He loves me, he loves me not…. Is that your question? Wanna tell for sure if your crush likes you and save us all some time (especially your girl friends who hear you nagging all the time about your crush!?). This article contains some sound spiritual and practical advice that will help you tell if a guy is into you, or if you’re just wasting your time.
While there are no cookie-cutter rules, as a Twin Flame Matchmaker, I have seen some patterns in my clients and friends that did or should have saved my girls a bunch of time! So let me break it down for you. The main rule is that you gotta think of yourself first, and focus less on attracting him or pleasing him. If he likes you, he’ll like you as you are, not because you’re trying to impress him.
Note that men like a hunt, and the more you try to strut your stuff or prove it to him that you’re fabulous, the more he’ll want to pull away. Don’t do the work for him! Let men do the hunting. Don’t make it easy for them either. Gently and subtly flirt and let them know you’re available. Then use these tools to see if he likes you.
But first, this heart-warming story about Sarah, a dear soul sister of mine who found out if her crush wanted her back. She was madly attracted to her crush Joe, but wasn’t sure if Joe actually liked her back. Her attraction was driving her mad and yet she didn’t know how to tell if he was into her. It was killing her!
I gave her some advice and she said it would be OK to share our written experience here (FB messages) so you can save some time and find your soulmate/Twin Flame too!
Facebook conversation with Sarah (SS) and me (Dr. N)
SS: “There is this guy that I really like. He and I are in a short film together, and on Thursday we went out for coffee. I’ve liked him for a few months now and I have no idea where to begin when it comes to subtle flirting. Could you give me some advice?”
Dr. N: “Let him ask you out again, but if he doesn’t you can joke with him like, “When are you going to ask me out for another coffee?!” If he’s too shy he’s not the one for you. Men hunt, women get hunted, if he’s not hunting, don’t force it…it just means he’s not ready.”
SS: “Okay. Thank you!! I don’t know, there is just something about him that makes me want to be close to him. It’s interesting, that’s for sure haha.”
Dr. N: “You can even tell him that! If he’s feeling the same thing he’ll be very glad you saved him time!”
SS: I took your advice! It worked in a way I wasn’t expecting it to though. The guy I told you about wasn’t into me the way I thought, so I said alright, I will focus on myself. Since then I have been doing better than ever!! There is this really great guy who wants to take me out sometime, him and I have been nonstop flirting for the past month. It’s been crazy, but thank you for the help you have me a couple months ago!
Dr. N: “Awe, that melts my heart! It’s better to get someone to treat you like a queen than wait around for someone who isn’t in soul alignment. You are fabulous and a perfect gem – glad you found someone who appreciates your spark! What a fun story.”
Women around the world are stepping into their power, their beauty, and their self-worth. We are figuring out our worth – that we are precious jewels and that we are no longer willing to sit around waiting for some guy to come around and make us happy.
We are done staying in fear, stuck, silent, and living behind veils of shame, shyness, insecurity. I myself used to suffer from all of the above, and had major body image issues and low self-esteem issues that would block me like a dark veil from getting what I wanted in relationships and in almost everything (especially money).
It’s important to read the clues to tell if a guy likes you, and if he isn’t into you, you need to back off. Otherwise if you keep pining after a fantasy, you will get trapped in believing this false true love is a Twin Flame Runner, which leads to intense heartache and even feelings of insanity.
This is what they don’t teach you when you’re first learning how to date. No one encourages you to have self-esteem and to date selfishly and to take care of your own needs first. That’s what I do with my clients. And it attracts very high vibrational men! The first step is to own that you want to be loved and liked as much as you love and like him. So you gotta ask the universe for this first – to be loved 50/50% – a step most women skip! Then you have to get real and see if he’s really that into you…Let’s go back to high school and revisit the rules on how to tell if he’s into you!
How to tell if a guy likes you, top 5 ways to tell:
1) Flirt and see if he flirts back. Sarcastic jokes count as flirting to some guys so this might not be the easiest way to tell…
2) Hint for him to take you out or ask you out. If he is ready, he will take the hint and GO FOR IT!
3) Make eye contact with him and see if he can hold it. Does he hold your gaze or look away? That will tell!
4) Make slight physical contact – touch his shoulder, hand, etc., and see how he reacts – does he freeze up or open to your touch?
5) Be friendly. Does he laugh at your jokes, commit to his word, reach out to you energetically?
What if you can’t take any of the above steps you ask? Then you’re not ready for a relationship. A relationship starts by stepping into your fears, taking your veils down, of being intimate and exposed and seeing if someone wants to be the real you. If you are not there yet, don’t worry: simply focus on loving yourself. A good therapist, coach, friend, or counselor will help. Work on boosting your self-esteem and self-love first.
The good news is, if he doesn’t like you – like in Sarah’s case – you won’t be wasting your time and you will open up the doors to actually meeting someone who can deeply care about you. Enough living in a fantasy world trying to make someone like you who isn’t really even good for you. If he likes you, then move forward.
If you have been running after Twin Flame Runners, don’t feel alone, there is no shame in this. You can break the pattern (and it is just a blueprint, and doesn’t reflect your lovability or magnificence!). Many women and clients I have worked with become obsessed with a guy who doesn’t appear to love them back, and I feel that this is part of a blueprint we women must face. The answer resides in loving ourselves and becoming more discerning. Be willing to let go of something or someone you thought was true love and throw it back into the ocean. There are indeed many fish in the sea, and your Twin Flame will be the one that is easy and who sticks around to love and support you through the journey. Throw the ones back who don’t respond with commitment and love, and if they come back running for you, well then, great! You got your Twin Flame soulmate!
Dr. Amanda Noelle is a Twin Flame Matchmaker to spiritualistas, celebs, and stellar women. She’s also the Founder of Aphrodite University.
You met a guy, a crush, and you’re feeling it. He melts your heart and maybe your panties too. But is it safe to proceed? You’ve been badly hurt before and don’t want to ride that roller coaster again. So is he a real Twin Flame Fox, or just a Big Bad Wolf? Here’s how to tell…
Ignite your intuition!
ATTENTION: This guy could be a hippie big bad wolf in disguise and might be a player playing flower-child!Let your intuition decide!
The first thing is that you have to trust your intuition. From the outside, Twin Flame Foxes and Big Bad Wolves can appear the same, which is why you need a more spiritually refined gage, a metaphysical-man-thermometer of sorts.
There is nothing worse than getting stunned by the surprise bite of a wolf. The bite-and-run…I have seen it repeatedly. Really great-seeming guys who turn into wolves overnight when they get triggered by something that opens them to their insecurities.
Especially things like early childhood traumas, hidden subconscious energies, and financial issues. From one day to the next, they can go from sweet and soft healer-types, to cold and heartless Twin Flame runners. Ouch! That’s why it’s important to go slow so that you have time to see if you’re building your trust with the right partner. We are manifesting these bite-and-runs because they are simply reflecting our subconscious childhood wounds that need healing. Heal it, and move onto the next with better intuition next time!
Intuition is key. However, as women, we have all kinds of codependence issues and we fall in love too easily, lose our psychic space, so intuition can get overridden by our $h*t. That’s why I suggest going slow and read the signs better until you become a metaphysical-man-thermometer pro!
Slow down and shop for sustainable sexiness
A real fox is more than sexy on the outside. He’s more than just talk about spirituality, intimacy, and relationships. He has a sustainable sexiness. He’s there for you, and sticks with you through the dark periods. Doesn’t leave you for bust, and definitely doesn’t drop you for other ladies when you ‘get too complicated.’ Nope. He adores your complexity, adores your brilliance, and enjoys the depth of your Divine Feminine Love.
A True Twin Flame Fox can offer you the 3Cs, he can: communicate, connect, and commit. Otherwise Mr. Fox is going to turn you on, get your kundalini motor running, open your heart, and leave you hot, hurt, and dry, and burning for more when you can’t get it. For most women (there are exceptions), this isn’t the most pleasurable experience. We get attached and want to bond, and a runner is painful to our Divine Feminine loving energies.
Some Big Bad Wolves keep you in the relationship to feed off of your spirit, and enjoy your codependent tendencies. Beware! If you don’t see the 3Cs present in the relationship and he’s still around, think about whether or not you’re trapped in a love-illusion. When you’re trapped in codependence, there’s no room for growth, leadership, true connection or intimacy, because the relationship is based on fear, jealousy, and limitation.
A real True Twin Fox is only truly sexy when he’s really there for you, cares, and shows up fully. Even if it’s for a short-term relationship, he’s there with good communication and is 100%. He honors you as a goddess, communicates, loves who you are, and can speak with you about the future. He can tell you his fears, his desires, and you can decide like an adult if they align with your goals.
For instance, if you are looking for your Twin Flame and you’re dating someone who tells you he’s not looking for long term and just wants to “see where it goes,” get out. Get out now! You are not looking for self-esteem S&M, are you? You deserve the best. If you’re looking for a LTR (long term relationship), you deserve Twin Flame Love as a High-Healed Priestess. Here’s What Is a Twin Flame, video to help you understand more about the Twin Flame Therory:
Beware the Big Bad Wolf
A big bad wolf is just bad for you; he opens old wounds, tears up your tender parts, doesn’t empathize with you, and he usually leaves you in the dust. You find his abandonment atrocious and attractive at the same time, because it feels like your familiar childhood pain.
Familiarity=love in our subconsciousness.
Maybe does it over and over again. Big Bad Wolfs are karmic soulmates and Twin Flame Counterfeits. While he’s not necessarily bad to the bone, he’s a part of your shadow showing you where you need healing. Twin Flame Runners are big bad wolves and I see that most of them are usually Twin Flame Counterfeits and never come back. I’ve worked with LOTS of women who have had TF runners; 95% don’t come back and aren’t the real deal.
We are attracted to Twin Flame Runners because our subconscious Divine Feminine energies resonate with the vibration of abandonment by the Divine Masculine. It’s an ancient memory and trauma held in our collective. We as Little Shakinas (daughters of the Divine Feminine) keep replaying the traumas in our lives and blaming ourselves, but it’s simply an old trauma-pattern that needs to be looked at, loved, and released. You are ready to heal. Your relationship failures, men leaving you, abandoning you for other women is not you. It’s not even a failure! It’s just a pattern revealing itself for healing. It’s a stuck pattern. Why else would you want to date “bad boys” when there are really great eligible men out there for you? Don’t let your Divine Feminine abandonment baggage get in the way! It’s over 5,000 years old and doesn’t have to exist anymore! Let’s unstick the pattern…
Let’s create a new Twin Flame relationship paradigm. It starts with us women, us Little Shakinas. It starts at the Divine Feminine by worshipping Her within us. We need to prepare ourselves for the Real Deal. The real deal real sexy foxes – they are good guys (or gals) who are available, emotionally stable, financially stead, ready, supportive, and ready to create a revolution with you. They are knights who defend the Divine Feminine and cannot wait to be close to you, support you, and connect! I am so psyched for you to reunite with them. Let go of the Big Bad Wolves, there is something much bigger out there for you.
Love and Light,
Dr. Amanda Noelle, The Twin Flame Matchmaker, helps High-Healed Priestesses turn their bliss into 6-figure BLI$$nesses and Twin Flame relationships that heal the world!