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by Dr Amanda Noelle | Aug 13, 2014 | Divine Feminine Awakening, Holy MatriMoney, Law of Attraction, Pussy Power in Business, Uncategorized |
How do you find your business niche? And is niching really necessary to break 6-figures?
This post will help so that you female BLI$$preneurs get excited about developing your niche so you can more easily:
- Become known as an expert
- Get paid way more money, way faster
- Grow your BLI$$ness at light speed
- Get more biz opportunities such as: speaking gigs, sell to private clients, get YouTube channel hits, make faster sales on your website, get hot book deals etc.
Many of us already know that it’s typically a great deal harder and more time-consuming to build a business without a niche. Generally, unless you have a ton of start up capital to spend on marketing, it’s ideal to have a niche when you’re first getting started in your small BLI$$ness as a solopreneur. When you get started, no one knows who you are; they don’t trust you enough to buy from you.
Trust takes time to build, and it’s faster to build trust when you have a particular niche where you can stand out as the ‘perceived expert’ on something very specific.
There’s lots of competition out there in the marketplace. Other entrepreneurs do the same thing that you do perhaps? Often times who have more experience, with better branding, and at charge cheaper rates?Yes. Indeed. There is a lot of competition out there, especially now that we live online.
You simply have to pop from the crowd and stand out in front of your Soulmate Clients!
But how do you boil your soul purpose down to one teensy tiny expert topic?!
With a bazillion potential niches, how do you pick just one? This can make anyone crazy, and everyone goes through the niche bitch stage, but we can just as easily turn on the switch and pick our P2PP.
I call a niche a “P2PP”–a Pain to Pleasure Problem–something you solve in people’s lives that they’re happy to pay you for because it saves them a huge headache, time, money, health issues, etc.
P2PP problems are in one of three categories:
1) LOVE 2) WEALTH/BIZ 3) HEALTH/WELLNESS
Your P2PP, will usually be in the topic of relationships, health, or wealth/biz. Sometimes you can combine two of these, but either way, your P2PP should be super clear and defined so someone can figure it out in a second and go “Oh, that’s for me!” if it’s for them.
Good examples of P2PPs are:
- Helping tech boys get ten dates a week so they can find their solute
- Helping spiritual women with their online marketing so they can make more money
- Helping business women who travel get over jet lag so they can function better
Examples of wishy-washy lame P2PPs would be:
- Helping empower people (everyone wants to be empowered, but why would they pay top dollar for something vague when they need help from an expert?)
- Helping women become more confident (still too vague)
- Life coaching for women
- Reiki for wellness
The above bad examples are way too vague to charge high-end rates and expect a big following, unless you’re super lucky. It would be hard to ask someone for a lot of money for simply “empowerment” “health” or “wellness” as you aren’t really an expert. Would you want to go to a general practitioner doctor or a specialist if you had some rare disease? Easy answer, right? For your Soulmate Clients it will be the same: they will hire you when they see you as an expert problem solver to the problem they have on their plate.
Get specific! Get more specific. Get even more specific.
Most of us tend to fear niching and we stay vague and our Soulmate Clients don’t want to pay us high end-rates or sign up at all.
Carve out your hot P2PP – the problem in the marketplace that you solve for your specific type of Soulmate Client. She or he is waiting for you and you must speak to her (him) using lingo and concepts that she’s ready to hear! You have to let her know that raging problem she has has a solution: which is you!
Blessings on your unleveled BLI$$ness with your hot P2PP. Share in the comments box what your P2PP is or if you haven’t chosen it yet, some options. Some of us here can give you feedback or ideas!
Namaste and light,
Amanda
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by Dr Amanda Noelle | Aug 7, 2014 | Holy MatriMoney, Law of Attraction, Pussy Power in Business, Uncategorized |
Like many other Americans, I grew up feeling not good enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough, not thin enough, and definitely feeling not rich enough. Though I was raised in Berkeley, CA where the poor and rich lived together side by side, where I’d watch hippies walk by in the park, I’d also see lawyer dads pick their kids up in Porsches, then watch TV where it was all about being rich, beautiful, and perfect. Out of all of these mixed messages I’d received, somehow I decided that being rich was the key to happiness.
To become rich would satisfy my deepest childhood needs and fantasies
From about age 6, I remember somehow deciding that everything would be better in my life if I were rich. Though we had a steady middle-class thing going on in my family and could afford many nice amenities, we weren’t rich, as both of my parents were social workers. As far back as I can remember, I have always wanted to be super-duper rich: mansions, fame, BMWs, Parisian vacations, designer everything. I felt that being rich would give me the perfect life and Id be truly happy!
College: The Biggest Myth to Getting Rich
As I teen, I realized that in order to get into a good college – the path to financial wealth according to my teachers – I had to compete for a spot at the top of everything. Sports teams, extra curricular groups, academics, and even for social status and boyfriends, etc. The rich kids were in the honors classes, had tutors, the cutest outfits, and in order to catch up to them I had to work harddddd. By age 16, my middle class ego got me focusing 100% on living the dream: academic achievement, athletics, eliminating my flaws, diets (I was a size 2!), and I pretty much became my own Nazi and felt not good enough all the time.
It wasn’t until later that I realized that going to college didn’t guarantee you a good job, financial prosperity, or opportunity in the city of your choice. But that is another discussion for another time.
I was a proud perfectionist, overachiever, and self-disciplinarian by the time I could vote
All of my self-hatred driven motivation led me to become a freshman at Duke University, which at the time was a top 3 university in the country (Harvard, Princeton, Duke, then Yale it was. And yes, I cared about this ranking!). When I arrived on Duke’s campus, I realized that I was surrounded with rich, beautiful, perfect people and a lot of old money… And that it would take even more efforts to keep up. I did my best to work my butt off in the pre-med program, trying to ace tests on 2 hours of sleep, exercising in the gym at 3am to keep the college beer off my belly, and blow drying my hair before class because everyone did so.
The harder I worked, the more success people I had around me. We were success-obsessed people who would compete together and never feel good enough! I ended up in a sorority where all the women were super success driven, but many of them were on speed, coke, and on such restrictive diets they could only be labeled as ‘disordered eating.’ During holidays, I would go to my friends’ homes to realize (a) that they were super-duper rich, and (b) that they really weren’t happy at all. Shocker!
These super rich successful people were all on prescriptive drugs and anti-depressants, and they were all too ashamed to admit it. Literally no one seemed happy once you got to see them on the inside (which I love doing, as a child of two shrinks!).
So, by the end of my freshman year, I burned out on the whole perfectionist thing. I was dealing with my own eating disorder issues, academic burn-out, getting hurt by bad boys who broke my heart, and I had no clue about my real self-worth. To top this off, I realized that my desire to be rich was being lead by a fantasy. Hollywood and our culture had built up an illusion which had cost me a fortune in time and financial aid loans to be paid!
As a sophomore, I escaped to Australia to study abroad and heal my body and nervous system that couldn’t handle the late nights and academic stress (like many sensitive people). I spent time in nature, saw dolphins, exotic birds, danced in pubs with crazy Aussies, and studied as little as possible. Bliss became my new fulfillment, and I was determined to live a life of bliss rather than money.
From burnout to bliss to balance
It took me years of spiritual self-healing, and getting to know myself, many countries, many therapists, healers, nutritionists, etc. I got trained as a healer in a dozen different healing techniques and eventually got my PhD in transpersonal counseling because I became so passionate about healing. I opened up to the psychic world, to acupuncture, and energy medicine – it was amazing and held so many answers! But as a healer, I never made any money. I lost money paying for my healing credentials and couldn’t figure out how to make a living off of alternative healing and shamanism.
Not being able to pay rent wasn’t so blissful, and while it was fun using the Law of Attraction to not work hard and just receive abundance through meditation and prayer, it didn’t work well enough to take all the classes I wanted, pay for living expenses, and feel comfortable and safe. So I had to do something…
I started praying for money answers
Before I turned 30, I started using my intuition to heal my money codes. I became determined to blend shamanism and my old desire to become rich (or at least to become financially stable). Angel messages arrived: I was guided to learn about online marketing, got a few spiritual radio/YouTube interviews, and began making YouTube videos.
My intuition and the angels were always my guide, rather than obsessive hard work and logic. I met a few key people who taught me exactly what to do. My prayers were always answered, albeit in divine timing which can seem too late.
Just three years ago, I learned how to turn my passions and gifts into a healing BLI$$ness without being a perfectionist! Steadily I have grown, transformed, and healed my relationship to money and to fitting into a perfect mold.
Sharing my gifts is my BLI$$ today!
I am so excited to help other women through this healing journey of perfectionism, self-judgement, and hating themselves for being “the weaker sex” and trying to prove our worth all the time through sex, money, and beauty. So here I am writing to you, and I hope that you are able to realize that there is a difference between the desire for wealth from the ego space, and the divine desire to express and experience the abundance that you are. Abundance is your divine birthright.
Now, here is the first thing to do if you have always wanted to be rich!
The first thing is to ask yourself Why? Why do you want to be rich? Go wayyyy way back to your childhood. What was happening then that made you decide that you wanted to make money? For me for instance, my busy parents worked a lot and weren’t around, and I noticed that my rich friends often worked less hours and wouldn’t stay in after school as long as I would. So I associated money with the ability to spend time with family, which I hungered for. I also associated money with how cool and happy you were, because of the images on TV, in movies, and portrayed at school by other rich kids. I wanted the best pair of sneakers, vacations, and new toys like any other child. I associated money with love and affection. You probably do too!
Step two is to clear your money codes; remove the feelings of childhood lack
For instance, I associated money with love and affection, and there was never enough of it. I started associating money with a feeling of lack of love and affection. Money had abandoned me, mommy and daddy abandoned me to go to work from 7am-6pm. So I held the association that money is abandonment. In order to break free from my money blocks, I needed to unhook this old money program or BS (belief system) from my consciousness. So, once you identify your feelings of lack associated with money, you can remove them. Imagine whatever dark stuck energy is blocking your money flow from childhood as a gray energy. Then, disconnect this energy from your aura, from your bank account, from your wallet. See a smoky gray energy releasing to the heavens and replace the lack with a golden wave of light.
Next, replace the feelings of lack with feelings of abundance
Posit that this new golden energy represents what you want money to feel like for you. Do you want money to love you? Do you want money to bring you affection? Write a list of attributes you want your money to do for you. Hint, it’s the same list of “Why I want to be rich.”
Finally, take action!
Take action not only to make money, build your BLI$$ness, attract clients. Sure, there’s always that. But most importantly perhaps is to practice bringing in the new energy codes we have reset here from your childhood. So, you have always wanted to be rich, hey? Hopefully now you have taken a deeper look as to what that really means for you and what quality of life money will be bringing you.
Namaste,
Amanda
by Dr Amanda Noelle | Jun 21, 2014 | Twin Flame Signs, Twin Flame Spirituality, Uncategorized |
Call me Crazy! What’s Wrong with Being Crazy?
So one of my biggest fears has been to be perceived as a crazy woman. I’ve been called crazy by almost every man I have dated, and it’s my pet peeve. Call me crazy, but I don’t think I am the only woman alone in this matter. In fact, I believe that it’s a woman’s deepest hidden (or known) fear: to be a crazy woman. Yet after years of fearing that I was crazy, I finally embraced it, and the good news is that I think that there’s nothing crazy or bad about being crazy at all! In fact, since I have embraced my inner crazy woman and stopped being so embarrassed by hear out of control waves of emotion, energy, and passion, I realized that I’m more grounded, stable, and “normal” than ever. OK, maybe not on the outside all the time (like in my Burning Man pic above), but the energy within me feels calmer, tender, grounded, peaceful, and the waves of hormones are in balance too. I used to struggle from hormonal issues and waves of suicidal depression would hit me for a day or two each month before my period. I had chronic acne around my chin and was afraid of feeling my emotions because I thought I would go crazy.
My Crazy Meltdown
Before my 30th birthday I did something crazy that got me in trouble, got me arrested (it wasn’t as bad as Orange is the New Black), and I nearly lost my mind for a few months because of the stress, sleep deprivation, and trauma. But during that time I just let my feelings fly, not editing them, just feeling them. I got so sleep-deprived that one day I called a free suicide hotline at 6am because I could barely handle the dose of crazy that I was hitting; I was told by a therapist that I should go on anti-depressants. I thought about it, but it didn’t feel like a yes in my heart.
The Healing Medicine Was to Feel
So, instead, I just let myself go into the pain, cry, and cry. And cry and cry. And talk, with family, friends, therapists. Then weep some more. Talk to the trees if I needed to. Talk to my dog. And I erupted the feelings that were welled up within me since my childhood, and perhaps something deep, ancient, and primordial for the Divine Feminine. All I can say is that it was an intense Dark Night of the Soul. What happened is that it took me many months of healing, and a slow and steady journey of feeling into my healing over a period of a few years. But slowly I have realized that I am happier than I have ever been, and that my inner crazy isn’t crazy at all! It’s a huge gift of creative force energy that is passionate for life.
Women Are Crazy Walking Miracles
So call me crazy again, but aren’t woman by our nature kinda crazy? Isn’t it absolutely nuts that we can:
- Make tiny people out of one sperm in our wombs?
- Give birth to these people and raise them with our intuition?
- Drop an egg out of our ovaries every month, sometimes on the dot?
- Mirror the cycle of the moon in the sky (come on, a 28-day lunar cycle in your pants is pretty crazy)?
- Make milk out of thin air and deliver it out of our tatas?
- Have multiple orgasms?
Since my crazy dark night of the soul, I have created a life of crazy bad-ass miracles. I created a community of beautiful women who are following their passions. I have traveled the world, from Bali to Greece to Costa Rica. I have built a successful 6-figure BLI$$ness working 3-days per week. I have matched many women to their Twin Flames. I have given birth to Aphrodite University, the first online Divine Feminine-based university for High-Healed Priestess. So the next time you are afraid of being called crazy, or you label yourself as a crazy woman, why not think of crazy as an awesome word? Like wicked became wicked cool, or nigger became nigga’, or dyke became a term used in the LGBT community.
“Girl, you so crazy!!!!”
Well thank thank you, thank you very much. I do know that I am crazy sometimes, and in a good way. I love it, and I am proud. Redefining crazy is all that I needed. And the gods must be crazy too, because look at this place, it’s hilarious! Dr. Amanda Noelle is the Founder of Aphrodite University and she helps empower women to live their most crazy blissful dreams in real life.
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by Dr Amanda Noelle | May 30, 2014 | Uncategorized |
As a Twin Flame Matchmaker, I have found that there are so many women and men who get stuck in gloom and doom when it comes to attracting their soulmate or Twin Flame, and they stay stuck and single when they don’t have to! We are more powerful than we know, as we are reflections of our Creator (whatever you call this powerful force), so we can create what our heart desires!
This article will help you manifest your Twin Flame as fast as humanly possible, because I know when you want it you want it now…or yesterday! But trust me, Twin Flame manifestation can be ridiculously fast if you tune into the Field of Universal Creation and surrender to the forces that be! I have helped clients, fans, and friends manifest their Twin Flames in as little has a few days, and in one instance, within a few hours! It’s a pretty magical energy to witness and to see physicalized, especially when I get invited to the wedding and get to sip champagne smugly thinking about how great a matchmaker I am 🙂 I just love love and am proud to be a holder of the Aphrodite Touch!
What not to do? Get stuck in a pit of despair
Don’t despair if you’re feeling single and stuck today, as you really can’t predict what is going to happen tomorrow (or you can if you stay positive and make it happen!). Sometimes even the most desperate and despairing women come to me with only one last tiny shred of hope, and I get them to surrender to their ultimate Divine Love, a well within them, and we bust some blockages and POOF! It’s truly delightful to watch them U-turn around into their heart’s desires and manifest that magical partner they’ve been waiting for for…forever!
This article, How to Manifest Your Twin Flame Quickly will help you immensely if:
- You have been working on yourself for a long time to be the best you can be, and feel that you’re truly ready to attract your beloved
- You’re healthy, on an emotional, physical, financial, and spiritual level
- You’re certain that you’re on a Twin Flame path, not just a Karmic Soulmate path; you are here to meet the soulmate of soulmates, the one true Twin Flame
- Meeting and marrying your Twin Flame has been a huge calling for a long time, and it’s frustrating not to have him/her yet!
- You are fully devoted to self-improvement and spiritual growth, and your Twin Flame will be a partner who supports you to grow further and faster
- You have a big heart, and it’s overflowing – your love needs somewhere to go!
- You have a huge soul purpose and you want your Twin Flame to join you for the ride to enjoy co-creating your most magnificent life to make this world a better place
- You’re willing to throw your skepticism out the window for just a moment and will just shut up and listen to what this Twin Flame Matchmaker has to say!
Alright darling, let’s get down to BLI$$ness, and share the top secrets to helping you ring in the Twin Flame partner and fast. Disclaimer: some of these tips aren’t for the weak, so buckle up and hunker down and be strong… whatever you do, don’t give up on love! Now let’s get your Twin Flame groove on.
Tip #1: Get Happy Being YOU as a Single Gal or Guy
You complete yourself. Your Twin Flame partner will be able to smell you from a mile away, as we’re all energetically sensitive beings and we have fantastic instincts. The question to ask is: Would you want to be with you? If you’re unhappy in your life, he or she is going to sense that gloom, and it’s not going to be a turn on. Men are attracted to happy and fulfilled goddesses flowing with nectar, just like bees are attracted to the sweet perfumed nectar of a flower.
To avoid: the Single Woman’s Vicious Cycle
What I see commonly in my clients is what I call the ‘Single Woman’s Vicious Cycle’ where you start getting lonely, and loneliness breeds depression, gloom, and hopelessness. Then you start dating the wrong people, lowering the bar and feeling desperate, feeling sorry for yourself, and doing silly things like staying in on Friday night with Ben and Jerry’s instead of following your heart’s deepest desires! You might even gain a a few pounds in the process and use that as an excuse not to be dating at the moment. Girl, you gotta get off the couch, stop feeling sorry for yourself, and do whatever you can to get happy and excited, there is a great guy or gal waiting out there and s/he’s reserved for YOU!
Let me clarify that I am not saying that you have to be happy with being single forever; I am just saying that a happy girl will attract more happiness and at the divinely perfect moment, a happy partnership. So do whatever it takes to be happy: join activities, social groups, exciting organizations that get your energy running fast. Choose to stay positive! Get your life moving in the fast lane….Work that body and get a good sweat on with daily workouts with a few breaks a week. Listen to music that pumps you up – you know, those sexy songs that make you wanna go look in the mirror and dance and check yourself out. You gotta start to feel like the bell of the ball in your own universe, and this will make the others’ heads turn and hearts beat in your rhythm.
To manifest your Twin Flame, really dive deep into celebrating life! It’s short anyways, and the sooner you get into the positive vibration, you will bring in a partner who reflects this love for life! Do you want to attract someone who is stuck and lonely? So don’t be stuck and lonely, get out there, have fun doing whatever weird hobbies suit you and be in a bliss vibration. You might not attract a partner at your 80s night girls night, but you will be covered in rainbow bliss vibes that he’ll pick up on the next day in the cafe.
You will always attract the perfect reflection of you or what you need to work on – why not magnetize a happy reflection!
TAKE ACTION: BLI$$ HOMEWORK ASSIGNMENT
To get happy and excited, I really recommend becoming a manifestations collaging nerd. Go gather magazines and play music that gets you juicy and ready to birth your dream. Then start collaging the relationship and life that you’re ready to be leading, and feel yourself manifesting it into 3D as you put together your creation down. Think of it as a BLI$$ness plan for your love life! Vivid pictures will implant subconscious messages in your mind. Don’t worry if this sounds abstract or weird, I have lots of clients who question the assignment but swear by it afterward when what they’ve collaged shows up in their life.
Tip # 2 Declutter Your Past
The past is what holds our icky relationship limitation stuff. You gotta take out the trash! Though the past serves us as a teacher, teaching us what we want and what we don’t, the past is also where I see people holding onto old blockages that slow down the Twin Flame manifestation. Remember that there is nothing but the now, and you want to get a high vibrating happy life now! It’s time to create a new canvas by letting go of old childhood pain, things that represent awkward times in your life, sad times, and past relationships. Keep the gems of these experiences, but let go of anything that does not serve you now.
Decluttering time! Why keep around all those old FB pics of exes, or the scarf from the Amalfi Coast he gifted you on your birthday (I know it’s cute but get rid of it already!) when it just reminds you of the sad breakup afterward? Go and release anything that represents struggle, relationship strife, or any old attachment to someone that will compete or inhibit your Twin Flame relationship from coming in. Think of everything…you might even want to let go of that expired last name from your ex husband!
Go through all aspects of your life: declutter each of the rooms in your home, let go of anything not working for you in your current friendships, reevaluate your career, upgrade your lingerie collection, and go through all your clothes. Release anything that’s not an 7 out of 10 or more in your life! Let go of anything that doesn’t fit you like a glove for the absolutely joyful and magnificent Twin Flame relationship you’re calling in. It’s time to create your life your way, a portal of bliss. Lots of women prepare for their Twin Flames by becoming man-pleasers, but they only end up in men who expect them to do one thing: please them! Design a life of pleasure surrounding you that pleases you first, and you will have a very happy man like a bee buzzing around your flower in BLI$$!
Tip #3 Radical Self-Acceptance
I know that this tip seems like it’s going to contradict the ones above, but that’s the beauty of radical self-acceptance! You are perfect the way you are! This one is such a fun paradox. The reality is, when you meet and marry your Twin Flame, you will be married to each others’ imperfections for life (we hope!) and this means that you’re going to have to learn how to accept yourself first. Sure it’s nice to try to be a happy superhuman all the time, and it’s a fun game to see how much you can grow and become a super goddess. Yet you are simply a human! And we get things like bad breath, bad credit, and bad kinky thoughts. So what!? So does every other living breathing thing, and the sooner we accept this, the sooner we can move forward and celebrate.
Which of the three tips is the most important? I’d say the latter…What do you think? Please post your comments below and let me know what other tips you have to share.
by Dr Amanda Noelle | May 20, 2014 | Uncategorized |
When we lose a love in our life – someone or something we really loved – is it ever possible to fully recover from the loss? And what can you do to move on? Love is something we create; but when we lose a love it can make us crazy. We hurt so badly, going “Where did the love go?!”
In this post, I will address the fastest way to turn lemons into lemonade, and how to turn loss into love.
This week I personally suffered a devastating loss. As some of you may have noticed or heard, my YouTube account, AphrodisiacTV, was mistakenly deleted by a communication misunderstanding with Google Apps tech support. The support staff agent didn’t know what she was doing, and wasn’t clear about what I was asking for, and in trying to help me, she walked me
through the process of permanently deleting my Google Plus account which erases everything on your YouTube as well (since Google now owns YouTube). Just days before, I had been celebrating my YouTube channel success with my friend and BLI$$ness Producer, Melissa Waldron. It was a dream to have a successful YouTube channel, and I had worked through so many self-confidence battles to take it to where it was in just 3 short years. I’d uploaded over 300 videos, accumulated over a quarter million views, and reached a couple thousand subscribers. My YouTube channel is indeed how I have met so many of you cool people, attracted my Soulmate Clients, helped people attract their Twin Flames, and build my 6-figure BLI$$ness out of nothing but love and $200! A few hours later after talking with Melissa, I went back to my channel, and it was gone. Vanished. Caput. All I saw a message that my account was closed. My heart fell into my stomach. Earlier that day, I’d also received several compliments from fans saying that my videos had changed their lives personally in significant ways. It was so touching to hear how I’d inspired one woman to go for her dreams to and another to attract her Twin Flame. When at midnight all I could stare at was a black screen that said “This account is closed,” I wondered what the h$ll God was thinking! I spent hours researching why this had happened and how to remedy the problem. I spent hours researching why this had happened and how to remedy the problem. I’d done nothing wrong: it was clearly a mistake of Google’s staff not being trained in YouTube support yet they don’t even have a YouTube support line. I spent a few days in confusion, anger, denial, desperation, and also a vague feeling of hope. I felt helpless, like someone who had been dumped, thrown aside, abandoned. It is heartbreaking to realize that 300 videos that had taken hours to make, edit, and release, were never going to be seen again. I had put my heart, soul, and best information into those videos with just a broken link to show for it.
Death is part of life
Isn’t this just like a breakup? Where you demolish an outmoded structure that was once held by passion, where these sacred exchanges that taught you so much just fall by the wayside. And then one day, it’s all just gone, and you have to trust that something better will come along when you’re still on the floor plucking shards of glass from your bleeding knees. The worst moments in my life have been when he (some guy I pined after for days/months/years) leaves you or you leave him, or you mutually and lovingly decide to go separate ways, and you don’t have the next lily pad to hop onto. Instead, you’re floating around in the swamp muck with no clue as to when the next lotus blossom will bloom. It makes you question what the heck God is doing, and if there is a god at all. And it makes me really wonder if my Higher Self is an angel sniffing crack.
It just, hurts to know that we have to suffer and lose and go through pain.
No matter how spiritual you are, no matter how capable you are of making separations and tuning into Divine Love, it still hurts, at least for a little while. We are in that place of pain that happens before a rebirth. Yet behind the scenes, I knew everything was happening for reason! When I first saw the deleted channel, although there was lots of panicky thoughts racing through my mind, my Divine Mind said loudly and clearly, “This is happening because there’s something bigger that needs to come through, and this channel needs to be deleted to clear the path.” I always trust my guidance now, because I have learned that She is here to teach me. I have to listen now. After much experience, I now know that there is a deeper meaning for everything that happens, including every death, loss, breakup, and tragic event. I have been at the brunt of several, and I have undoubtedly seen the greater purpose of each one, once the event has passed. This is called graduating to the next level in the School of Life. It doesn’t mean that it’s easy to see or trust it, especially when it’s happening! But I have gotten enough practice from Spirit to know that it’s better to sit back, relax, and tune into the ‘blesson’ – the lesson + blessing – that is coming through to teach me where to go.
How to get though a disheartening loss
So what do you do when you go through a disheartening loss and you haven’t seen the deeper purpose in it yet? First, here’s what not to do, the mistakes. Here’s how most of us react out of our ego fear space:
- We see a disaster as a punishment from God, rather than as a lesson from our Higher Self
- We get stuck in the moment and see it as the dreary end, rather than as a new beginning
- We interpret our physical circumstances as the only circumstances; we ignore the metaphysical meaning that has the bigger blesson
- We apply false meaning to a situation, either consciously or subconsciously: i.e. “He left me because I am not good enough” or more insidious subconscious thoughts like: “My YouTube channel closed because I am too mystical for the world to appreciate me”
- Loss is happening to me because I am unlovable, not good enough, too feminine, weird, etc.
- We think, “Here we go again, I am being abandoned again! See, what’s the point of loving if I get left every time?!”
All kinds of dark subconscious and conscious thoughts ooze out of us that aren’t very nice. But isn’t it nice to know what we’re actually thinking about ourselves? If things were always peaching on the outside, we’d never know how we actually felt about ourselves on the inside. If you can go through a major loss, trauma, or hardship and come through stronger, you know that you really love yourself and feel worthy of healing. If you let the situation destroy you or become an excuse for failure or living life from fear, it means that there are a lot more lessons to learn! And the Universe will certainly bring them to you. Over, and over, and over again until you figure out the core of your belief systems, the BS, so you can remedy them. Here are my top tips to help you get through loss and death, breakups etc very quickly:
- See death as your teacher
- Do a loss/death ceremony
- Allow yourself time to hurt, grieve, and heal
- Talk to a counselor, coach, friend, or shaman
- Try to find the real reason this is happening by asking what energies are being purged, and which energies are you ready to call in?
- Be willing to let something greater show up, and don’t feel guilty or bad about this.
My answer is that no, you will never truly be the same person that you were before the love and before the loss. You are permanently changed, but you will soon realize that you are stronger, more capable to love, and of being loved. The sandstorm will die down and you will see the foundation of your heart has only grown more rooted with branches are open wide. I have seen my clients turn heartache and tragedy quickly into a healthy dose of self-love and divine trust which transforms into their Twin Flame relationship. I have also witnessed and have been someone who has dwelled on the past and have used that time to recalibrate who I am and figure out why I am here. My painful losses have been the medicine that has allowed me to love fully and deeply in my relationships, career, community, etc.
By hitting bottom, we know how deep we truly are!
There are no right or wrongs. If you get over the heartbreak in a day or a decade, know that as long as you keep going you are growing towards the light. You will eventually mend your heart and when you are ready, you will birth a new body of love again in a different form. It is always the same essence recycled though: Divine Universal Love! Everything is made up of that, in different configurations based on your current desires and need for conscious growth. The Universe always guides you in perfect timing. When the ground disappears underneath you and you drop, surrender, and perhaps enjoy the ride. My former YouTube channel is no longer, but I will build something even better. I am inspired now more than ever before to:
- Rebuild a higher end consciousness-meets-mainstream channel
- Write a book Twin Flame Ignited: Your Sacred Path to the Beloved
- Create a Twin Flame Love retreat and community on Crete!
Guess what happened within 24 hours of the death of my channel? A huge TV production company I had interviewed with offered me a gig on a reality TV show where I will be a Twin Flame Matchmaker! I am so psyched – I feel it’s time to bring Twin Flame relationships into the spotlight. I also got interviewed on Kara Maria Ananda’s Divina Radio Show on Twin Flames, which was life altering (her story melted my heart!). Before closing, in order to help us get through a death or loss, I suggest using these two simple questions:
- What is the real meaning behind why this is happening? And;
- Which energies are you now ready to call in with the space you’re creating via the loss?
Thanks for reading, let us know what your tools or tips are, and what you think in the comment box below. Namaste!
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by Dr Amanda Noelle | Apr 9, 2014 | Uncategorized |
I used to think that I was a freak because I was always distracted, running late to appointments, getting lost in my own world, and doing 7 things at once that contradicted each other (like burning the rice on the stove while putting something really important on hold). The worst was getting yelled at by teachers, bosses, or coaches when I was young for not paying attention. If only they knew how hard it was for me to pay attention!
For me, paying attention was like trying to glue something heavy to a wall using cream cheese; unless I found something truly captivating, my mind would fly off into space. Once a subject lost my attention, my mind would swim off into another world. My first grade teacher would yell at me for being a day dreamer because I would daze out the window thinking about fairies (and I actually still believe that there were some, silly old man!). But the fairies were so much more exciting than listening to him talk about the capital in Turkey or how to do time tables.
My world is like living in a dream, where you don’t know which world is awake, and which world is asleep. To you “normal people,” if you lived in my world, you’d probably have more compassion for me too.
I was 17 when I was diagnosed with my learning disability. It was embarrassing to admit to my friends and family that my brain was some how less able. I envied the other smart kids’ who got the answer right on the first try or who could read quickly while taking reading comprehension tests without getting distracted. Reading comprehension was the worst! I still shudder to this day thinking about it.
But getting diagnosed my senior year in high school was actually a huge relief and a Godsend. After getting tested, I was told that I had a slight learning disability categorized as a “tracking disorder,” which was supposed to make things for me nearly impossible to do without writing things down and finding alternative ways of learning. The biggest gift at the time was that it allowed me to take my SATs or ACTs with extra time, which raised the scores dramatically, obviously. For a long time I felt guilty and that I didn’t belong to Duke University, my alma matter, because I felt I’d cheated on the test.
Now I realize that my life is so successful because I have learned to pretty much constantly cheat on everything, and that I have always had to do this. Because if I don’t do things my own way, I get bored, distracted, and my brain launches into space.
Fear and anxiety also trigger my learning disability, which make me make all kinds of silly mistakes, and sometimes I even get slurry in my speech, distracted, over excited, and making sense becomes a big challenge. You can notice this in some of my YouTube videos.
I am the fairy of BLI$$! I am learning BLI$$-abled!
Today what I love most about myself is that I call my learning disability a learning BLI$$ability, because I have had to learn how to learn in a new way, and it becomes fun and even blissful. To make money, I had to find work that was interesting. Because again, boredom for me makes it impossible for me to stay focussed. And, I couldn’t take a lot of high-stress detail oriented jobs, which is why for my entire 20s I was only making a 4-figure salary, struggling to pay rent (or not, and living with my parents!).
Sure it was hard to have a bigger brother who went to Brown and Princeton and a top MBA program in Spain without needing extra time on his SAT, GRE, or GMATs. But I have learned to be proud of my way, who I am, and my BLI$$ability. Further, my hatred of standard learning has inspired me to teach women how to study, earn and learn blissfully at my online university for High-Healed Priestesses called Aphrodite University.
If you have a learning BLI$$ability, know that all of your dreams can come true, and that your limitations are actually a gift. You do have to be creative, and to think of cheating as part of the game! There is no need to force yourself into a box when you can roam free and shake the world up, and have a lot of fun along the way. Maybe you’re not even meant to be an academic. For years I worked as a licensed esthetician and it was nice to take a brain break and just massage skin cream into people’s faces and talk about their ideal boyfriend or what their kids were doing. Just because you aren’t a doctor, lawyer, biz exec, etc., doesn’t mean that you are better or worse than anyone. Just be you, and know it’s enough. That you are Divine Love incarnate, and that’s pretty great!
The main thing is to love yourself where you are at, and to let go of perfectionism and expectations. You can have it all, even if you have a diagnosed (or undiagnosed) learning BLI$$ability. Here is a video on healing perfectionism that might inspire you further:
www.AphroditeUniversity.org
