by Dr Amanda Noelle | Apr 4, 2016 | Twin Flame Attraction |
As a Twin Flame Matchmaker, it’s my role to help single conscious women call in their Twin Flame in 6 months or less.
My beloved Jack and I often help our clients manifest true love even in the first month of working with us without online dating!
We have a very high success rate (approximately 90%) in helping women find love the easy way because we teach them how to matchmake themselves using their Higher Self.
I’d love to share our top 3 dating secrets with you so you can call in your beloved fast with what I call ‘divine dating.’ This sacred approach to dating and Twin Flame Attraction removes the need for online dating, unless you like dating via the web of course.
Before we get started with these 3 secrets , I want to underline that Jack and I spend most of our efforts helping our clients clear out their Twin Flame Love Blocks–the old patterns that hold them back from manifesting their ultimate partner.
Truly, we are simply looking at ourselves in the Twin Flame Mirror: when we heal ourselves, we can quickly call in the love we desire. Thus, before using these tips, I highly suggest working with an expert or participating in a program that will quickly help you identify and bust your Twin Flame Love Blocks so you don’t attract a Twin Flame Counterfeits–a false Twin Flame who run and never give you the love you deserve.
OK, here we go, these are the three secrets to Divine Dating. Note that I list these in ascending order, so the most important secret is at the bottom.
Secret #1: Date Selfishly
This secret doesn’t sound very divine or heart-centered, but it actually is. In reality, when we come from a place of trying to please and appease others, we don’t do justice to us. You are your biggest responsibility and asset. When you put yourself last or even second, it tells the Universe that you don’t regard yourself as the most important center of your YOUniverse. Without honoring your desires, no one can truly hold the space for you either. No one can really fully connect with you when you aren’t connected to you.
Dating selfishly shows the other person you have a self–which is a total turn on to the enlightened guy or gal! You’ll attract your equal–someone else who is rocking his or her soul purpose and who has a strong sense of self. Then, and only then, you can become a Twin Flame Power Couple.
Start by stepping into your desires with a desires journal. Start writing down your biggest dreams and desires regularly if you don’t do this already. It will send a message to the Universe that you are ready for what your heart desires so you can call it in. There are some helpful ways to write Twin Flame affirmations in this blog here.
Secret # 2: Treat Each Date As Your Husband/Wife
I know this may sound odd, but if you can treat the entire world as your Twin Flame, you begin to embody a Twin Flame frequency…
Most singles tend to make chit chat, try to act like they’ve got all their stuff together, and show their best self in front of a first date… But they don’t go deep and they miss the window of golden opportunity to really get to know someone.
Don’t waste your time. Go on a date and pretend that you are meeting a Divine King or Queen. Open your heart and speak to this person with the fullest respect, gentle listening presence, and hold them with love.
What I truly mean here is: treat the men/women you date as sacred beings. Know that you were divinely guided to connected with each other, by no mistake.
Treat them how you want to be treated as a goddess, knowing that this person was meant to go on a date with you, goddess! Hold that space for them, and soon the space will be held for you.
Basically, this one is the Golden Rule of Divine Dating… Treat others as you want to be treated, and hope that one of them will treat you as well as you’ve been treating them!
The good karma will come around fast.
I know it isn’t always easy to put yourself out there with a stranger and treat them with love at first glance. But this is what we Twin Flame Lovers must do.
“You are ready for your Twin Flame when you can love the entire Universe as your Twin Flame.” -Anonymous
It’s not easy…Trust me, I have gone out with many men on many bad dates, so I can imagine what you’re thinking of my advice right now! But give it a chance with unattached love.
I am not saying to mistreat yourself, to endanger yourself, or to break your sacred boundaries. Nope! In fact, I teach my clients how to own their ‘Sacred No’ so they can express love and say no to anyone while remaining in integrity…it’s what you do to honor and respect your Twin Flame because they are merely a reflection of you (to respect them it starts at you).
When I was dating, I started practicing treating each date as if he were my Twin Flame. I treated each man with the most respect, loving attention and care, and I communicated my thoughts openly.
I am a very open and loving spirit, but I was conditioned to hold it back because it’s not ‘normal’ to speak your thoughts so openly, especially on a first date. Maybe you feel the same way? You notice yourself meeting new people and hiding parts of yourself?
That’s natural. I mean why should we share who we really are and treat new people like they are divine reflections of us? Often they were uncomfortable with it anyways…
I pissed a few men off because I spoke my heart, and what I shared wasn’t always something they wanted to hear, like “I feel like you want to kiss me right now, and I am honored by that, but I am not feeling an urge to be kissed by you.” Sometimes disappointing people in a loving way towards you is the best way to treat them as your Twin Flame.
Which leads us to secret # 3…
Secret # 3: Know That That it Is all Happening for a Divine Purpose
We think about dating as a have-to and a headache. We dread dating most of the time, especially these days where Tinder and all the online apps make it so convenient, yet such a hassle!
Most of us think of going on dates as this treacherous duty we have to fulfill and that God/Universe is not looking out for us. We think of it as random, haphazard, and that if we date duds we’re just unlucky.
I have dated many duds, but I look back and each dud dude was a divine gift. Wow! If only I’d seen it then…
I was dating mismatches because they were mirroring the way I was receiving and perceiving myself. Then I started sending love to the duds and consciously letting them go, and at the same time I let go parts of myself that weren’t allowing me to shine and believe that I could have the perfect match.
It was then that I met my perfect Twin Flame, my fiancé Jack.
What if you were to think about dating as a divinely matched healing experience, where whatever and whomever you manifested is part of the reality you are creating?
Truly, every little nuance of a date is created for you, by you, to learn and grow. To see old patterns and release them.
This takes you from victim to victor, where you can really start creating your Twin Flame Life using the Law of Attraction. Then you can start seeing the miracles, the lessons, the gifts in each moment. Even the not-so-pretty moments.
Sure, you’re dating with the intention to meet and marry your Twin Flame. But you have to let go of expectations and surrender to the moment. You will call in your beloved, but it may take a few more dates, lessons, and adventures. Keep healing yourself, keep working with your mentors and getting the help you need to identify and bust your Twin Flame Love Blocks so you don’t repeat unhealthy programs and patterns.
Then, you will be on a date with your Twin Flame soon, and this will all be history 🙂
Each day is a sacred dance, as the earth rotates around its axis we learn and grow a little bit more towards the light. Maybe your date next Tuesday won’t be the one, but it will be the one for that date, that day, that hour…Bring him or her your fullest presence, for you are a gift. And whenever you share it, you shine light and give something back to the planet.
PS: To learn more, watch this video: The #1 Dating Mistake Twin Flames Make (and How to Avoid It)
by Dr Amanda Noelle | Dec 11, 2013 | Uncategorized |
Origin of the Twin Flame Love Theory
In my recent article post, How Do I know if my Partner is my Twin Flame?, I talk about the many signs that your partner is your Twin Flame or symptoms that they’re not. I also mention that the concept of Twin Flames is not a new one, and that in his Symposium, Plato speaks of the ancient concept that Twin Flames are literally the other half of the human soul that has incarnated into a form of another, and the reason why we all have the desire to meet our soulmate (most of us do anyway). Here’s an interesting and at least entertaining read about soulmate love from our favorite Greek philosopher. Click here for my video: What is a Twin Flame? to get a better understanding of the Twin Flame theory:
Aristophanes’s Speech from Plato’s Symposium
Translated by Benjamin Jowett from Collected Works of Plato, 4th Edition, Oxford U. Press, 1953 (189c-189d) p 520 to (193d-193e) p 525
Aristophanes professed to open another vein of discourse; he had a mind to praise Love in another way, unlike that of either Pausanias or Eryximachus. Mankind, he said, judging by their neglect of him, have never, as I think, at all understood the power of Love. For if they had understood him they would surely have built noble temples and altars, and offered solemn sacrifices in his honour; but this is not done, and most certainly ought to be done: since of all the gods he is the best friend of men, the helper and the healer of the ills which are the great impediment to the happiness of the race. I will try to describe his power to you, and you shall teach the rest of the world what I am teaching you.
In the first place, let me treat of the nature of man and what has happened to it. The original human nature was not like the present, but different. The sexes were not two as they are now, but originally three in number; there was man, woman, and the union of the two, of which the name survives but nothing else. Once it was a distinct kind, with a bodily shape and a name of its own, constituted by the union of the male and the female: but now only the word ‘androgynous’ is preserved, and that as a term of reproach.
In the second place, the primeval man was round, his back and sides forming a circle; and he had four hands and the same number of feet, one head with two faces, looking opposite ways, set on a round neck and precisely alike; also four ears, two privy members, and the remainder to correspond. He could walk upright as men now do, backwards or forwards as he pleased, and he could also roll over and over at a great pace, turning on his four hands and four feet, eight in all, like tumblers going over and over with their legs in the air; this was when he wanted to run fast.
Now the sexes were three, and such as I have described them; because the sun, moon, and earth are three; and the man was originally the child of the sun, the woman of the earth, and the man-woman of the moon, which is made up of sun and earth, and they were all round and moved round and round because they resembled their parents. Terrible was their might and strength, and the thoughts of their hearts were great, and they made an attack upon the gods; of them is told the tale of Otys and Ephialtes who, as Homer says, attempted to scale heaven, and would have laid hands upon the gods.
Doubt reigned in the celestial councils. Should they kill them and annihilate the race with thunderbolts, as they had done the giants, then there would be an end of the sacrifices and worship which men offered to them; but, on the other hand, the gods could not suffer their insolence to be unrestrained. At last, after a good deal of reflection, Zeus discovered a way.
He said: ‘Methinks I have a plan which will enfeeble their strength and so extinguish their turbulence; men shall continue to exist, but I will cut them in two and then they will be diminished in strength and increased in numbers; this will have the advantage of making them more profitable to us. They shall walk upright on two legs, and if they continue insolent and will not be quiet, I will split them again and they shall hop about on a single leg.’
He spoke and cut men in two, like a sorb-apple which is halved for pickling, or as you might divide an egg with a hair; and as he cut them one after another, he bade Apollo give the face and the half of the neck a turn in order that man might contemplate the section of himself: he would thus learn a lesson of humility. Apollo was also bidden to heal their wounds and compose their forms. So he gave a turn to the face and pulled the skin from the sides all over that which in our language is called the belly, like the purses which draw tight, and he made one mouth at the centre, which he fastened in a knot (the same which is called the navel); he also moulded the breast and took out most of the wrinkles, much as a shoemaker might smooth leather upon a last; he left a few, however, in the region of the belly and navel, as a memorial of the primeval state.
After the division the two parts of man, each desiring his other half, came together, and throwing their arms about one another, entwined in mutual embraces, longing to grow into one, they began to die from hunger and self-neglect, because they did not like to do anything apart; and when one of the halves died and the other survived, the survivor sought another mate, man or woman as we call them,–being the sections of entire men or women,–and clung to that.
Thus they were being destroyed, when Zeus in pity invented a new plan: he turned the parts of generation round to the front, for this had not been always their position, and they sowed the seed no longer as hitherto like grasshoppers in the ground, but in one another; and after the transposition the male generated in the female in order that by the mutual embraces of man and woman they might breed, and the race might continue; or if man came to man they might be satisfied, and rest, and go their ways to the business of life. So ancient is the desire of one another which is implanted in us, reuniting our original nature, seeking to make one of two, and to heal the state of man.
Each of us when separated, having one side only, like a flat fish, is but the tally-half of a man, and he is always looking for his other half. Men who are a section of that double nature which was once called androgynous are lovers of women; adulterers are generally of this breed, and also adulterous women who lust after men. The women who are a section of the woman do not care for men, but have female attachments; the female companions are of this sort. But they who are a section of the male follow the male, and while they are young, being slices of the original man, they have affection for men and embrace them, and these are the best of boys and youths, because they have the most manly nature.
Some indeed assert that they are shameless, but this is not true; for they do not act thus from any want of shame, but because they are valiant and manly, and have a manly countenance, and they embrace that which is like them. And these when they grow up become our statesmen, and these only, which is a great proof of the truth of what I am saying. When they reach manhood they are lovers of youth, and are not naturally inclined to marry or beget children,–if at all, they do so only in obedience to custom; but they are satisfied if they may be allowed to live with one another unwedded;
Is Leo showing us a clue here of Plato’s Twin Flame concept?
And such a nature is prone to love and ready to return love, always embracing that which is akin to him. And when one of them meets with his other half, the actual half of himself, whether he be a lover of youth or a lover of another sort, the pair are lost in an amazement of love and friendship and intimacy, and one will not be out of the other’s sight, as I may say, even for a moment: these are the people who pass their whole lives together, and yet they could not explain what they desire of one another. For the intense yearning which each of them has towards the other does not appear to be the desire of lover’s intercourse, but of something else which the soul of either evidently desires and cannot tell, and of which she has only a dark and doubtful presentiment.
Suppose Hephaestus, with his instruments, to come to the pair who are lying side by side and to say to them, ‘What do you mortals want of one another?’
They would be unable to explain. And suppose further, that when he saw their perplexity he said: ‘Do you desire to be wholly one; always day and night in one another’s company? for if this is what you desire, I am ready to melt and fuse you together, so that being two you shall become one, and while you live live a common life as if you were a single man, and after your death in the world below still be one departed soul, instead of two–I ask whether this is what you lovingly desire and whether you are satisfied to attain this?’–
There is not a man of them who when he heard the proposal would deny or would not acknowledge that this meeting and melting into one another, this becoming one instead of two, was the very expression of his ancient need.
And the reason is that human nature was originally one and we were a whole, and the desire and pursuit of the whole is called love. There was a time, I say, when we were one, but now because of the wickedness of mankind God has dispersed us, as the Arcadians were dispersed into villages by the Lacedaemonians. And if we are not obedient to the gods, there is a danger that we shall be split up again and go about in basso-relievo, like the profile figures showing only one half the nose which are sculptured on monuments, and that we shall be like tallies.
Wherefore let us exhort all men to piety in all things, that we may avoid evil and obtain the good, taking Love for our leader and commander.
Let no one oppose him–he is the enemy of the gods who opposes him. For if we are friends of God and at peace with him we shall find our own true loves, which rarely happens in this world at present. I am serious, and therefore I must beg Eryximachus not to make fun or to find any allusion in what I am saying to Pausanias and Agathon, who, as I suspect, are both of the manly nature, and belong to the class which I have been describing. But my words have a wider application–they include men and women everywhere; and I believe that if our loves were perfectly accomplished, and each one returning to his primeval nature had his original true love, then our race would be happy. And if this would be best of all, the best in the next degree must in present circumstances be the nearest approach to such a union; and that will be the attainment of a congenial love.
Wherefore, if we would praise him who has given to us the benefit, we must praise the god Love, who is our greatest benefactor, both leading us in this life back to our own nature, and giving us high hopes for the future, for he promises that if we are pious, he will restore us to our original state, and heal us and make us happy and blessed.
This, Eryximachus, is my discourse of love, which, although different to yours, I must beg you to leave unassailed by the shafts of your ridicule, in order that each may have his turn; each, or rather either, for Agathon and Socrates are the only ones left.