He loves me, he loves me not…. Is that your question? Wanna tell for sure if your crush likes you and save us all some time (especially your girl friends who hear you nagging all the time about your crush!?). This article contains some sound spiritual and practical advice that will help you tell if a guy is into you, or if you’re just wasting your time.
While there are no cookie-cutter rules, as a Twin Flame Matchmaker, I have seen some patterns in my clients and friends that did or should have saved my girls a bunch of time! So let me break it down for you. The main rule is that you gotta think of yourself first, and focus less on attracting him or pleasing him. If he likes you, he’ll like you as you are, not because you’re trying to impress him.
Note that men like a hunt, and the more you try to strut your stuff or prove it to him that you’re fabulous, the more he’ll want to pull away. Don’t do the work for him! Let men do the hunting. Don’t make it easy for them either. Gently and subtly flirt and let them know you’re available. Then use these tools to see if he likes you.
But first, this heart-warming story about Sarah, a dear soul sister of mine who found out if her crush wanted her back. She was madly attracted to her crush Joe, but wasn’t sure if Joe actually liked her back. Her attraction was driving her mad and yet she didn’t know how to tell if he was into her. It was killing her!
I gave her some advice and she said it would be OK to share our written experience here (FB messages) so you can save some time and find your soulmate/Twin Flame too!
Facebook conversation with Sarah (SS) and me (Dr. N)
SS: “There is this guy that I really like. He and I are in a short film together, and on Thursday we went out for coffee. I’ve liked him for a few months now and I have no idea where to begin when it comes to subtle flirting. Could you give me some advice?”
Dr. N: “Let him ask you out again, but if he doesn’t you can joke with him like, “When are you going to ask me out for another coffee?!” If he’s too shy he’s not the one for you. Men hunt, women get hunted, if he’s not hunting, don’t force it…it just means he’s not ready.”
SS: “Okay. Thank you!! I don’t know, there is just something about him that makes me want to be close to him. It’s interesting, that’s for sure haha.”
Dr. N: “You can even tell him that! If he’s feeling the same thing he’ll be very glad you saved him time!”
SS: I took your advice! It worked in a way I wasn’t expecting it to though. The guy I told you about wasn’t into me the way I thought, so I said alright, I will focus on myself. Since then I have been doing better than ever!! There is this really great guy who wants to take me out sometime, him and I have been nonstop flirting for the past month. It’s been crazy, but thank you for the help you have me a couple months ago!
Dr. N: “Awe, that melts my heart! It’s better to get someone to treat you like a queen than wait around for someone who isn’t in soul alignment. You are fabulous and a perfect gem – glad you found someone who appreciates your spark! What a fun story.”
Women around the world are stepping into their power, their beauty, and their self-worth. We are figuring out our worth – that we are precious jewels and that we are no longer willing to sit around waiting for some guy to come around and make us happy.
We are done staying in fear, stuck, silent, and living behind veils of shame, shyness, insecurity. I myself used to suffer from all of the above, and had major body image issues and low self-esteem issues that would block me like a dark veil from getting what I wanted in relationships and in almost everything (especially money).
It’s important to read the clues to tell if a guy likes you, and if he isn’t into you, you need to back off. Otherwise if you keep pining after a fantasy, you will get trapped in believing this false true love is a Twin Flame Runner, which leads to intense heartache and even feelings of insanity.
This is what they don’t teach you when you’re first learning how to date. No one encourages you to have self-esteem and to date selfishly and to take care of your own needs first. That’s what I do with my clients. And it attracts very high vibrational men! The first step is to own that you want to be loved and liked as much as you love and like him. So you gotta ask the universe for this first – to be loved 50/50% – a step most women skip! Then you have to get real and see if he’s really that into you…Let’s go back to high school and revisit the rules on how to tell if he’s into you!
How to tell if a guy likes you, top 5 ways to tell:
1) Flirt and see if he flirts back. Sarcastic jokes count as flirting to some guys so this might not be the easiest way to tell…
2) Hint for him to take you out or ask you out. If he is ready, he will take the hint and GO FOR IT!
3) Make eye contact with him and see if he can hold it. Does he hold your gaze or look away? That will tell!
4) Make slight physical contact – touch his shoulder, hand, etc., and see how he reacts – does he freeze up or open to your touch?
5) Be friendly. Does he laugh at your jokes, commit to his word, reach out to you energetically?
What if you can’t take any of the above steps you ask? Then you’re not ready for a relationship. A relationship starts by stepping into your fears, taking your veils down, of being intimate and exposed and seeing if someone wants to be the real you. If you are not there yet, don’t worry: simply focus on loving yourself. A good therapist, coach, friend, or counselor will help. Work on boosting your self-esteem and self-love first.
The good news is, if he doesn’t like you – like in Sarah’s case – you won’t be wasting your time and you will open up the doors to actually meeting someone who can deeply care about you. Enough living in a fantasy world trying to make someone like you who isn’t really even good for you. If he likes you, then move forward.
If you have been running after Twin Flame Runners, don’t feel alone, there is no shame in this. You can break the pattern (and it is just a blueprint, and doesn’t reflect your lovability or magnificence!). Many women and clients I have worked with become obsessed with a guy who doesn’t appear to love them back, and I feel that this is part of a blueprint we women must face. The answer resides in loving ourselves and becoming more discerning. Be willing to let go of something or someone you thought was true love and throw it back into the ocean. There are indeed many fish in the sea, and your Twin Flame will be the one that is easy and who sticks around to love and support you through the journey. Throw the ones back who don’t respond with commitment and love, and if they come back running for you, well then, great! You got your Twin Flame soulmate!
Dr. Amanda Noelle is a Twin Flame Matchmaker to spiritualistas, celebs, and stellar women. She’s also the Founder of Aphrodite University.