Are you perfectionist? A self-saboteur? A woman who is tip-toeing around her true power?
You are not alone sister…I am noticing a theme in the women in my life, my own life included.
We are way too fucking hard on ourselves.
It’s time to stop.
For in order to call in your Twin Flame, you have to fall in love with yourself.
You can’t be beating up on yourself all the time, as that pushes him away and calls in Twin Flame Counterfeits and runners who (conveniently) reflect our self-hatred.
The problem is that most women are so hung up by perfectionist thought-programs that they can’t let their Divine Feminine energy rise!
Instead of focusing on their pleasure (which DOES call in Twin Flame Love), they obsess about their skin/hair/nails/bikini line, bank account, Facebook profile, job success, and oh so many other things!
But focusing on our pain repels Twin Flame Love.
If you want love, you’ll gotta drop the perfectionist thing.
But first, why do we women constantly obsess over shit that doesn’t truly matter, and we let the things that DO matter pass us by–like pleasure and love?
I’ll tell you….Wanna know the #1 reason why women hate themselves?!
We suffer so much because we got it from our mamas!
Here me out.
I’m not trying to blame your mom… I just want to bring to light the circumstances and energies that need your healing.
Here’s the thing: your mom suffered greatly before you came aronud, because she wasn’t encouraged to shine, particularly in her lower chakras, and particularly in her yoni and around her Sacred Sexuality.
Because for generations, women have have been shamed for being women, and for being sexual beings!
We’ve been lost in the whole Madonna-Whore Complex, where we got trapped between mis-fit paradigms.
So, your mom raised you without a solid foundation in her sacral chakra. She did not know her sexual strength and beauty.
On top of this, she coudln’t even talk about her sexual shame and the horrible things that happened to her as a girl and woman!
Unfortunately you were raised by a woman who felt ashamed of her womanhood and her own sexuality; thus she coudn’t mother you properly like a Divine Mother would.
Likely, your mother could not:
- Encourage your beauty
- Support your Sacred Sexuality
- Set healthy boundaries with men, and teach you to do so with the masculine
- Set healthy boundaries with women, and teach you to do so with the feminine
- Role model to you how GOOD it is to be a goddess!
- Teach you how to express your Sacred Feminine pleasure in a safe, and healthy way
Our moms, they did their best.
Now it is YOUR time to do your best, and do much better.
Twin Flame Affirmation for Mother Healing:
“Thank you Mom, you did your best. I love you. I forgive you. It’s not your fault. It’s only as much your fault for my defects you granted me as a child as it is my fault that I hold deffects from my present.”
When we blame and shame our mothers – either consciously or subconsciously – we end up shooting ourselves in the foot. For on a certain level we ARE our mothers. We hold her within us, in our DNA.
So by healing yourself, your Sacred Sexuality, and by ending perfectionism, you heal your mother and every generation in your lineage, past/present/future.
I want you to feel fully proud of who you are, and that’s why I am whipping up healing rituals that cancel the mother wounds and open up the Sacred Mother Womb.
So is my friend Anaiya Sophia, which is why we talk about creating safe sacred rituals to heal shame and sexuality and nurture the Divine Feminine in our video “Womb Wisdom Temple Awakening,” which you can check out here.
XO, Dr Amanda
PS: Pretty please do post in the comments on the video what you are healing in your womb wisdom! 🙂
Applying Twin Flame Law of Attraction to attract your Twin Flame or soulmate is great, but you can’t do it using Twin Flame affirmations, visualization and energy work alone. Mr. or Ms. Right won’t show up up on your doorstep unless you put in a little effort in the ‘real world’ too. Here are four sizzling hot tips to help you meet your Twin Flame fast by playing big, bold, and fearlessly in your Twin Flame dating world!
Tip Number One: Just get the F$%k out There!
I know you might not want to face it, but you’ve gotta start taking action and get moving, shaking, and dating if you haven’t been lately. The molecules should be dancing and spinning at an ‘I am dating and ready!’ frequency in order for your Twin Flame to arrive in your world. We High-Healed Priestesses can often get lazy when it comes to dating because we get stuck in the spiritual world and often hide there. We make vision boards, write our Twin Flame affirmations, and never get around to actually dating…
Who cares if you’re pretty, popular, or perfect? You deserve love now because you are a Divine creation of the Creator!
Take bold little steps every day. For instance, when you’re in line at the grocery store and like someone, casually chat with him/her. Or even ask him out! Flirt with people by asking them where they got their clothes. Men often like really dumb questions, so don’t get hung up on the words. A simple smile often will do to get things started.
One of my favorite pick up lines that really works is saying this word with a smile: “Hi!”
My friend Rhea needed to snag her crush before he walked out of the door on the night we did her Twin Flame activation ritual (we were in a pub and it seemed as if her crush was going to leave soon). I told her to run up to him fast and talk to him, and suggested she ask him something random. So she asked him if he was from Texas. He said No, he was from Sweden! Flattered by her bravery, it was love at first sight, they moved in together within a few weeks, and it made one of my favorite Twin Flame success stories success stories!
What do you have to lose? Be bold and playful. Ask him/her to ask you out. Joke and use physical touch to get his attention, even just a little pat on the back or graze of your hand on his. Men love being lightly showered with touch and attention, as do women!
Approach your fears online if it calls you
Ain’t no shame in going cyber-lovin’! Go Twin Flame online dating if you haven’t tried it lately and you feel open to it. A lot of women resist online dating, but a whopping one third of U.S. married couples met online! This third may not be you just because you decide to hit up the internet for a few dates. If you totally don’t resonate with online dating, just go onto one of the websites and “shop” for men as an exercise, women always get a giggle from this at least, and it puts us in a dating energy. You may browse OK Cupid and not even have to go on an actual date there to meet your soulmate, but the cyber dating energy can be good. It’ll help you get out there, out of your head, possibly out of your house, and back in the dating pool again if it’s been a while. I’ve heard of some women signing up on spiritual dating sites and then randomly meeting their spiritual partner offline a few days later because they put the energy out there!
Resistance to Success: Online Dating Success Story
My client Jenna hadn’t been on a date in over 6 years. Though she was an amazing goddess--smart, bright, successful, beautiful, and loved to travel, she’d hit a bad heartbreak and then a rut. Before that, she’d dated a slew of bad boyz who didn’t honor the amazingness that she is. She was so super resistant to going online dating, but I told her to get over it and just try it out. So, we worked together on getting her on *a date* to get her back into “dating shape.” So she posted her profile on OKcupid.com, and within a week she’d dated two really great guys! Her skin glowed, her confidence started coming back, and she felt sexy again. Guess what happened? Within only a few short weeks, she met handsome Seth, her awesome soulmate/Twin Flame partner and they lived pretty darn happily ever after, and have two gorgeous Starchildren.
Moral of the story: get online asap, even using Facebook as your safe playground. Especially if you haven’t tried online dating, or if you have been dateless for more than a year. Try out a new site if you have been glued to the same one and haven’t been getting results. Start taking action, it’ll get the energy moving.
Various clients and friends of mine who have been through a dating dry spell will initially get online as a tool to get the juices flowing. Then, with boosted confidence, they’ll randomly meet a guy at the coffee shop, or notice someone at work and end up dating offline, thinking “Why haven’t I met him before!?” Boys attract more boys through the Law of Male Competition. Everyone wants a queen bee. Moral of the story: online dating breeds more dating! Get out there and try it out.
Bottom line: be bold and do things you don’t normally do.
You don’t have to go online, it’s just an option. What’s more important is to just get out there and spread your love! So also do things just for you that knock your socks off, that are outside of the box. Take a salsa class, or cooking lesson, or hit up a comedy club with a new friend. Try a vegetarian meetup or start your own one. Get out of your boring daily/weekly rhythm to bring in fresh romance energy. Maybe even get far far away… Take a Twin Flame pilgrimage to that country you’ve always wanted to see! It doesn’t hurt to travel to meet your Twin Flame. Dress a little sexier if you’re normally in sweats… Do something that gets you out of the house even on a chilly day. Girl, just take your pick, make your move, and dive into bliss!
It’s also important to nourish yourself within and take time for yourself of course, and here’s a bath I recommend for Twin Flame Love: Twin Flame Love Spell Bath Recipe.
Tip Two: Don’t Worry About Getting Rejected
Although it goes against our natural instincts, getting rejected is the best medicine to attract your Twin Flame. It means that you’re able to love yourself most of all when it appears that God (or in this case, some man or human specimen) doesn’t love and adore you back.
Who cares if he doesn’t like you back?! Go find someone who will! In truth, you are God’s lovechild, and there’s no reason not to be loved… However, you do have to realize the somewhat harsh fact that you simply won’t be loved in that soulmate way by all beings because that’s just how it works – and it would be really complicated. Would you want three million karmic soulmates knocking on your door? I think not! It’s funny how obsessed we become about not being rejected, when truly the main goal should be to get accepted by our one true perfect match.
Finally, I work with many women who have suffered from body image/self-esteem issues, like I have myself. We beat ourselves up for not being perfect and convince ourselves that we have to change in order to get an attractive guy to love us. Don’t fall for it! It was all a misinterpretation from a shampoo ad campaign you watched in the 80s. Real men want real women; humans like honest and real organic beauty more than sliced and diced makeup perfection. Despite what the cosmetic sales people or plastic surgeons may tell you (it’s probably for their children’s college tuition, so don’t take it personally).
Just a little beauty accenting and color highlights for fun and play is OK. Don’t go overboard. Allow your own true beauty to shine through to attract your Twin Flame with your authentic self. If he rejects you because you have a zit or some larger pores or a cellulite butt like I have, move on; that’s not true love! Your Twin Flame will love all of you and find you absolutely sexy.
Tip Three: Activate Your PU$$Y Power
What!? What’s PU$$Y Power? Click here to get a fuller definition. PU$$Y Power is the Divine Feminine fertile almost feline-like energy that can attract anything to through an ancient magic secrets. It is based in your womb and yoni (vagina) area, and it’s also known as the Holy Grail, Sangraal, and is the essence of Divine Feminine creation. To activate your PU$$Y Power, you have to connect with the Divine Feminine aspect of your root chakra and sacral chakra. You have to fall in love with your sacred sexuality, your body, and love your yoni (pussy!). Watching this video will help activate your precious PU$$Y:
Tip Four: Be yourself
As tempting as it is to play the “perfect girl” to win love by someone who thinks you’re the cat’s PJs and best actress in town, pretending to be someone you’re not is going to get old real fast. Real fast.
Start the date/relationship by just being yourself. This will pay off BIG! Let your true colors fly. It doesn’t mean that you cannot impress your potential mate, or even shine a bit from the start, but do so with authenticity. Show some imperfections. While wearing the perfect outfit on the first date can be fun, are you able to dress it down after dinner with some walking shoes and a windbreaker to go on that beach hike? I hope so, because no one wants to be his Royal Prince Charming’s b*tch. No darling, you are a queen and queen bees get to set their own rules!
It’s so darn simple: it’s super important to find your soulmate from a place of passion and taking inspired action. It’s all about playing BIG in the outer game, while nurturing your inner game too.
Go go go, girl, you go this one. Here’s to your implementation of these three hot tips to help you meet your divine match by playing a big outer game. Go have a great week and treat yourself with great care while getting out there in a BIG way! Thanks for reading, see you on the flip side, and please post your comments below and share with your social groups.
Dr. Amanda Noelle is a Twin Flame Matchmaker to stellar spiritual women who feel called to birthing big life-purposes and possibly a Starchild or two.