin Flames and aligning with yours!
Sign No. 3: Intense Relationships
You have been in many or at least a couple of really intense relationships. And you are soaking up all the knowledge and learning about Twin Flames from this experience. Whether the person you love is your Twin Flame or not, you are in love with learning… You love deep.
Sign No. 4: You’re a Love Machine
You are just a loving person. You care a great deal. You are PASSIONATE, and even though you may have highs and lows you’re a very loving tender being. You love the planet; this makes you a natural humanitarian and planetary healer.
Sign No. 5: You’re Here to Build the New Earth
You have a huge soul purpose and you want to build the New Earth. You know you’re not here to just have a cute little picket fence kinda nice life with your family. Instead, you’ve woken up to seeing a higher vision–you really wish share your purpose and gifts to heal the world.
Sign No. 6: You Are a Healer With a Purpose
You feel that you have been a healer in many lifetimes, and possibly have been persecuted, maybe even burned at the stake. You are an intuitive with a high level metaphysical skills set that goes beyond the physical world; you’ve woken up to this at least recently, if not as a child. Many of us wake up in different times in our lifetime but you have at least recently been feeling like you wish to share your healing gifts with the world and that you cannot just work nine to five in a soul-suckinng job. Your soul purpose drives you.
Sign No. 7: You Work Hard to Love Yourself
You are willing to do whatever it takes to heal all of you, all of your chakras, and you know that self-love is the only answer. You know that in order to manifest your Twin Flame (ultimate and holy union), you must heal and love thyself. You are so dedicated on your own healing journey that you are willing to do what it takes and receive the help to give you the fastest breakthroughs. You are aware that healing yourself isn’t not only for you or to attract your own beloved, it’s also for your family, your community, or for the clients/fans who follow you. You’re here to awaken and activate the planet by shifting consciousness, vibration, and taking action.. You can even become obsessed with learning new modalities of healing the planet and sometimes it keeps you up at night. You dream about shifting the planet, because you’re here to create the Ascension for humanity. You are constantly researching new methods, looking into self-development courses and maybe you’ve hired a ton of experts or healers to improve yourself.
These seven signs will help you determine that you are a Twin Flame, and whether you have a Twin Flame on this earth.
However, many believe that not everyone has a Twin Flame incarnate on the planet…
Are you one of them? Learn more here and let me know…
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XO… lots of love!
Dr. Amanda Noelle, Mystical Matchmaker & Love Code Hacker
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Feminine energy is a powerful healing energy that allows us to open to receiving. Feminine, referred to as yin energy in Traditional Chinese Medicine, is an energy that tends to be more calm, compassionate, and caring.
Without the feminine, we’re in trouble...
Everyone--both men and women--have masculine or feminine energy, and that these energies must be balanced. Many people, even women, are lacking feminine energy (or are hiding their feminine side) in the overly-masculine world.
In the modern world, women are expected to be more nurturing, soft, and beautiful while being successful and sexy. We’re expected to be mothers and CEO, romantics and leaders. The past history where women were once suppressed is crumbling as women quickly break the chains. We are calling out old behaviors, creating #metoomovements, and are stepping away from the patriarchy.
“Where is he? Where is he? Where is he!?” I would ask myself over and over again, like a broken record.
I looked far and wide for my Twin Flame, and it took me 35 years to hunt him down–but I finally did it!
I have written this article to help you expedite your Twin Flame attraction process so you can step into Twin Flame Union way faster than I did.
Your Twin Begins Within
In order to unite with your Twin Flame, you must not only go out and look for a partner, you must first look within. You must love yourself before you can be loved. You’ve got to hit a decent level of emotional, financial, physical, and spiritual stability/strength to align with your Twin. The Twin Flame preparation process is essential work to be done before even asking the question “Where do I meet him?” Click here to watch this video meditation to attract your Twin Flame about self-love:
Twin Flame Self-Love Meditation: Call in Your Beloved
Without self-love–even if you were to go to all the right places at the right time–you wouldn’t recognize him/her. You could be in the same room and practically bump into each other, then continue complaining about how your Twin Flame will never come. I have seen it many times! Self-love is the true Twin Flame magnet. Even Twin Flame telepathy doesn’t solve the issue: you must become a beacon of love for it to stick.
When you are ready, this person seems to come out of nowhere
Just postulate for now that your Twin Flame was already in your neighborhood, crossing your path every day. He is even in your aura hearing these words in your head. Now it’s simply a matter of preparing your soul.
OK… So I think you get the point. Let’s saved in the preparation work and now you are ready to find your Twin Flame!
I have worked with thousands of women around the world seeking their twin flames. While everyone is different, I have noticed some common places where Twin Flame Couples meet.
These are the top five places to meet your Twin Flame:
1) Twin Flacebook
You guessed it! In the modern-day world we live in, you cannot discount the biggest social media platform where people in your age-range and interest level hang out. It is kind of obvious when you think about it, but what is not obvious is the following – to use Facebook as a dating site (or twin flame sacred space, in our case) you have to reach out to people and hunt for what you want. My clients, fans, and friends have met their beloveds because one of the twins approached the other and ask for a Skype date. Are you going to judge yourself because this sounds nerdy, or are you willing to find your beloved who may be on the other side of the planet, happy to first connect with you on cyberspace? Don’t question your happiness… Just follow your intuition! Be creative! We are in a dating drought, but there is an epic amount of love around, so approach people for conversation and see where it goes.
2) Hey Yoga Girl…
Want to meet a hot, hunky fit guy while sculpting your sexy body as well? Why not hit the gym and tag two birds with one stone? It’ll be great to have a workout buddy and partner for life! Sometimes this takes compromise. You may like a women’s gym, for example. This doesn’t mean that you have to join a muscle-head gym, but try something like CrossFit or a yoga class where both sexes in your age group hang out.
3) Retreat Pray Love
Retreats are a great place to meet because we tend to have our hearts very open when we go on vacation. Whether you meet somebody on the actual retreat itself, or you expand your energy and meet someone when you come home, retreats will activate Twin Flame Energy. We tend to be less focused on habits and home, and more on growth, expansion, and we are detached from human day-to-day needs. In fact, my parents met on a spiritual retreat at Asilomar in Pacific Grove, California taking a class on Divine Feminine Divine Masculine polarity in the 70s. I appreciate that they were opening themselves to conscious spirituality when they met!
4) Spiritual Tribe
Despite the myth that it’s easy to meet someone at a bar or club, I have found it to be rare, unless you’re looking for simply a hot fleshy evening. If you’re looking for a committed spiritual partnership, you’ll want to tap into a spiritual or conscious community that suits you. You won’t be wasting time here either–even if you don’t meet someone right away, you’ll be blissing out with loved ones, which sets the stage for your Twin Flame. Soul Family and conscious connection is part of the Twin Flame Union tapestry.
5) Stop! Hobby Time!
Do what you love, and your love will follow. Hiking. Camping. Tango dancing…. I have heard it so many times. “I always wanted to learn to fly fish, and I met my guy there!” Try something new; it could be salsa dance, or acting improv, or cooking classes. Doesn’t matter what it is as long as it blisses you out.
It helps if you can attend activities where the available singles hang out. But even if you don’t meet your partner there, I have seen it where someone gets set up on a date though a sisterhood circle. So don’t focus on meeting someone, focus on following what pleases YOU. And someone who pleases you will be certain to arrive.
I met my beloved while dancing at Ecstatic Dance Oakland. Ecstatic Dance is one of my favorite hobbies, and some of my best friends and Soul Family surrounded me there. I was in full body, mind, and spiritual bliss and was dancing in my feminine power.
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It took me many long, harrowing, exciting, sad, scary, adventuresome years and lifetimes. But I finally let down my guard and was able to see the truth: Jack is my other half (well, more accurately, my Divine Mirror) and we’re diving into our Twin Flame Union!
And I used this one simple secret over and over, and I know it’s what has paid off. It’s also what has worked for all of my Twin Flame clients, and was the only thing that kept my sanity when I was practically left at the altar by the man I thought was my Twin Flame.
Seriously, I cannot over-emphasize this enough ladies: Twin Flame Love is merely a mirror of self-love. So self-love is the conduit for Twin Flame Love and Divine Love to flow.
What is the fastest way to your Twin Flame, the ultimate beloved?
I’m a Twin Flame Matchmaker, and I have seen it all. Many women I have worked with have attracted a Twin Flame runner, or even a Twin Flame Counterfeit–someone who looks like the part in every way, but who runs and who cannot sustain a long-term healthy relationship. Some of these ladies obsess over the lost love, but it brings them no where and Prince (or Princess) Charming doesn’t come back until they take this one action:
We must never abandon ourselves. We must crave our own love. We must heal our own hurts and tears and tears in our auras.
It’s simply falling in love with yourself, and aligning all your 7 chakras with YOU, singing at your own soul frequency. Here is a Twin Flame meditation video I hope will help you:
Twin Flame Self-Marriage: Marry Yourself to Marry Your Twin Flame
Enjoy, and marry yourself, knowing that you are always pure love and deserve the very best from your beloved, and most of all, from yourself.
XO!
Amanda
Dr. Amanda Noelle is a Twin Flame Matchmaker and the Founder of Aphrodite University.
