He’s kind, healthy, hot, spiritual, self-employed, good with kids, open to having children, likes to travel, loves intimacy, even knows some tantra, he eats a plant-based diet, donates to charity, is in touch with the Feminine… The list goes on. And on. And on… Is this you?
Ha ha ha, I know we Twin Flame seeking women are some of the pickiest creatures on earth. Not a bad thing though, as long as we find a balance and realize that everyone – even us – has flaws. The likelihood of anyone completely fitting our list down to the last detail is pretty low. However, the Twin Flame List can help with the attraction process.
Write down everything you want in your Twin Flame relationship. That’s step one.
But let’s be honest: sometimes getting the whole package feels impossible. And so I see so many of my clients, fans, and friends manifesting men who are missing some key items from the list. Yet using the Law of Attraction in combination with a little elbow grease, you can go after and get nearly the whole list. Or something even better!
Why is it that we can get so blocked by our own stories, resistances, and self-esteem issues, especially when it comes to attraction the “who package” in a relationship? The classic case I see as a Twin Flame Matchmaker in women who are new to working with the Law of Attraction to manifest a Twin Flame is that they will pick a man who is only half or part of what is on their desires list. Are you vegetarian and you meet amazing men, except for that one tiny detail: you can’t see yourself marrying a carnivore, and they are meat-lovin’ men? Or perhaps you are a spiritual woman, super into healing, energy work, consciousness, yoga, green juice, etc and everything is perfect, except for the fact that he totally doesn’t accept or nurture your spiritual path?
“Wassup with this!?” you wonder, “Why do I keep attracting that one little thing that is a BIG deal breaker every time I date someone new!?” I’d hate to see you give up and throw away all of your love, beauty, and bliss potential because you are attracting the wrong men (at least in part!) because the Law of Attraction is only half-working for you…
We gotta first ask: Why do you keep attracting these love-limits? In the Big Leap by Gay Hendricks, Hendricks talks about the “upper limit problem,” ULPs, that are sorta like a metabolic set-point of how much we can love. So when you’re manifesting that 98% perfect soulmate except for the 2% which is a total deal-breaker, it’s like “Fuuuuuu%ck, why me!?” Right? But really that 2% issue is the thing you’re manifesting to keep you safely away from love. What?! Why would you ever want to block yourself from love? Because to be honest, we humans are all freaked by love, it’s our nature. We ARE love, we deserve love, and God loves us much. But ironically this is the scariest thing to our human nature – to accept this gift. We create all kinds of crazy ways to block love, including finding people who are 98% there, but who eat several pounds of meat when we’re wanting a vegetarian, or someone who is perfect in all ways but who can’t afford to pay his bills let alone be your future baby daddy. Help!
You can have what you want, you just gotta be willing to receive it, my love. Be willing to receive the love that you are! As a Twin Flame Matchmaker, I specialize in helping women dissolve their subconscious love limits and turn them into love magnets. It really friggin’ works. I’ve done my healing and coaching work on women and in some cases, within hours they’ve manifested their Twin Flame. That’s hot! And it’s delightful to watch every time (especially when I get invited to the wedding, like I’m going to next month!).
I have a sad-to-succsexy story to share! It’ll melt your heart:
I once worked with a client named Laura who thought she’d found her Twin Flame. Everything was perfect… except for one tiny detail: her soulmate was a total vegan and wanted to raise his future children vegan, and he judged her for her eating choices. While she liked living healthy, she’d always enjoyed the occasional piece of fish, organic cheese, or free-range chicken, and she wasn’t wanting to give it up. Plus she’d always wanted to share her favorite family recipes with her future offspring. Initially, it was like everything was perfect for Laura, except that one tiny not-so-cheesy detail, until…
Mr. Vegan Boy suddenly went back to the East Coast for a visit and reconnected with his ex girlfriend. He then dumped Laura, this beautiful woman, shortly after returning but not before sleeping with her one last time. Classy, right? Together, Laura and I did some deep healing work and counseling over the heartache. In our healing work, we realized that God/dess had given her the sign early on so that she could see that he was her perfect Twin Flame stepping stone, the TFC (Counterfeit) to lead her to her true Twin. He’d opened her heart (and smashed it a bit, but it took that to tenderize it!), and she realized how badly she wanted love. Further, she realized that she absolutely needed it from someone who shared her healthy lifestyle with a little bit of fun, cheese, and white meat… It was her style.
Guess what happened next? Only a month later, she fell into the arms of her Twin Flame Aaron at the farmers market, and there was no looking back! Aaron’s a healthy “pescetarian” as he calls it – he eats fish and dairy in small amounts – so they have a ball cooking together! They are now happily married, pregnant, and Laura enjoys their healthy lifestyle without feeling judged for eating her way.
Don’t settle for less Goddess, you are worth the WHOLE package! It’s easy to follow the wrongful thinking that settling for less gets us ahead. Wrong. Settling for less is the harder road. Because your soul knows that you’re worth more, and so you’ll align with potential partners who aren’t really cut out for you in the long-term. You’d best decide what you’re truly worth and what you truly want, and the Universe will bring it to you if you step forth to receive it!
When you let go of what’s not working, the Universe hears your commitment to self and rewards you with a true energy match. You can’t stay in a settling-for-less energy with a karmic soulmate trying to force it. If it’s not an easy fit in the first few dates, let it go, grow, and try again with the right partner. Screen dates before going on them to save you time and heartache. Unless you’re able to control your attraction to people, what’s the point of getting your heart set on someone you know isn’t a fit?
- Don’t settle for less because you don’t have to! It won’t serve you, your beloved, or the world
- You can manifest that whole picture by honoring your desires
- Don’t date men who aren’t a fit unless you’re dating for dating’s sake
- Write down your list and stick to it
- Circle your must-haves on the list that are deal-breakers (I don’t think having brown hair would be a deal breaker, but being spiritually awake and financially grounded is, for example)
- Know that you’re worth it!
Good luck lady, you are the Twin Flame, now go find your match…