In order to call in your Twin Flame and truly live an abundant life, you have to heal every part of yourself, including your past. You can’t hold on to the anger from a past relationship. You cannot send hate to your ex and send love to your current partner and be in soul-alignment: Oneness doesn’t work that way! If you don’t heal your energetic relationships with exes, you will be holding on to heavy weight energy blocks. This will attract Twin Flame Counterfeits, Twin Flame Runners, Karmic Soulmates, etc, and it’s not pretty! In order to attract your one true Twin Flame you must heal all relationships, even the most painful and hurtful past relationship that you thought you’d moved on from.
It’s time to heal all ex relationships (and even past crushes!)
Exes are like previous seasons who have helped you cultivate your crop. Some are like spring: blooming you into blossom. Others are like winter–giving you a rest and testing your survival. But all the seasons are important to you, as they make you the well-rounded goddess you are!
Above is a photo I recently re-discovered of me and my first long-term relationship. Enrico was the Italian who Shanghaied me, literally to Shanghai China, where we lived for 1.5 years. These were the hardest and most growth-filled years of my 20s, but I don’t regret them. I didn’t speak the language. The weather was harsh in 2 of the four seasons, and the other two were very short. I was constantly on my last few bit of Yuan–so financially broke that I rode a bike in the streets of Shanghai with 1000s of others where I was the only white girl! A sea of black hair, then me. The blond… It was the most painful relationship to let go of in my 20s, but I did it because I new that there was something bigger for me. But it took me a long time to heal from it, and the way I finally healed was through gratitude.
Accept loneliness as part of a Twin Flame path
Loneliness was something I learned to deal with on a deep level–both in China, and in my relationship with Enrico. At age 24, I didn’t know anyone in Shanghai, and my man wasn’t compatible on the spiritual level. I was starting to wake up, and my spiritual gifts and pursuits frightened him. So I went into my own world and opened up alone, and hid my passions from him in our relationship. It was some of the most exciting stuff and I wanted to share it with someone, but I was still new to the shamanic world and didn’t think anyone would relate.
Loneliness gets healed when you realize that you are never alone. I started embracing my loneliness and slowly it became apparent that I wasn’t alone. I became friends with a dear friend of mine from Germany who would give me psychic readings and supported me so much during that time. I also became content with being the only blond on a block of 10,000 people and feeling OK with being different. What a gift, actually!
I tried leaving that relationship many times. But there was a great deal of love and compassion (and co-dependence) for each other, and leaving love is never easy. I tried packing up my bags and coming back to California, but something kept me stuck in Shanghai for what felt like a long time. At least Enrico had a great sense of humor, and taught me a lot about not taking life seriously! There were many good times, between the bad… I got to go visit his family just outside of Venice, Italy a few times and experienced some of the best home cooked food of my life!
The problem is that for many years after the relationship, I didn’t focus on gratitude for my relationship with Enrico. I would subtly bad mouth him in front of people, because I hadn’t fully been in my power in the relationship and hadn’t expressed my feelings when I was in it. I wish I had been able to heal my pain and focus on gratitude sooner; I would have probably not have attracted my Twin Flame Counterfeit, taken so long to meet my Twin Flame, and have gone through so much drama!
Appreciate the spiritual growth
Life has its ups and downs, but you grow so much on a deep spiritual level, even through your pain. There is no faking it–sometimes it’s just awful! Like the time I finally had the courage to say goodbye to Enrico and leave him in Shanghai, knowing that I would likely never see him again. But I didn’t cry because it felt done, I had cried so much already. I’d been wanting to do it for a long time, it was complete. And then I cried like a baby saying goodbye to our housekeeper Xiao Ping, my ‘big sister’ who had seen me through my loneliness and pain when Enrico was gone at work and I stayed home working hard at my first business (as a personal trainer and wellness coach, and not succeeding). Being in a relationship with the “wrong guy,” a Karmic Soulmate, seems to call in Soul Family–people who are here to teach you and help you grow. Some of the best friends in my life have come through supporting each other around our relationship issues!
Sometimes you gotta leave and it’s hard. You blame yourself. You have to forgive yourself for what you did then. You chose not to stay stuck in your pain. Celebrate your bravery–you got out!
You don’t need to punish yourself and stick around playing the Twin Flame Runner game: where time and time again you are heartbroken and hurt by men you think is your Twin Flame, or by crushes who don’t requite your love. I see my female clients doing this all the time. They hurt someone in the past so they subconsciously decide they deserve to be hurt rather than getting what they want.
Gratitude is one of the biggest keys to attract your Twin Flame relationship
Here is the most important key to letting go of exes and moving into a Twin Flame vibration. It is to ask yourself: What did I learn from this relationship? Instead of putting your focus on how bad he hurt you, what it was like when you were so in love, how can you get him back…focus on what you learned. Maybe you learned that you want to not be abandoned, that you want your beloveds to stick around. Maybe you learned that you have more healing to do around being abandoned that came from your childhood. Perhaps you can learn to find partners who are on your spiritual level, versus finding fixer uppers and karmic soulmates. Here are the questions to ask in a mini 20-second exercise:
Why did you attract this person?
What did your relationship teach you?
What will you NEVER do again?
What did you enjoy about this relationship that you wish to carry on in the next?
What were you grateful for about this relationship?
And here is a powerful affirmation to read over and repeat out loud or in your mind to help you clear past exes and attract your Twin Flame:
I’m grateful for all the seasons of the past – past-lives, past boyfriends, past hurts, and past loves.
Now that you have healed your heart chakra you are ready for your Flame! So now what!? Now that you have healed the past, what will you be grateful for in your next relationship? Your Twin Flame relationship!? Post in the comments below. And if you’re not sure, come join us for the free New Moon Raw Cacao Ceremony this month to help you set intentions and get clear on your Twin Flame intentions!
Have you been desiring more love in your life? Do you want to release the fear, and replace it with pure Divine infinite love? Are you ready to let go of Twin Flame fakes and release Twin Flame runner issues?
Whether you are a woman who is ready to call in your Twin Flame, or just enter into a self-love healing space, this might be the right medicine for you. Experience the breathtaking Twin Flame Reunion inside you.
In this video for Twin Flame women, you’ll participate in a journey of healing with this Twin Flame Guided Meditation, be hypnotize to be ready in calling in your Twin Flame with healing guidance and activation.
What is the fastest way to your Twin Flame, the ultimate beloved?
I’m a Twin Flame Matchmaker, and I have seen it all. Many women I have worked with have attracted a Twin Flame runner, or even a Twin Flame Counterfeit–someone who looks like the part in every way, but who runs and who cannot sustain a long-term healthy relationship. Some of these ladies obsess over the lost love, but it brings them no where and Prince (or Princess) Charming doesn’t come back until they take this one action:
We must never abandon ourselves. We must crave our own love. We must heal our own hurts and tears and tears in our auras.
It’s simply falling in love with yourself, and aligning all your 7 chakras with YOU, singing at your own soul frequency. Here is a Twin Flame meditation video I hope will help you:
Twin Flame Self-Marriage: Marry Yourself to Marry Your Twin Flame
Enjoy, and marry yourself, knowing that you are always pure love and deserve the very best from your beloved, and most of all, from yourself.
XO!
Amanda
Dr. Amanda Noelle is a Twin Flame Matchmaker and the Founder of Aphrodite University.
I say this with love and compassion. But I also say it with some mama bear passion with my sacred Hell NO!
I have the right to say this, to express my opinion. Especially after watching thousandsof women come to me in tears because their supposed “Twin Flame” has run. I heard the same flipping the story over and over again, like a broken record! It makes you think that there’s probably something wrong with our society, not something wrong with these Twin Flame Runners and Chasers.
Women are constantly blaming themselves for making their Twin Flames run (sometimes without much explanation or even compassion) and she is left to pick up the pieces. In the process, she blames herself, and is often absolutely still sure that this man is her twin.
Here is what I have to say to this scenario: Fuck Twin fLame Runners!
A true man has balls… And he holds the moon for you! I had one of those Lame Flames that would blow out if I breathed too strong. I call him a Twin Flame Counterfeit, the TFC. It taste good, but it’s about as healthy for you as KFC. Killing Friendly Chickens.
For a really long time I believed that the other half of my soul just needed to wake up and that he would possibly come back someday. Just like they tell you in the fairytales… The handsome prince comes back to kiss the sleeping beauty. Though prince charming was distant, focused on his own goals and life without caring about me, I stuck around energetically anyways. Asleep at the wheel for thousands of years waiting for my prince.
Because society told me that this was Twin Flame Love, and I also think I was under some sort of witchy she spell, to be honest.
And so I stayed around for five fucking years holding my breath hoping that Prince Charming would somehow wake up and come back and make me feel loved again, as I had felt the moment we met.
While I send this flame of my past lots of love, I realize that it was a total counterfeit flame that was not serving my light for the long-term. Instead, it was sort of a shadow flame, a dark flame that stoked my passion for love and light. But it was not the love and light itself!
We have to lovingly forgive ourselves for being such freaking idiots in counterfeit love! How did I actually believe that someone who could abandon me in the middle of my deepest opening, activating my ancient wounds, and not stick around and hold me with unconditional love could be my Twin Flame?
I don’t know about you, but the other half of my soul would never abandon me. That’s not my style! I can safely say that the other half of my soul would never leave me high and dry during the most dramatic moment of my life. He would come towards me to resolve the situation the best he could, even if it was messy. My twin flame would never run, at least not for more than a few moments. And that’s how he would treat his children, his family, and his tribe.
My Twin Flame counterpart is a king who loves you and his people and who never leaves you or his people.
That’s why my current partner Jack and I are loving each other up so much. We’re very committed people – to the New Earth, and to Twin Flame Love…and so we don’t abandon. We don’t shut down our emotions and run. We communicate, we look into each others eyes, we work things out. Even when it’s dramatic and traumatic and scary.
Abandonment is not the sacred act of a Twin Flame, it’s not an act of true love. Abandonment is a sin, as sin simply means “to go without.” I never want to “Twin Flame sin” again, to go without my own self-love–to leave and abandon myself by hanging around waiting for some guy to come back. Staying stuck in the pain for thousands of life times while truelove could have been right there at my fingertips. Waiting for someone to come back who has abandon you is the worst thing for the inner child and for children. It touches upon the great father wound that has scarred each of us on the deepest level. In order to heal those heart tissues, we must commit to finding those who do not abandon. And to work on our abandonment issues ourselves.
We, especially women, need to be brave enough to ask for partners who stay.
Who work on the issues. And stop calling those runners our true Twin Flame. Find true sustainable flame he love. That’s 1 million times better than a sexy ungrounded affair that leads to years of pain and wounds… Twin Flame runners will drop the ball on you almost every time. But Twin Flame Stayers will love you and show up to do the work.
TWIN FLAME RUNNER, OR JUST A KARMIC SOULMATE?! Ending The Twin Flame Runner Chaser Chaos
What if a Twin Flame runner, or a Twin Flame Counterfeit, as I call it, keeps running in and out of your life or just your mind, and it drives you crazy? How can we avoid such intense Twin Flame runner and chaser dynamics, so that we can ground true Twin Flame Love?
You know if you’ve got a Twin Flame Counterfeit/runner if:
He/she brings up all of your wounding – from your childhood, past lives, and deep unconscious blueprints
You start to awaken to unconditional love, and then when the person leaves, it feels like it’s gone (but it’s really not! I promise…)
You have suicidal thoughts after they leave you, and you feel like your soul purpose is to be with them always and NOW (which it’s not, I promise! If it were, you’d be with them…)
You feel like you’re off your orbit and you’ll never get it back
You feel like you’re holding the pain of the entire universe inside of you; particularly, the abandonment of the Divine Feminine by the Divine Masculine at the beginning of this universe’s timeline
Your runner abandoning you triggers you to feel a deep longing to go back to the past, like the future will never be the same, because something terrible has happened, a loss so deep it’s unrepairable
A Twin Flame Counterfeit comes into your life with all of the signs of the true Twin Flame, but there is something not quite right. A trauma occurs, and there is a blending of deep true divine love and an ancient heartache. A Twin Flame runner and chaser dynamic is an emotionally enervating and dysfunctional relationship dynamic that comes out of an unhealed trauma or wound in both partners.
What is Twin Flame Love?
People often misunderstand Twin Flame Love. They think that when they experience it for the first time, that it has to be the source that mattered. That that Joe or Jane was their Twin Flame because it was the first person to help her/him active the Twin Flame frequencies within. This is not the case.
Twin Flame Love energies are within all of us, and most of us have a lot of clearing to do to activate, reclaim, and heal our self-love and Twin Flame Love in order to attract the other half of our soul, our Twin Flame reincarnation.
Twin Flame runners and chasers serve a soul purpose
To end Twin Flame runner pain, we have to understand the purpose for them coming into our lives. We have to own that we are not victims, but we are healing an ancient pain that needs clearing pronto for our soul purpose mission and true Twin Flame to come in.
Often times Twin Flame runners are here simply to awaken your soul’s ancient love briefly, like a match igniting a candle, and then it blows out. But the candle stays lit, despite the fact that they are gone. It can be like a painful birthing process, where a new life is born, but there’s a descension happening in occurrence with your soul’s ascension, simultaneously. There is much soul growth and sometimes it can be exquisitely painful…Hang in there!
Are you ready to see the divine truth?
Twin Flame runners activate divine truth at the same time they illuminate lies and deception. You must master this dear child of God/dess! You are here to master of decoding the illusion of love so that you can step into the deepest truest unconditional, Divine Love. Be not afraid, you and your tiny human self will lick her wounds; you will heal, and you will be closer to the truth and to God/dess than you have ever been. You will become him/her indeed! This is the Twin Flame initiation, and it is not for the faint of heart.
Twin Flame chasers pine after you or you for them because the wound is so painful that you have unearthed, it’s a sacred wound held in the Divine Feminine within the collective. As the Divine Feminine Rising occurs, we must clear clear clear the old abuse and abandonment wounds within. We restore Her within us as we cleanse the pain. There is no love outside of you. You are love. Yet it is normal to want to run and chase after an illusion of love. This is the core mistake of the Twin Flame runner and chaser dynamic.
How do you know the difference between true Twin Flame Love, and a TFC?
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As a Twin Flame Matchmaker, people are always asking me, Amanda, How do I know if someone is my Twin Flame? And I always answer that you know when you know, and I highly recommend not rushing it. If it’s real and eternal and infinite, there’s nothing you could ever do to destroy it or push them away. Unless part of you wants to!
If you’re consulting psychics, oracles, daisies (he loves me, he loves me not…), then you are not yet living in a Twin Flame relationship. An adult Twin Flame relationship takes two whole balanced adult and committed people who are not living in a fantasy land where daisies predict the future. You and your Twin Flame don’t leave it up to the gods to take care of you, you control your destiny and you’re not waiting around for someone to come save you or be saving someone else.
Twin Flames allow each other to find each other and stay together when they’re ready. If you’re struggling and it’s not working and not in the flow, take time apart and heal yourself. Let go. Surrender the relationship. If it’s the real deal, s/he will come back. But you have to learn to let go and let God/dess and release the relationship that you’re clenching your teeth about.
Twin Flame runners are here to awaken the ancient Twin Flame energies and clear past life karma
There may be bleed-throughs from many past lifetimes in which you and your Twin Flame Counterfeit were together and something painful happened that you still need to resolve. Perhaps it was a death, a betrayal, a judgement, or an abandonment, and you are here to complete that karmic soulmate relationship. Or, maybe you were connected to some gift together in a lifetime that needs healing. For instance, maybe you were a healer, a shaman, an high priestess and your Twin Flame energies got compromised when you were burnt at the stake and traumatized. Often times, I find my clients who have very strong karmic pulls towards so-called Twin Flames later on find out that they were madly in love because of a past life intense energy, and not a good one!
My Twin Flame Counterfeit karma tale
My somewhat embarrassing Twin Flame Counterfeit (TFC) story is that I was killed in a past life in New England for being a metaphysical practitioner, and my TFC and I both died together in that lifetime. In this lifetime, we had a similar karmic bleed-through and attracted a horrid situation which involved persecution, financial loss, and a death-like out of body experience which got me arrested and traumatized.
I was madly in love with my TFC and was certain that he was my Twin Flame, and I couldn’t imagine letting him go. It felt like a real death. Three years passed and through much healing and releasing work, I let him go and could finally move on.
But I was stuck in a crazy loop for nearly three years that I couldn’t get out of and was convinced he was the one for me! This is an example of how your so-called Twin Flame may be a TFC that has a deep karmic tie that you are here to clear and bring to the Light. That’s what Twin Flame runners and chases are for!
Dr. Amanda Noelle is a Twin Flame Matchmaker helping single spiritual women swiftly attract their Twin Flames. She is the founder of Aphrodite University, the first online Divine Feminine university for High-Healed Priestesses.
Are you ready to call in the love of your life – the other ‘half’ (mirror) of your soul, reincarnate – to raise a Twin Flame revolution? [If you don’t know what I mean by Twin Flame, I explain it in my Twin Flame Video HERE]:
Attracting your Twin Flame relationship isn’t just about the romance, hearts, flowers, chocolates. It is about soul evolution, deep self-love, healing, and being in service and chaining the planet. Acalling in your Twin Flame requires you to begin living your soul purpose and being in service.
I’ve channeled in 14 sizzling hot tips that will help you get your Twin Flame ignition on. To your Twin Flame reunion and marriage!
Clarify your soul purpose. Your soul purpose is a soul contract agreement that you made before your birthed based on your passion, essence, and desires to see earth become healed. You can always change your soul purpose because you have free will, but on some level your soul wouldn’t allow you to change it because it’s why you came here. Click here for a quick Twin Flame self-love meditation to help you align with your Twin Flame and soul purpose.
Start taking massive action to live out your soul purpose. Now is the time. The planet needs you. It’s time to take bold action and to quit sitting idle in the planning phases. Start a blog, a website, reach out to people. Instead of taking classes, start teaching classes and sharing what you know. It’s not about being perfect, it’s about getting over your perfectionism and taking steps that make a change on the planet. The world really needs your Lightwork, your assistance, your opinion, your dreams now! Also, your Twin Flame will be supporting your soul purpose due to your soul contract, and in order to meet her or him, you must really be living it out in the real world, not just ‘someday.’
Create community based on your soul purpose. It’s time to reunite with your soul family. Soul family is your soul group that you reincarnated with around the time you were born give or take a few years. They are beings who came her with the same or similar soul purposes. For instance, my soul family’s soul purpose is to help the Divine Feminine rise and all of my soul family members are obsessed with assisting the Divine Feminine and are working, living, and loving to make that happen 24-7. Uniting your soul family will amass together a soul pod of light which will make it easier for your Twin Flame to find you. S/he will be able to identify your soul light blueprint through the amplification of joy/bliss/soul purpose energies you have harnessed within your community.
Eat more love chocolate. If this resonates with your body. Chocolate, especially high vibrational organic, raw, or at least fair-trade chocolate, invokes a Twin Flame vibration. You can do a raw cacao ceremony doing a Twin Flame invocation, prayer, or intention at the beginning. Raw chocolate recipes are easy to come up with. I make raw alchemical love chocolates using the following pure organic raw ingredients: extra virgin coconut oil, cacao, and coconut sugar. I add a drop of organic rose essential oil to activate the Twin Flame energies into one large batch of raw chocolates. And yes, chocolate is a natural aphrodisiac and it’s one that works on all 7-chakras, not just the lower ones. It turns your Higher Self on. Some of my best channeling sessions are done with light doses of raw cacao. Mmmmm!
Live more blissfully. Bliss is a secret ingredient to Twin Flame manifestation and the Law of Attraction. Grab a piece of paper. Write down a list of 100 things that bliss you out, some of which you may even accomplish this year. Travel to Tahiti? Get lomi-lomi massaged? Wear sexy high-end lingerie daily? Have bigger and better orgasms? Eat French brie in France? Oh gosh, there are so many…Write ’em all out! Then, underline your top 3-5 bliss desires for the year, and write them down on a separate piece of paper. Put this on your wall, on your altar, or do a manifestation ritual or burial ceremony. I like burying my manifestations in the soil, watering them with wishes, and allowing them to grow. A woman riding the waves of her own desire is a woman on the way to her Twin Flame reunion.
Do a Twin Flame ritual at 11:11 on January 1st or 11th, or on a new moon. Click here to get some Twin Flame 1111 ritual ideas. Be creative in your rituals. It’s more fun and high-vibrational rather than being strict and serious in your ceremonials. I like choosing 3 words and 3 colors to create my rituals. For instance, I may pick pink, green, and gold, and use ‘bliss,’ ‘love,’ and ‘creation’ when building my Twin Flame manifestation altar, wearing a ceremonial gown, picking flowers, etc. Have fun, and again, no being too serious or your ceremony will seriously suck!
Forgive your ex-loves. Toast to them in gratitude – the have brought to you the place you’re at! It’s time to bring in the new Twin Flame frequencies, and the new only comes through by releasing the old. Being stuck in the past will hold you back from manifesting your beloved, yet it can be really easy to get stuck because hurt, heartache, and heartbreak are vibrations that can be almost addictive. A ritual of forgiveness and letting go may be in order if you still have some leaky Twin Flame Counterfeit energy.
Pamper yourself like a goddess! Invest in a new style, get massages, do your nails, hair, take optimal spa care of your goddess body, mind, and spirit. You are priceless, and as a High-Healed Priestess you give out a lot of angelic light which needs to be nourished. Fill up on love and pampering care on an ongoing basis, and take it seriously. Write it into your business calendar (or bli$$ness calendar as I call it). Without the pampering, your energy levels will be lagging and your Twin Flame won’t be able to find your light.
Eat more raw, live, fresh organic foods. It’s a great idea to transition to a high-vibration diet of mostly vegetable based local organic produce. Your body will be ready for a Twin Flame DNA upgrade where your DNA is aligned with your own pure soul essence energy versus DNA programs from the collective unconsciousness/media/govenment etc. Purifying your body through aligning with fresh vibrant sensual fruits, veggies, whole grains, legumes, and small amounts of high-vibrating animal products (if you prefer) will create a Twin Flame vessel for your soul. Your body-temple upgrade will be very magnetic for the light
Spend time alone in nature. Reset your Divine Mother energy by surrounding yourself with Mother Nature. The sounds, vibrations, colors, waves, wind, etc will heal your body, mind, and spirit. It’s easy to get bombarded with energy that is not your energy – foreign energy from family, the media, politics, religion, etc., that doesn’t serve your soul. While there’s nothing wrong with family, society etc., it’s important to make separation so that you can ‘hear yourself think.’ Escaping on a solo naturescapade will help you find your inner wisdom, Divine Feminine bliss, and pop your chakras back into shape.
Be weird and have fun! Don’t take yourself seriously. Have a hoot being you. Dress up in fun costumes, even if you’re alone. Try new styles that make you feel magical. I have my pink wig and I wore it out on NYE! I love the playful vibrations women exude when breaking all the rules given to them by society, and a true Twin Flame counterpart will too. The goddess energy expressed through creativity and rule breaking is awesome.
Play matchmaker with your friends. As they say, what goes around comes around, so Twin Flame matchmaking karma will come back at divine timing! Also, friends know what you want and it’s way less embarrassing for them to set you up on dates than for you to walk up to random strangers. Ask your friends to set you up with their eligible guys/gals they meet that they think might be a right fit for you, and you and your friend can even make it a fun game of dating someone new once per week etc and hold each other accountable for your dating calendars!
Marry yourselfHow can you marry someone else if you’re not self-married first? Falling in love with yourself is easy once you clear away the past blocks, low self-esteem programs, and ancestral/family energy etc. Marrying yourself is committing to your self-love, your self-healing, creatively expressing your voice and your choice. You are a unique and different being who has a whole universe waiting inside her to come out. Vow to love it, learn it, and let it out in Divine Love in 2015 and beyond!
Thanks for reading and playing with these tips; feel free to comment, share, and let us know what your favorite tip is or share another one.
Twin Flame BLI$$ings and love!
Dr. Amanda Noelle is the Twin Flame Matchmaker and Founder of Aphrodite University. She helps High-Healed Priestesses go high-end in their 6-figure bli$$nesses that heal and change the world while aligning them with their soul purposes and Twin Flame soulmates.
Accept loneliness as part of a Twin Flame path
To end Twin Flame runner pain, we have to understand the purpose for them coming into our lives. We have to own that we are not victims, but we are healing an ancient pain that needs clearing pronto for our soul purpose mission and true Twin Flame to come in.
Eat more love chocolate. If this resonates with your body. Chocolate, especially high vibrational organic, raw, or at least fair-trade chocolate, invokes a Twin Flame vibration. You can do a 
Forgive your ex-loves. Toast to them in gratitude – the have brought to you the place you’re at! It’s time to bring in the new 
