As a Twin Flame Matchmaker, it’s my role to help single conscious women call in their Twin Flame in 6 months or less.
My beloved Jack and I often help our clients manifest true love even in the first month of working with us without online dating!
We have a very high success rate (approximately 90%) in helping women find love the easy way because we teach them how to matchmake themselves using their Higher Self.
I’d love to share our top 3 dating secrets with you so you can call in your beloved fast with what I call ‘divine dating.’ This sacred approach to dating and Twin Flame Attraction removes the need for online dating, unless you like dating via the web of course.
Before we get started with these 3 secrets , I want to underline that Jack and I spend most of our efforts helping our clients clear out their Twin Flame Love Blocks--the old patterns that hold them back from manifesting their ultimate partner.
Truly, we are simply looking at ourselves in the Twin Flame Mirror: when we heal ourselves, we can quickly call in the love we desire. Thus, before using these tips, I highly suggest working with an expert or participating in a program that will quickly help you identify and bust your Twin Flame Love Blocks so you don’t attract a Twin Flame Counterfeits--a false Twin Flame who run and never give you the love you deserve.
OK, here we go, these are the three secrets to Divine Dating. Note that I list these in ascending order, so the most important secret is at the bottom.
Secret #1: Date Selfishly
This secret doesn’t sound very divine or heart-centered, but it actually is. In reality, when we come from a place of trying to please and appease others, we don’t do justice to us. You are your biggest responsibility and asset. When you put yourself last or even second, it tells the Universe that you don’t regard yourself as the most important center of your YOUniverse. Without honoring your desires, no one can truly hold the space for you either. No one can really fully connect with you when you aren’t connected to you.
Dating selfishly shows the other person you have a self--which is a total turn on to the enlightened guy or gal! You’ll attract your equal--someone else who is rocking his or her soul purpose and who has a strong sense of self. Then, and only then, you can become a Twin Flame Power Couple.
Start by stepping into your desires with a desires journal. Start writing down your biggest dreams and desires regularly if you don’t do this already. It will send a message to the Universe that you are ready for what your heart desires so you can call it in. There are some helpful ways to write Twin Flame affirmations in this blog here.
Secret # 2: Treat Each Date As Your Husband/Wife
I know this may sound odd, but if you can treat the entire world as your Twin Flame, you begin to embody a Twin Flame frequency…
Most singles tend to make chit chat, try to act like they’ve got all their stuff together, and show their best self in front of a first date… But they don’t go deep and they miss the window of golden opportunity to really get to know someone.
Don’t waste your time. Go on a date and pretend that you are meeting a Divine King or Queen. Open your heart and speak to this person with the fullest respect, gentle listening presence, and hold them with love.
What I truly mean here is: treat the men/women you date as sacred beings. Know that you were divinely guided to connected with each other, by no mistake.
Treat them how you want to be treated as a goddess, knowing that this person was meant to go on a date with you, goddess! Hold that space for them, and soon the space will be held for you.
Basically, this one is the Golden Rule of Divine Dating… Treat others as you want to be treated, and hope that one of them will treat you as well as you’ve been treating them!
The good karma will come around fast.
I know it isn’t always easy to put yourself out there with a stranger and treat them with love at first glance. But this is what we Twin Flame Lovers must do.
“You are ready for your Twin Flame when you can love the entire Universe as your Twin Flame.” -Anonymous
It’s not easy…Trust me, I have gone out with many men on many bad dates, so I can imagine what you’re thinking of my advice right now! But give it a chance with unattached love.
I am not saying to mistreat yourself, to endanger yourself, or to break your sacred boundaries. Nope! In fact, I teach my clients how to own their ‘Sacred No’ so they can express love and say no to anyone while remaining in integrity…it’s what you do to honor and respect your Twin Flame because they are merely a reflection of you (to respect them it starts at you).
When I was dating, I started practicing treating each date as if he were my Twin Flame. I treated each man with the most respect, loving attention and care, and I communicated my thoughts openly.
I am a very open and loving spirit, but I was conditioned to hold it back because it’s not ‘normal’ to speak your thoughts so openly, especially on a first date. Maybe you feel the same way? You notice yourself meeting new people and hiding parts of yourself?
That’s natural. I mean why should we share who we really are and treat new people like they are divine reflections of us? Often they were uncomfortable with it anyways…
I pissed a few men off because I spoke my heart, and what I shared wasn’t always something they wanted to hear, like “I feel like you want to kiss me right now, and I am honored by that, but I am not feeling an urge to be kissed by you.” Sometimes disappointing people in a loving way towards you is the best way to treat them as your Twin Flame.
Which leads us to secret # 3…
Secret # 3: Know That That it Is all Happening for a Divine Purpose
We think about dating as a have-to and a headache. We dread dating most of the time, especially these days where Tinder and all the online apps make it so convenient, yet such a hassle!
Most of us think of going on dates as this treacherous duty we have to fulfill and that God/Universe is not looking out for us. We think of it as random, haphazard, and that if we date duds we’re just unlucky.
I have dated many duds, but I look back and each dud dude was a divine gift. Wow! If only I’d seen it then…
I was dating mismatches because they were mirroring the way I was receiving and perceiving myself. Then I started sending love to the duds and consciously letting them go, and at the same time I let go parts of myself that weren’t allowing me to shine and believe that I could have the perfect match.
It was then that I met my perfect Twin Flame, my fiancé Jack.
What if you were to think about dating as a divinely matched healing experience, where whatever and whomever you manifested is part of the reality you are creating?
Truly, every little nuance of a date is created for you, by you, to learn and grow. To see old patterns and release them.
This takes you from victim to victor, where you can really start creating your Twin Flame Life using the Law of Attraction. Then you can start seeing the miracles, the lessons, the gifts in each moment. Even the not-so-pretty moments.
Sure, you’re dating with the intention to meet and marry your Twin Flame. But you have to let go of expectations and surrender to the moment. You will call in your beloved, but it may take a few more dates, lessons, and adventures. Keep healing yourself, keep working with your mentors and getting the help you need to identify and bust your Twin Flame Love Blocks so you don’t repeat unhealthy programs and patterns.
Then, you will be on a date with your Twin Flame soon, and this will all be history 🙂
Each day is a sacred dance, as the earth rotates around its axis we learn and grow a little bit more towards the light. Maybe your date next Tuesday won’t be the one, but it will be the one for that date, that day, that hour…Bring him or her your fullest presence, for you are a gift. And whenever you share it, you shine light and give something back to the planet.
PS: To learn more, watch this video: The #1 Dating Mistake Twin Flames Make (and How to Avoid It)
Twin Flame Wealth Warriors! Are you a Twin Flame lover or seeker who is here to live a fully abundant Twin Flame life?
Does this sound like you:
- You have always had your heart out there for the other half of your soul, and you cannot wait to unite!?
- You believe in the Law of Attraction, and refuse to get stuck on limiting belief systems
- You are fully committed to ending pain on the planet, and to living in pleasure and bliss
- You believe in the concept of Heaven on Earth and you want to unite with your Twin Flame to carry out this mission to fruition!
Lately I have been noticing a LOT of conscious Twin Flame seekers worrying about money.
It even happens to many 6-figure coaches. I meet spiritual people who believe in the Law of Attraction, who have hit 6 figures and a certain level of success, yet they STILL freak out about money all the time.
Twin Flames are here because we know of Divine Abundance. We know of the infinite and eternal aspects of the universe. We are here to merge with our Beloveds in the lower worlds (3rd Dimension Earth) through the Higher Dimensions (heavenly realms).
As Twin Flames, we are meant to become masters of the 3rd Dimensions, meaning that we live in Truth and Trust.
Why do I see so many of you aligning with scarcity and lack, when these are simply not true?
Yes, I see so many brilliant Twin Flame women running on a hamster wheel investing, working, stressing, and it’s just like the full time job they left, even if they’re passionate about their work!
I have been there myself many times, and it’s frustrating that we are still in this old energy trap.
Some of my Twin Flame friends, Soul Family, and clients even freak out about money, then have an $85K launch the next month, then go back to freaking out a few months later. Oye!
I hate seeing my loved ones worrying about money because my parents used to worry about money when I was a kid, it stressed me, and it still gives me PTSD.
Though it feels like there’s no escaping the slave-job mindset in this country, we do live in the Land of the Free and the Home of the Brave! We are meant to release ourselves from these fear-based thought forms.
I am aware that it is incredibly expensive to live in this modern era; right now I joke that 6-figures is the minimum wage, especially if you live in Californian cities/NYC etc.!
But in actuality, I feel what the real reason why everyone is freaking out about money is…We haven’t healed the scars of scarcity from the past!
Twin Flames, it’s time to step into your Divine Abundance.
I think our ancestors came to this land (especially the US) to escape the oppression and harsh control by the elites. It is ingrained in us to ESCAPE poverty and oppression, but we aren’t good at doing what we need to do:
We must ENTER into a calm, Divine Feminine wellspring of Viagra Professional; we must know that there never really was poverty.
Divine Abundance is one of the many Twin Flame attributes.
Scarcity wasn’t ‘real’ — especially for us in this lifetime!
Sure, if you hit 6-figures, good for you. But even if you’re broke in this country, you won’t starve…There’s nothing to fear. For instance, I just heard about a woman who is a single mom and totally broke who gave just birth at Marin General hospital facing the mountains and was fed green juice afterwards. I think this is an example that even if you ‘hit bottom’ you will likely be OK.
There is so much wealth to share. It might *feel* scary but in most circumstances (especially if you don’t have severe health needs) it’s a pretty easy lifetime to survive.
So stop worrying! Stop being a slave to 6 and 7 figures, and focus on being in service and buy Viagra Professional online . (Thanks for the self-reminder).
Never stop following your dreams due to the ‘fact’ that you don’t have the resources right now. You can absolutely find them! I went from being a 0 to 4-figure earner to being a 6-figure earner in just a few years!
Your Divine Abundance mirrors your Twin Flame energies…
I also mirrored my scarcity with men; and when I believed in the abundance of what is truly out there for me, I manifested my Twin Flame Jack.
So believe that you can receive! And you will.
Loads of love and light,
Dr. Amanda Noelle, The Twin Flame Matchmaker and Founder of Aphrodite University
In order to call in your Twin Flame and truly live an abundant life, you have to heal every part of yourself, including your past. You can’t hold on to the anger from a past relationship. You cannot send hate to your ex and send love to your current partner and be in soul-alignment: Oneness doesn’t work that way! If you don’t heal your energetic relationships with exes, you will be holding on to heavy weight energy blocks. This will attract Twin Flame Counterfeits, Twin Flame Runners, Karmic Soulmates, etc, and it’s not pretty! In order to attract your one true Twin Flame you must heal all relationships, even the most painful and hurtful past relationship that you thought you’d moved on from.
It’s time to heal all ex relationships (and even past crushes!)
Exes are like previous seasons who have helped you cultivate your crop. Some are like spring: blooming you into blossom. Others are like winter–giving you a rest and testing your survival. But all the seasons are important to you, as they make you the well-rounded goddess you are!
Above is a photo I recently re-discovered of me and my first long-term relationship. Enrico was the Italian who Shanghaied me, literally to Shanghai China, where we lived for 1.5 years. These were the hardest and most growth-filled years of my 20s, but I don’t regret them. I didn’t speak the language. The weather was harsh in 2 of the four seasons, and the other two were very short. I was constantly on my last few bit of Yuan–so financially broke that I rode a bike in the streets of Shanghai with 1000s of others where I was the only white girl! A sea of black hair, then me. The blond… It was the most painful relationship to let go of in my 20s, but I did it because I new that there was something bigger for me. But it took me a long time to heal from it, and the way I finally healed was through gratitude.
Accept loneliness as part of a Twin Flame path
Loneliness was something I learned to deal with on a deep level–both in China, and in my relationship with Enrico. At age 24, I didn’t know anyone in Shanghai, and my man wasn’t compatible on the spiritual level. I was starting to wake up, and my spiritual gifts and pursuits frightened him. So I went into my own world and opened up alone, and hid my passions from him in our relationship. It was some of the most exciting stuff and I wanted to share it with someone, but I was still new to the shamanic world and didn’t think anyone would relate.
Loneliness gets healed when you realize that you are never alone. I started embracing my loneliness and slowly it became apparent that I wasn’t alone. I became friends with a dear friend of mine from Germany who would give me psychic readings and supported me so much during that time. I also became content with being the only blond on a block of 10,000 people and feeling OK with being different. What a gift, actually!
I tried leaving that relationship many times. But there was a great deal of love and compassion (and co-dependence) for each other, and leaving love is never easy. I tried packing up my bags and coming back to California, but something kept me stuck in Shanghai for what felt like a long time. At least Enrico had a great sense of humor, and taught me a lot about not taking life seriously! There were many good times, between the bad… I got to go visit his family just outside of Venice, Italy a few times and experienced some of the best home cooked food of my life!
The problem is that for many years after the relationship, I didn’t focus on gratitude for my relationship with Enrico. I would subtly bad mouth him in front of people, because I hadn’t fully been in my power in the relationship and hadn’t expressed my feelings when I was in it. I wish I had been able to heal my pain and focus on gratitude sooner; I would have probably not have attracted my Twin Flame Counterfeit, taken so long to meet my Twin Flame, and have gone through so much drama!
Appreciate the spiritual growth
Life has its ups and downs, but you grow so much on a deep spiritual level, even through your pain.
There is no faking it–sometimes it’s just awful! Like the time I finally had the courage to say goodbye to Enrico and leave him in Shanghai, knowing that I would likely never see him again. But I didn’t cry because it felt done, I had cried so much already. I’d been wanting to do it for a long time, it was complete. And then I cried like a baby saying goodbye to our housekeeper Xiao Ping, my ‘big sister’ who had seen me through my loneliness and pain when Enrico was gone at work and I stayed home working hard at my first business (as a personal trainer and wellness coach, and not succeeding). Being in a relationship with the “wrong guy,” a Karmic Soulmate, seems to call in Soul Family–people who are here to teach you and help you grow. Some of the best friends in my life have come through supporting each other around our relationship issues!
Sometimes you gotta leave and it’s hard. You blame yourself. You have to forgive yourself for what you did then. You chose not to stay stuck in your pain. Celebrate your bravery–you got out!
You don’t need to punish yourself and stick around playing the Twin Flame Runner game: where time and time again you are heartbroken and hurt by men you think is your Twin Flame, or by crushes who don’t requite your love. I see my female clients doing this all the time. They hurt someone in the past so they subconsciously decide they deserve to be hurt rather than getting what they want.
You deserve a deep relationship, with true Twin Flame Love.
Gratitude is one of the biggest keys to attract your Twin Flame relationship
Here is the most important key to letting go of exes and moving into a Twin Flame vibration. It is to ask yourself: What did I learn from this relationship? Instead of putting your focus on how bad he hurt you, what it was like when you were so in love, how can you get him back…focus on what you learned. Maybe you learned that you want to not be abandoned, that you want your beloveds to stick around. Maybe you learned that you have more healing to do around being abandoned that came from your childhood. Perhaps you can learn to find partners who are on your spiritual level, versus finding fixer uppers and karmic soulmates. Here are the questions to ask in a mini 20-second exercise:
- Why did you attract this person?
- What did your relationship teach you?
- What will you NEVER do again?
- What did you enjoy about this relationship that you wish to carry on in the next?
- What were you grateful for about this relationship?
And here is a powerful affirmation to read over and repeat out loud or in your mind to help you clear past exes and attract your Twin Flame:
I’m grateful for all the seasons of the past – past-lives, past boyfriends, past hurts, and past loves.
Now that you have healed your heart chakra you are ready for your Flame! So now what!? Now that you have healed the past, what will you be grateful for in your next relationship? Your Twin Flame relationship!? Post in the comments below. And if you’re not sure, come join us for the free New Moon Raw Cacao Ceremony this month to help you set intentions and get clear on your Twin Flame intentions!